I was having a conversation the other day with one of my long-time friends. We were catching up and seeing how each other was doing. She let me know that she was stressed at work and felt that her job was overwhelming, and her relationship was nothing that she desired it to be.
I’d like to think of myself as a really good friend. I am loyal as anything, and I have a lot of love to give. I enjoy helping other people and being there for them with a listening ear or helping hand. I listened to her intently and offered my sincere support and advice when asked. There is one thing that I suggested, it was not meant to be harsh, but to be helpful and get her out of sitting stationary.
What if I were to tell you that I have had this conversation more times than I can count with this particular friend? What if I were to tell you that she has had this job for several years and talks about wanting to leave regularly? What if I were to inform you that the relationship that she is in has been around for many, many years?
I never tire of listening to others, everyone has a right to say what they are feeling and to be heard and understood and no matter how many times we have had this conversation, I will still always be there for the people that I love. I made a particular suggestion to this friend that has reminded me of a few things.
First, let me tell you what I suggested to her. I let my friend know that these subjects are something that she has talked about often and that for her to feel happiness and peace, she will need to make a change. Is change scary? Yes, it certainly is, but so necessary if we want our lives to become all that we want them to be.
Anytime that we are unhappy with certain aspects of our lives, or just unhappy in general, a change is needing to be made. If we feel like our relationship has gone south, we must take the necessary steps to communicate and try to repair it if at all possible, if our job is causing us more harm than good, then we need to find a way to either manage the stress or move on to another position that better suites us.
Sometimes we are afraid when we try to implement change. We don’t know what the outcome will be, we don’t know if the change is what we truly want, and we also have trouble thinking of what sort of sacrifices we must make to make our dream a reality.
Venting your feelings is one thing and it is a necessary thing, however, putting action towards those things is an even bigger step. I let my friend know that as hard as it may be and as many sacrifices that may have to be made, if she desired true happiness and freedom from these two things weighing her down, she needed to do something about it.
We have one life to live and one chance to make it everything that we have ever hoped for. We have one life to seek and obtain our goals, and to strive for happiness and balance. Anything that you desire will take a lot of effort on your part, but the result will be so worth it.
It’s hard feeling stuck in life, I’ve been there so many times, but it’s equally as hard not feeling like you can do anything about it. You have the power to change your life and to stop feeling like life is stationary, there’s no better time than now, start today!