Truly Love Yourself

I’ve always heard that you have to love yourself before you can truly love someone else. To be honest, I never really believed that until recently. I always thought that I have plenty of love to give, why couldn’t I possibly love someone completely without 100% loving myself first? I have started to realize why.

We are our own worst critics, possibly because we know ourselves as no one else does, also we know all of our faults and our past. I’m sure that many of you have been given a compliment from someone and you appreciated it so much, yet you didn’t believe it to be true. Maybe you were told that you are a good communicator, that you are attractive, smart, and funny. It was great to hear a sincere compliment from someone, but you didn’t feel it inside and that took some of the joy away from those wonderful words. We are putting distance between ourselves and those that we love when we don’t truly love and have confidence in ourselves.

The act of loving oneself is not saying that you love yourself and your qualities 100% of the time. We all have things that we do not like about ourselves, however, the art of loving yourself comes down to forgiving yourself, being at peace with your past, having confidence in who you are and what you stand for, and truly being able to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are proud and happy of who you have become.

When we love ourselves wholly, it opens up a brand new world for us to find, we are then able to sincerely love someone else as we can finally share pieces of ourselves that we may have hidden before accepting ourselves.
For those of you that love yourself unconditionally, I am very proud of you for reaching this level of confidence and peace. For those of you that have yet to reach this, I have faith that you will get there and I understand because I have been in your place, sometimes I still find myself there, but I can bring myself back.

The biggest step that I feel has been the most helpful in my life is negating every destructive thought with something positive, or at the very least, neutral. For example, if you are working on a challenging project at work and you are ready to give up, instead of telling yourself “I can’t do this, I am always a failure,” negate that thought to tell yourself that you acknowledge that the project is difficult, but you are trying your best and giving it your all. If you feel that you are not good at relationships you might feel that it’s all your fault and that no one loves you. Instead of this approach, negate that thought to tell yourself that you will work hard on communicating your feelings and that sometimes people are not always compatible.

Start working on all aspects of yourself until you are happy and can confidently say that you love yourself. Once you have mastered loving yourself, the whole world opens up to you and it is then that you will truly be ready to love someone else with your entire heart and soul. Get out a journal, or a piece of paper and write down all of the things that you love about yourself and the things that you are grateful for, you will find out what a mood booster this is!

A Message

Life will take you down many different paths. Things will be thrown at you that make you question yourself and the world and people around you, but make a promise to yourself that you will always strive every day to make life exactly the way you want it to be. Go through the motions of life and know that you are exactly where you need to be at this time.

Finding Inspiration

If you take a look around you, there are so many things that can spark inspiration and motivation in our everyday lives.  Other individuals and the situations that we encounter in life all have ways of making an impact on us if we choose to let them.

The word inspiration means to be compelled or motivated to do something and the source of our inspiration can literally come from anywhere and anyone.  Inspiration is an idea that sparks something within us and encourages us to act.  Sometimes I actually seek inspiration and other times it just occurs naturally, in fact most of the time it’s the latter.

One of my biggest goals in life is to continuously strive to be the best possible version of myself that I can be.  I am always striving for growth and to change and/or break habits and ways that no longer serve me.  Constantly trying to better myself has brought me peace and has created a better balance and sense of harmony in my life.  There are definitely days that I don’t feel as inspired, but somewhere down the line, something always sparks it again.

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When I encounter a rough situation, or hurdle, I try to see how I can learn from it, what meaning that particular situation has for my life.  Though difficult, I try to ask myself what is this challenging time trying to tell me?  What am I to learn from this?  Maybe I was to learn patience, acceptance, boundaries, whatever it may be, it inspires me to want to be and do better.  Unfortunate circumstances can really bring someone down, it’s definitely happened to me before and still does, but I know how powerful the mind is…mind over matter.

Some of you may notice that when I blog, I tend to not put too much personal information into my work.  When you read a blog post of mine, you will see some personal reference here and there, but overall I speak towards the general public.  What may come as a surprise is that every single one of my blog posts is actually closely tied to me in some way.  I indirectly talk about topics that either are happening, or did happen in my life.  Each of my posts is a topic that has touched me in some way.  My biggest inspiration for coming up with blog posts is to write about a recent situation, or encounter with someone else, these help me come up with blog post ideas.

Take some time to look around you.  Take note of the people and situations you encounter, they often have a message for us.  Keep an open mind and an open heart.  Be inspired!

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