We see everything in life clearly, or do we? There is so much to see in this world and some of it cannot be seen with the naked eye, but even what we do see is not always how it appears. How many times in your life have you been so certain that a particular person was a certain way and they ended up being the exact opposite, or a situation that you thought took place one way, actually unfolded in a completely different way? Looks are very deceiving, things are definitely not always how they appear.
If you really stop and think about it, this topic could drive you crazy. We see someone, or see things one way, but they are actually another. Much of what causes us to see life distorted are our past experiences. We know that x,y, and z turned out a certain way in the past, therefore we think it will turn out the same way again. We can sometimes get caught up in assumptions, I know I do this, I assume things are a certain way just based off of how they appear, definitely something that I continue to work on because this mindset is not very helpful!
Another aspect that creates distortions in our lives are our own fears and anxieties. We all have things in life that make us uncomfortable at some point or another. I’m sure that we have all felt like someone didn’t like us, or that the world was against us. Picture this, you met someone new, they are quiet and don’t really want to engage in conversation with you. Different people will have a different response to this, some will figure that the individual is just shy or reserved and needs time to become comfortable, others might think that the individual doesn’t like them, or doesn’t enjoy their company, they may wonder what they have done wrong. What about when your boss e-mails you and wants to set up a meeting, some may just take this gesture as a normal part of business, where other people may worry that they are in trouble, or about to be given bad news. We can see how our mind can cause us to see people and situations in a distorted way.
We can easily create a lot of unneeded stress in our lives by not seeing a person for who they are, or a situation for what it is. It’s hard not to do, I struggle with this myself, but it is helpful for us to remember that things are not always as they seem.