How it’s Supposed to Be

What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it’s supposed to be.” – Jeremy Binns. This quote has always spoke so much to me. We have this vision in our heads that life should fall perfectly together and always have a fairytale ending. Yes, most things in life do tend to work out for the good in the end, but how we get there is usually less than perfect.

Ever since we were younger, we have had this image of what we thought, or wanted life to be like. We may have pictured graduating, then college, marriage, then kids. Whatever we invisioned for our future we thought we would easily have. When our life doesn’t take the path we had thought, or hoped, we then become anxious, sad, worried, so many emotions rush over us. The truth is, there is no perfect life, because nothing and no one in life is perfect. What is the ideal life for one, is not the ideal life for another.

We can have goals and dreams and hopes for our future, but when we expect life to go down a very rigid path with no bumps or detours, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. As hard as it is, go with the flow, see where life takes you. We are all living life in our own way, the best way that we know possible. Have compassion, have hope, and love one another.

Inside the Mind of a Blogger

I recently came across an amazing quote that I found to be so true. “A writer is a world trapped in a person.” – Victor Hugo. This quote really spoke to me, it describes me as a blogger. This side of me, my writing side, goes very deep and is often a side of me solely expressed through writing.

I have loved writing since I was very young. I sometimes had trouble coming up with what to write about in school, but once I came up with a certain topic and got started, there was no stopping me! I loved the feeling of putting pen to paper and just letting my thoughts flow. I was in my element and felt so free. I still feel the very same today, maybe even more so. Writing to me is incredibly therapeutic and is an amazing form of expression.

When I write, whether it be pen to paper, or on my laptop, I really do feel like I am in another world and also that I have a whole nother world to express. Each and every topic that I choose to write about has great importance to me. There is so much that I feel I have to say and so much desire to share with the world in hopes to help someone find happiness, motivation, peace, hope, inspiration, being able to relate. I’m curious how other bloggers feel about this quote, does it also apply to you?

You Don’t Know

“If you haven’t walked in someone else’s shoes, it’s difficult to know the fit, so be kind and compassionate.” – Heather Wolf. This quote is so true and although I always try my best to be kind and compassionate and I am a very empathetic person, it is truly not possible to know exactly how a person feels until you have been in their shoes.

Earlier this year one of my friends was in a situation and she was describing what it felt like to be in that situation and how she reacted etc. I listened and empathized with her, she explained her feelings and at that time I remember being compassionate towards her, yet not understanding exactly how or why she felt that way. Everyone is different and responds to situations differently, I listened and supported her. After our conversation I found myself pondering how I would react and feel if I were in the same situation. It was not even close to how she felt, yet ironically a few months later I found myself in the same exact situation as her with the same exact feelings as she had described!

The takeaway from this post is that we cannot possibly know what it feels like to be in a situation if we are not actually in it. We can guess and think of how we would feel, but it is not possible to know until then. I was shocked that I reacted completely different than what I had imagined that I would. I am a very open-minded and non-judgmental person, yet this was very eye-opening for me!

When Friendship Fades

“You have three types of friends in life: friends for a reason, friends for a season, and friends for a lifetime.” – Ziad K. Abdelnour. Do you ever just sit and ponder life and the past? Maybe you think about past relationships, friendships, jobs, a particularly exciting time, or milestone in life. Sometimes we think of how things could have turned out, or we question if things could have worked out with a certain someone if we had approached things differently.

People come and go, it is a part of life, not one that is easy to accept, but one that does unfortunately happen. When I was younger, losing a friend felt like the end of the world, it filled me with such sadness. I often wondered if there was anything that could have been done to save the friendship, or wondered if I had done something wrong, the same goes for romantic relationships. I would say to myself “If only I had communicated more,” “If only x,y, and z, didn’t bother me so much.”

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Now that I am older, I see a loss of friendships and even relationships in a new light. It is still painful to no longer have someone in your life, but I look at it in a different way and that brings me peace. I truly believe that what is meant to be in our lives will always be. There is nothing that can take away someone or something in our lives that is meant to be there.

Ziad K. Abdelnour’s quote that I mentioned in the intro of this post is really beautiful and I find to be so true. He explains that friends come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. This is true for all people and things in our lives in my opinion. I really believe that certain people are put in our lives for a reason, they are here to teach us, strengthen us, and help us grow. Some people in our lives are here for a season for the same purpose. Not all people in our lives today are meant to stay there for the long haul. My belief is that certain people cross our path for a special and particular purpose. Lastly, we have the friends that are meant to be with us for life, the “family” that we choose, the ones who have been there through everything.

I believe that we should definitely do all that we can do to save a friendship or relationship that we value, however if it feels like you are doing all of the work, try to remember that anything that you have to force probably isn’t supposed to be there in the first place. As hard as having friendships fade over time is, I hope that you find peace in knowing that some people were not always meant to stay in your life, but you will always have the memories, lessons, and you will have experienced growth.

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An Inspiring Quote

             Someone recently sent me a quote that read “When asked if my cup is half-full, or half-empty, my only response is that I am thankful to have a cup.” – Sam Lefkowitz.  I am a true lover of quotes and I had never seen this one before.  It really hit me and opened my eyes.

          Many of us have heard the question of “Is your cup half-full, or half-empty?” Basically it means, do you see life and is your mindset more of a positive one (half-full), or is it more of a not-so positive approach (half-empty).  Of course, this doesn’t always hold true, sometimes it’s just a matter of perception.

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   Life can definitely get me down, but I like to and I try to approach life with the glass half-full mindset.  When I saw this quote, it made the phrase take on a whole new meaning.  This quote by Sam Lefkowitz took it to a whole different level by saying that he was just happy enough to even have a cup regardless.  As I mentioned before, I look very deeply at life and I ponder a lot of what I think, see, hear, and feel.  This had me thinking and applying this quote to my everyday life and just life in general.

        So many times we hear people say “I hate my job,” “My house is so cluttered,” or “My car has a lot of issues.”  While these things are no doubt stressful and such an annoyance, this quote can help us see our stressors in a different way, on a more positive note.  Positivity is even harder when we are down, or stressed, we tend not to focus on the positive as we deal with issues at hand, but it can really allow us to see our situations in a different light.  That job that we hate? Someone is wishing and praying for one right now.  The messy house that we have? Some people are living on the streets in poverty and would take any form of shelter they could get.  That car that is causing us trouble? There are some people out there that have lost their car, or are not able to afford one.  I say these things to in no way minimize our struggles, stress, and hardships, but rather help us to see our burdens in a different way and to see what a life-changer it can be to truly be grateful for all that we have!

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