Going with the Flow

I have a little pocket calendar that I use to keep track of important dates, events, appointments, etc.  I look at it often to see what is going on for the week, I don’t typically rely on a calendar so much, but during these times with so many changes and things going on, I can’t keep my mind straight!  What has surprised me, especially in the last few months, is how many changes I have made to my calendar…this led me to write about an important topic.

Over the last few months ever since the Covid-19 pandemic broke out, I have found myself erasing many plans out of my pocket calendar, not only that, I have found myself needing to add unexpected events to my calendar as well.  This happens of course in general, because life is ever-changing, however even more so in the last several months.  I think we all realize how much life changes, but having the “proof” right there in front of you is very eye-opening.

I have always been the kind of person that loves to have a routine and to have things planned out.  I know that some people are very go with the flow and they like adventure and spontaneity, and while I enjoy these things occasionally, if I don’t have a stable routine and plans laid out, I become very unsettled and anxious.

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One thing that I have learned is that we can plan all we want, but life is going to unfold as it should regardless of the plans that we make.  Life can change for us in a matter of seconds, hours, days, it is always evolving and although we have control over many aspects of our lives, we don’t for others.  I suppose this constant change makes life interesting, keeps us on our toes, and helps us grow as a human being.

One thing for sure, one good and very helpful quality to have is being able to just take it easy and go with the flow.  When things don’t work out as planned, I still tend to get anxious and disappointed by it, but I am learning to be more patient and to remind myself that if something does, or does not happen, that it was just meant to be that way.  It’s not easy, but try just going with the flow and see how that can bring peace to your life.

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Rose-Colored Glasses

Recall the phrase “to see things through rose-colored glasses.” This positive look to life is not always to our benefit as ironic as it sounds. The phrase itself means to view, or to see life positively, seeing the good, being optimistic, being more carefree. While it is an excellent way of going through life, there needs to be a balance of seeing the good vs. seeing the full picture.

For most of my adult life, I have been more of the glass half-full, positive, happy, optimistic kind of girl. Of course depending on what life throws at me, I will definitely have my days, but overall I tend to remain mostly positive. In terms of this phrase, I do tend to see life and the people in it through “rose-colored glasses”. I can tell you firsthand that although most of the time this is a great approach in life, it has caused quite a few problems as well.

I am a firm believer in being positive and looking on the bright side of things and while this is in my nature, it is also self-taught, and was instilled in me at a young age. I feel like when I encounter situations, or people in life, I view them as seeing the good by fault. Of course, I realize that not all situations are good and neither are all people, but it is in my nature to hone in on the good so much that I tend to cover up the bad. This is something that I would like to change, so that I can develop more of a sense of what is real and genuine vs. only seeing the good. I feel like you can’t really go wrong with looking for the positives in certain situations, except maybe when you allow yourself to stay in a bad situation because you are only looking at the pluses. Where I feel this would really help me is when dealing with other people.

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When I first meet someone and start to get to know them, I of course see both the good and human sides to them, no one is perfect, or without flaws, however I tend to just focus on their good traits, so much so that I may let that overshadow signs that they may not be a loyal or genuine person. It’s almost like me telling myself “This person has been there for me in the past and just because they are doing x, y, and z now, doesn’t mean that they are not genuine.” It’s like I see signs, but I try to focus only on the good that person has done for me and that is sometimes a mistake.

My hope is to be able to see people for who they really are, good and bad, not only just focusing on the good. There have been signs thrown at me here and there, yet I tend to choose to counteract it, sometimes I even negate it. One day at a time and one lesson at a time, I will work on it. It’s wonderful to view life with rose-colored glasses, but make sure to take them off once in a while!

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The Perfect Life

I’m sure for a lot of us, we have had an image or idea of the kind of life plan, or life path that we wanted to take.  For some of us, we have had an idea of the “perfect life” since we were children.  Maybe we dreamed of going to college, getting married, then having children, or maybe our goal was to graduate high school, become an entrepreneur, and explore the world.  Whatever your ideal life had looked like, I am sure that it is somewhat quite different than you had envisioned.

I think with anything in life, we have some sort of idea of how we want, or expect things to play out.  We have this vision of what would happen if we could perfectly lay out the foundation of our own lives.  I know with my own life personally, I had a vision of my “perfect” life and what I had hoped would happen this far.  Overall, I have achieved many things that I wanted, however the way in which I obtained them, or the order in which they occurred in my life was nothing like I ever expected.  Like many, I have had some tremendous hurdles, road blocks, and detours in life.  If someone would have sat me down and told me all that was going to happen in my life, I probably wouldn’t have believed them. Life rarely turns out like we expect it to and I think sometimes we get so set on how life should be that it really catches us off guard when life does not go as planned.

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Life takes us down some very unexpected paths.  We have this vision of how we want life to unfold and in reality, our lives are nowhere near this dream or ideal life.  Nothing and no one is perfect.  While it’s excellent to have goals, visions, and plans, we must also be cautious enough to not bank so much on certain things in the event that they do not play out, or do not play out as we expected. We can make plans, but we are not in full control of what happens to us.

