How it’s Supposed to Be

What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it’s supposed to be.” – Jeremy Binns. This quote has always spoke so much to me. We have this vision in our heads that life should fall perfectly together and always have a fairytale ending. Yes, most things in life do tend to work out for the good in the end, but how we get there is usually less than perfect.

Ever since we were younger, we have had this image of what we thought, or wanted life to be like. We may have pictured graduating, then college, marriage, then kids. Whatever we invisioned for our future we thought we would easily have. When our life doesn’t take the path we had thought, or hoped, we then become anxious, sad, worried, so many emotions rush over us. The truth is, there is no perfect life, because nothing and no one in life is perfect. What is the ideal life for one, is not the ideal life for another.

We can have goals and dreams and hopes for our future, but when we expect life to go down a very rigid path with no bumps or detours, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. As hard as it is, go with the flow, see where life takes you. We are all living life in our own way, the best way that we know possible. Have compassion, have hope, and love one another.

Inside the Mind of a Blogger

I recently came across an amazing quote that I found to be so true. “A writer is a world trapped in a person.” – Victor Hugo. This quote really spoke to me, it describes me as a blogger. This side of me, my writing side, goes very deep and is often a side of me solely expressed through writing.

I have loved writing since I was very young. I sometimes had trouble coming up with what to write about in school, but once I came up with a certain topic and got started, there was no stopping me! I loved the feeling of putting pen to paper and just letting my thoughts flow. I was in my element and felt so free. I still feel the very same today, maybe even more so. Writing to me is incredibly therapeutic and is an amazing form of expression.

When I write, whether it be pen to paper, or on my laptop, I really do feel like I am in another world and also that I have a whole nother world to express. Each and every topic that I choose to write about has great importance to me. There is so much that I feel I have to say and so much desire to share with the world in hopes to help someone find happiness, motivation, peace, hope, inspiration, being able to relate. I’m curious how other bloggers feel about this quote, does it also apply to you?

You Don’t Know

“If you haven’t walked in someone else’s shoes, it’s difficult to know the fit, so be kind and compassionate.” – Heather Wolf. This quote is so true and although I always try my best to be kind and compassionate and I am a very empathetic person, it is truly not possible to know exactly how a person feels until you have been in their shoes.

Earlier this year one of my friends was in a situation and she was describing what it felt like to be in that situation and how she reacted etc. I listened and empathized with her, she explained her feelings and at that time I remember being compassionate towards her, yet not understanding exactly how or why she felt that way. Everyone is different and responds to situations differently, I listened and supported her. After our conversation I found myself pondering how I would react and feel if I were in the same situation. It was not even close to how she felt, yet ironically a few months later I found myself in the same exact situation as her with the same exact feelings as she had described!

The takeaway from this post is that we cannot possibly know what it feels like to be in a situation if we are not actually in it. We can guess and think of how we would feel, but it is not possible to know until then. I was shocked that I reacted completely different than what I had imagined that I would. I am a very open-minded and non-judgmental person, yet this was very eye-opening for me!