Right in Front of You

I was watching my cousin’s children playing one morning. They went from playing ball to reading books, to wanting to color. I sat them down with some paper and crayons and sat observing them draw whatever their imagination was telling them to.

The crayons were a large variety of beautiful colors. They lay spread out on the table. One of the children, who we will call Zachary, had an orange crayon that he was coloring with, the other child, who we will call Joseph, had picked up a blue crayon, but when he saw the orange one, he of course wanted that one instead.

Next, I noticed something interesting. Joseph put down his blue crayon and sat there with his paper in front of him. I asked him what he needed and why he stopped coloring, and he then replied that it was “because he was waiting for the orange crayon.”

Zachary was coloring away with his orange crayon and Joseph was left staring and waiting for his turn. All of these beautiful colors surrounded him, but he was focused on just one and because of that, he missed out on enjoying all of the other colors that were sitting right in front of him.

We spend so much time looking towards the future, or waiting around for things that we want, that we end up missing what is right in front of us. Joseph could have been having an amazing time coloring with the many vivid crayons that lay on the table. Instead of having fun and enjoying the moment, he chose to sit back and wait for Zachary’s orange crayon. In the meantime, he was missing out on a lot of fun.

Instead of sitting and waiting for that orange crayon as little Joseph did, use all of the beautiful crayons around you to have fun and find joy all the while waiting for the orange crayon to come along. Don’t let the appeal of one thing make you miss something special, something right before your very eyes.

We can apply this situation to our everyday lives. We so often look ahead for what we want instead of seeing what is right there in front of us. We are missing joy, opportunities, and life unfolding right before us!

Dear Regret: You Are My Teacher

There are more times than I can count that I have walked away from a relationship, or situation and felt a sense of regret. I would tell myself that I knew better and then came the hamster wheel of thoughts including the should have, would have, and could have. Regret is a very difficult feeling to have to sit with and one that can plague us for years to come.


I can think of many times that I regretted a certain behavior of mine, or how I handled a certain situation. I know that the saying goes to “live life without regrets,” and for the most part, I do, however, I also replay certain events over and over because they didn’t pan out how I had hoped. I don’t regret anything 100% in life because I believe that everything happens for a reason, but if I was able to go back in time I would have done certain parts and situations of my life differently.


The most recent situations that I regret are how I handled the end of a relationship and how I handled a conflict at my old job. As hard as it is, there is no use dwelling on the past because what is done is done and there is no way possible to change any of it. What can we change? We can change the way we respond to a similar situation in the future, we can learn from what we didn’t like about something in our lives and we can grow from it and try to implement it in our daily lives today and moving forward.


Regret is a teacher in our lives. When you feel a sense of regret, that means that something didn’t align with your beliefs and values. Most of the time, we know how to better handle a person or situation, but for some reason, it didn’t work out that way. We are only human, life is not going to always happen exactly the way we want it to.


I can tell you that both of the situations that I mentioned above could have been handled much better if the communication was different. We all know the value of communication and how things can very quickly fall apart without it. I have learned my lesson and hopefully, those two instances don’t ever repeat themselves in my life, but if they do, I will be much better equipped to handle them.


Think of a situation that you regret. Think of how it made you feel then and how it does now. What did you learn about yourself in this situation? What did you learn about life? Some of our darkest moments in life, although painful, can be our biggest teachers. Whenever I find myself dwelling on something from my past, I try to quickly stop that pattern of thinking and I counteract it with thoughts of what I learned and how I am a stronger and better person today because of what I went through. Life is one big test and there are teachers all around us, keep going and working towards the person that you strive to be and you will end up passing with flying colors.

Keeping Your Cup Full

Self-care is a word that we hear about often, yet something that many of us don’t remember to do as much as we should. We are so busy with life and we spend so much time taking care of others that we forget to take care of ourselves.

Life keeps us busy and we all have relationships and responsibilities that we must attend to and put energy towards. We may sometimes feel superhuman as we navigate daily challenges and tasks off of our to-do list. Often in the midst of things we forget that energy is not finite, it will run low if not preserved and boosted.

There are many ways and things that you can do to help with self-care, it all depends on what your likes and interests are. Self-care may be as simple as taking yourself out to dinner, getting a new haircut, getting a manicure/pedicure, gardening, cooking a good meal, playing sports, even choosing to stay in one evening to watch shows is self-care.

The importance of taking care of oneself is immense. Our minds and bodies are only capable of so much before we hit a slump, or even a breakdown, it’s very important to listen to your mind and body and to know when to slow down and take time for yourself. When you practice good self-care, you are physically and mentally at your best and you keep your cup full. It is only when you yourself are “full” that you are able to do your best in life and also give your best in life. We can’t possibly take care of others, or the demands of life without taking care of ourselves first! This is a reminder to do something that you love, something that makes you happy, something that helps you relax today!

Sometimes it Takes a Reminder

We go through life day in and day out, sometimes unknowingly on autopilot. Sometimes we get so used to a routine, our possessions, the people in our lives, that they become a natural part of us and we forget that these things are not necessarily ours to have forever. Sometimes it takes a reminder to truly realize and cherish what we have.

I believe that most people are thankful and grateful for what they have. They give thanks for all of the blessings in their lives and don’t take anything for granted, but when life presents situations and circumstances that take away something, or someone, that is when we realize how valuable it really is. There is a quote by Joni Mitchell “Don’t it always seem to go, that you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone.” Like I mentioned before, most of the time we do realize, just not to as great of an extent until we no longer have it.

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Take the Covid-19 pandemic for example. We were all completely and unexpectedly uprooted from our daily routines and into a completely different one. Something as small as getting up and going to work was no longer the case for many people. Another example, you have a car that gets you from Point A to Point B, but one day your car breaks down. You might get a rental car, or get a ride with a friend, or loved one, but it isn’t until your car is no longer that there you realize it’s true value. I am sure that people realize the value of life and how precious it is, however that is greatly amplified when we lose someone either by death, or by a broken relationship. It is often at a funeral that we are reminded of how precious life is and how in the blink of an eye the people that we have in our lives today sadly may not be there tomorrow. We tend to think naturally that what we have, we will always have.

Being grateful can bring so much quality to our lives. There’s so much to be thankful for and things that have become natural to us in our lives like the roof over our heads, still for some people is something that they are praying for. It’s very difficult wanting something so badly in life, there is no doubt about that, but if we look at what we have instead of what we lack, life can become a little easier for all of us!

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