I am thankful for the good and the bad in life and although I may not understand why some things happened the way they did, or why certain things have not come into my life, I am blessed for what I do have and excited for what will come in the future.  There is beauty in not knowing, there is beauty in the strength that comes from challenges and struggles.  There is no such thing as a perfect life, but our life is special and has a purpose even if it doesn’t turn out the way we had expected it to, it’s still a very beautiful gift.

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Krazy Karma

Karma is a word that we have used and seen often. In my opinion, most people are a believer of karma on some type of level. I’ve heard the word being used by both adults and children and I have actually been a big believer in karma since I was a little girl. Karma has brought me motivation, strength, and peace in life.

So, what is karma? It is the belief that your actions, both good and bad will come back to you in some way at some point. Karma is an energy that we put out into the world that finds its way back to us. It is the belief that if we do good for this world and it’s people, that good will come back to us in return. On the flipside, if we purposely do harm to others, that will negatively impact us in the future. Karma is not always instantaneous, energy can come back to us within days, weeks, months, even years. I don’t do good only just to have it come back to me, for me it’s about having peace in my heart and mind, knowing that I did the right thing, that is what makes me feel good about doing good for the world and for others. It brings me great joy.

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I was quite a mischievous child, I was interested in everything and loved to laugh and play jokes on people. I remember several instances where I was innocently joking around and teasing my sister or friends and seconds later I ended up stubbing my toe, or falling out of my chair, then we would all joke and say that it was karma. As silly as this example is, this interestingly shows that children are capable of understanding right from wrong and are able to comprehend that good behavior is rewarded and acting up has consequences.

As adults, the idea of karma is a lot more complex. I think most of the time people try their best at treating others with compassion and kindness. Things happen, we are only human, we make mistakes and sometimes not the greatest decisions in life, but we learn from them and we become stronger. I am also human, I try very hard every day to think before I act and to do what is right. I treat people with kindness and respect. I think for many people, they are highly aware of their actions and what they might lead to.

The concept of karma has brought me a lot of peace in my life. For those that have done me wrong, it helps me not to lash out, but to let life and karma unfold instead. This doesn’t mean that I don’t stick up for myself, I very much do, it just means that after doing so, I can let it be and let life take over. Knowing that what goes around comes around keeps me strong. When life gets tough, I try to stay encouraged to do good and do right knowing that in the end of the darkest tunnel is the most beautiful light. No matter how difficult things get, I encourage you all to continue to do good in this world. The world will thank you one day when you least expect it.

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Guided by Intuition

Recall that little voice inside that sometimes “speaks” when you don’t want it to, or is too quiet when you wish it would help you decide?  That is your gut instinct, your intuition and it serves a great purpose in life.  I believe that we all have a gut instinct that helps us subconsciously navigate through life, a little voice that pops up here and there when we are faced with a dilemma, are pondering a question, or trying to find our life path.

The evidence of our gut instincts can be seen during our daily lives.  Ever meet someone new and knew that you would become instant friends? Maybe the opposite, something told you to keep your distance from someone?  Have you been at school taking a test, read the question, had no idea of the answer, yet you got it right?  Have you had to choose between which job to take and later found out that you made the best decision of your life?  Have you had to decide whether to do something now, or postpone it and you chose the perfect time?  Though these examples could be due to coincidence, much of the time they are aided by the help of our subconscious.

So many times when we have to think or choose in life we unknowingly let our anxiety, fears, past experiences, or overthinking get in the way.  Our true thought process is tainted by these and therefore we may not clearly be able to see the best idea or option.  So, what is a good way to let your gut instinct guide you instead of your mind?  Often it is the very first, almost instant response that you feel.  For example, if you are choosing between taking Job A and Job B, ask yourself “Is Job A or Job B a better fit for me?” Without deliberately thinking or pondering the subject, notice which one comes to mind first, which one feels more right.  First instincts and thoughts are usually the most correct.

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Some individuals like myself have an even deeper inner voice known as intuition.  I believe every person has it, some just have a deeper sense of it.  This almost borders on psychic ability, as someone who is highly intuitive can often predict things before they happen.  Intuition is a gift that can be developed and grown.  I often try to develop my own by trying to feel how certain events will play out etc.  My beloved grandmother was very intuitive, even more than I am.  She could foresee many things before they happened and she often knew things going on before they were said.  I believe that I got my own ability partly from her.  My grandmother always told me that the older I got the stronger my intuition would be and so far she has been right.  God Bless her soul.  I miss her terribly. 

The next time that you are faced with a difficult situation, a dilemma, wondering which path to choose, curious if someone new is worthy of your time, try to see if what instantly comes to mind without truly thinking about it helps you in any way.  If you would like to share a story below of how your gut instinct or intuition has led you, I would love to read them!

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