One thing that never ceases to amaze me is how fast time flies and how much life changes. I will think of a memory, or see a picture from years ago and wonder how in the world that much time has passed when it felt like yesterday. We are constantly changing, life is constantly changing. In a way change is comforting and in a way it is not. There is not much stability in life, we must learn to adapt to new surroundings, people, and ways of life because as the saying goes, the only constant in life is change.
Be in the present. We get so excited thinking and planning for the future, or we get so sad that we reminisce and dwell on the past, that most of us forget the most important thing and the key to happiness, which is to live every day to its fullest and take each day of life as it comes.
Yes, we should think of past memories and yes we should plan and be happy about the future, but most importantly, take in what is around you now because life changes all the time and at any time!
Each of us is so different and unique and the views and opinions that we have about the world could be compared to night and day. Sometimes we find similarities in people and other times we can’t see eye to eye and that’s okay. We have all grown up differently and we have had different life experiences, so our views and opinions on certain things in life are going to be vastly different.
As hard as it may be, it is important to keep and open mind when trying to help others through a difficult time, even if what they are going through is not necessarily something that you and them see eye to eye about. Loved ones support each other no matter what, this doesn’t mean that you have to agree with it, but it’s important to not judge others. Only you know what’s best for you and only they know what is truly best for them.
I am a very strong-minded person and I have certain views that I don’t take lightly. I have learned to set aside my own strong feelings and views when trying to help someone who sees things the opposite as I do. I try to remove my feelings from the situation and look at how and why this person could be feeling the way they do. It’s no easy task, but an important one because when I need support from my loved ones, I’m happy when others easily support me even if they may not agree with my decisions or thoughts. Remember, you are supporting the person, not necessarily the decision the person has made etc. Wishing you a beautiful week and thank you for reading!
“What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it’s supposed to be.” – Jeremy Binns. This quote has always spoke so much to me. We have this vision in our heads that life should fall perfectly together and always have a fairytale ending. Yes, most things in life do tend to work out for the good in the end, but how we get there is usually less than perfect.
Ever since we were younger, we have had this image of what we thought, or wanted life to be like. We may have pictured graduating, then college, marriage, then kids. Whatever we invisioned for our future we thought we would easily have. When our life doesn’t take the path we had thought, or hoped, we then become anxious, sad, worried, so many emotions rush over us. The truth is, there is no perfect life, because nothing and no one in life is perfect. What is the ideal life for one, is not the ideal life for another.
We can have goals and dreams and hopes for our future, but when we expect life to go down a very rigid path with no bumps or detours, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. As hard as it is, go with the flow, see where life takes you. We are all living life in our own way, the best way that we know possible. Have compassion, have hope, and love one another.
Recall a time where you felt defeated, cheated, lost, recall when you felt like giving up, when your all wasn’t enough, recall when you had so many thoughts and emotions that you didn’t know how to let go of. Anger and frustration are perhaps one of the most uncomfortable feelings we can encounter. Anger takes a lot of work to get rid of.
So, what causes anger? Many things do, pent up feelings, being disrespected, feeling cheated, treated unfairly, it’s a difficult emotion to process, but fortunately there are ways to help reduce the feeling. A lot of how we feel has to do with how we approach, or view a certain situation. We’ve heard mind over matter, what we think is critical. If we can try to set aside our anger, we can look at the situation more logically with a clear mind. Anger is a painful emotion to hold onto, we will feel much more at peace if we can remove it from our hearts.