Determination vs. Obsession

Ever had a goal that you absolutely had to reach, or an idea that you just were compelled to make happen? Life gives us many opportunities and allows us to go after whatever our hearts desire.

Some people are more laid back and work towards what they want at a slower and more carefree pace and others are strongly determined from the beginning and won’t stop until they have what they sought after. I am one of those people. Sometimes I focus so much on what I want that I expend all my energy until I have it.

Determination after a while can start to feel almost like an obsession. We live and breathe our desire and at some point it may be all we can think of and focus on. Our minds can really run away on us and we can lose ourselves. We must remember to keep control over ourselves and not let our minds run wild and become so wrapped up in our desires!

Dancing in the Future

There is a quote by Bil Keane “Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future, but today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present.” For most of our lives, we have been told to live in the present and not focus too much on the past, or future, just live in the moment and enjoy what is in front of us right now. As hard as this is, it really is important in life.

For me personally, especially lately, I have found myself focused more on the future, sometimes the past, and not so much the present. Ideally I would love to change that. How can we enjoy life and live in the moment if we are stuck somewhere else? I think about the past a lot because I enjoy recalling those memories, or wonder how things could have been if I had done things differently, I think about the future because I am excited about what’s to come and curious how things will unfold, yet what I really should focus on is the here and now.

It is great to have goals and great to look to the future and make plans, yet we need to remember the present moment and enjoy all that it has to offer. We can make plans for the future and dream of the kind of life we want, yet things are ever-changing. There’s no harm in dancing in the future, just remember to come back and enjoy today!

Inside the Mind of a Blogger

I recently came across an amazing quote that I found to be so true. “A writer is a world trapped in a person.” – Victor Hugo. This quote really spoke to me, it describes me as a blogger. This side of me, my writing side, goes very deep and is often a side of me solely expressed through writing.

I have loved writing since I was very young. I sometimes had trouble coming up with what to write about in school, but once I came up with a certain topic and got started, there was no stopping me! I loved the feeling of putting pen to paper and just letting my thoughts flow. I was in my element and felt so free. I still feel the very same today, maybe even more so. Writing to me is incredibly therapeutic and is an amazing form of expression.

When I write, whether it be pen to paper, or on my laptop, I really do feel like I am in another world and also that I have a whole nother world to express. Each and every topic that I choose to write about has great importance to me. There is so much that I feel I have to say and so much desire to share with the world in hopes to help someone find happiness, motivation, peace, hope, inspiration, being able to relate. I’m curious how other bloggers feel about this quote, does it also apply to you?

Expectations

It’s natural to have expectations in life and with the people that we know and love, especially if life and our loved ones usually treat us a certain way. It’s not an easy thing to do, but over the years I have begun to expect less and it really does take some stress out of life!

It is always good to have hope and to hold onto hope, but to expect things, or people to turn out a certain way can many times lead to disappointment. I have learned over the years to go with the flow and take things as they are. Life will unfold as it should and when we just go along for the ride without expecting too much, it can prevent a lot of heartache. It also doubles the joy when something surprises us, or goes according to plan!

Sometimes we expect too much from other people. We expect them to care for us, to fix us, to show us an abundance of love. Everyone shows love in their own way and we could become hurt if we expect them to act in the way we do, or how we would like them to. If we do things for others without expecting anything in return and if we go about looking at life less rigidly, we can create so much more happiness for ourselves!

You Don’t Know

“If you haven’t walked in someone else’s shoes, it’s difficult to know the fit, so be kind and compassionate.” – Heather Wolf. This quote is so true and although I always try my best to be kind and compassionate and I am a very empathetic person, it is truly not possible to know exactly how a person feels until you have been in their shoes.

Earlier this year one of my friends was in a situation and she was describing what it felt like to be in that situation and how she reacted etc. I listened and empathized with her, she explained her feelings and at that time I remember being compassionate towards her, yet not understanding exactly how or why she felt that way. Everyone is different and responds to situations differently, I listened and supported her. After our conversation I found myself pondering how I would react and feel if I were in the same situation. It was not even close to how she felt, yet ironically a few months later I found myself in the same exact situation as her with the same exact feelings as she had described!

The takeaway from this post is that we cannot possibly know what it feels like to be in a situation if we are not actually in it. We can guess and think of how we would feel, but it is not possible to know until then. I was shocked that I reacted completely different than what I had imagined that I would. I am a very open-minded and non-judgmental person, yet this was very eye-opening for me!