Keeping Your Cup Full

Self-care is a word that we hear about often, yet something that many of us don’t remember to do as much as we should. We are so busy with life and we spend so much time taking care of others that we forget to take care of ourselves.

Life keeps us busy and we all have relationships and responsibilities that we must attend to and put energy towards. We may sometimes feel superhuman as we navigate daily challenges and tasks off of our to-do list. Often in the midst of things we forget that energy is not finite, it will run low if not preserved and boosted.

There are many ways and things that you can do to help with self-care, it all depends on what your likes and interests are. Self-care may be as simple as taking yourself out to dinner, getting a new haircut, getting a manicure/pedicure, gardening, cooking a good meal, playing sports, even choosing to stay in one evening to watch shows is self-care.

The importance of taking care of oneself is immense. Our minds and bodies are only capable of so much before we hit a slump, or even a breakdown, it’s very important to listen to your mind and body and to know when to slow down and take time for yourself. When you practice good self-care, you are physically and mentally at your best and you keep your cup full. It is only when you yourself are “full” that you are able to do your best in life and also give your best in life. We can’t possibly take care of others, or the demands of life without taking care of ourselves first! This is a reminder to do something that you love, something that makes you happy, something that helps you relax today!

The Use of Distraction

We have all been there, we’ve scrolled through social media, browsed through our phones for hours upon end, we’ve lost ourselves in a hobby, or binge watched shows and movies. Truth is, all of these things are fun and can be done for pure joy, but also these are ways of distracting ourselves from reality.

We are all human beings trying to live and navigate our way through life the best that we know how. Our journey isn’t an easy one as we make our way through life’s unexpected paths and roadblocks, trying to keep up with the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Now more than ever, we are living in very tough times which doesn’t help our already complicated lives.

For anyone who has studied Psychology, you may have learned that there are different coping mechanisms that individuals use for processing a stressful emotion or life event. Distraction is a type of coping mechanism, it allows you to step back from life, to zone out and “forget” reality for a bit. It’s fun to get lost in a show, or book about someone else’s life. Distraction is a great way to minimize anxiety and to take a break from life in order to come back more refreshed. On the flip side, if we spend too much time distracting ourselves from reality, this is a negative thing as we are not facing our issues in order to move forward, so a good balance is key.

The next time that you are feeling a strong emotion, or going through a tough spot in life, try a little distraction to distance yourself from what you are feeling and dealing with and see where that takes you.

A Message

Life will take you down many different paths. Things will be thrown at you that make you question yourself and the world and people around you, but make a promise to yourself that you will always strive every day to make life exactly the way you want it to be. Go through the motions of life and know that you are exactly where you need to be at this time.

Looking for an Escape

Some of you may instantly be able to relate to this and some may not understand this too well, but I felt it was an important topic to cover and one that has touched me personally. I have anxiety and have had it my whole life, it affects me greatly from my job to my relationships and something that I am constantly working on.

When things get overwhelming, it’s like an instant response to want to flee and escape. Yes, it may help us temporarily, but it will only harm us in the long run. We may change jobs, move far away, change our lifestyle, but our inner self remains the same and therefore we can never truly run from what we are trying to escape from.

When caught in something emotionally draining or anxiety-provoking it makes sense to want to remove yourself from that stimulus. The hard part, but the necessary part is to face the issue and try to remedy it and learn from it. Running away will temporarily relieve us, but if we never face it, or not try to resolve it, the issue at hand will follow us. You may have heard the saying that basically states that life is a test and that what we do not “pass” we will be presented with over and over again until we can learn to master it.

As hard as it is, try to sit back and focus on what the issue could be telling you, what message is it sending you, and how you can try to resolve the issue at hand. By no means will this be easy, but in the long run will be very beneficial to you!

Your Energy is Precious

When you are with other people they omit certain levels of energy that you can almost feel. You get good vibes from some and negative vibes from others. Your intuition is letting you know who may not be associating with you for the right reasons. We ourselves have energy, every living thing has energy and although we feel like we are unstoppable and without limits, we can so easily crash and burn if we do not protect our energy.

Many things in our lives consume our energy. Our daily routines, jobs, relationships, we are constantly putting out pieces of ourselves. Our lives require constant attention from us. We must decide where to divide our energy. It is so important not to head towards a breakdown, we can prevent that by making sure to take time out for ourselves to regroup and refresh. We also have to be careful who we allow in our lives because people can drain us of energy very quickly.

By default, many of us naturally want to be there for others, sometimes it’s as almost if we take on their problems. We want to help them and we will do anything in our power to be there for our loved ones. Sometimes, when this is prolonged, you can start to feel very drained and to a point resentful to the person who has drained you of your energy. We can only take care of others if we take care of ourselves. Be good to others and take care of each other, but also remember to guard your energy, for it is finite!