Amazing Love

There are few things as comforting in this world as love. It’s a feeling that can be expressed in so many ways using so many words. The basis of life revolves much around giving and receiving love. From the moment we are born, we seek to find love and for the most part, that does not stop for the rest of our lives.

Love takes on many forms, it’s a feeling between lovers, parents and children, pets, family, friends, even love for a hobby, or passion. I define love as anything, or anyone that brings you to life, brings you happiness, that makes you feel whole, and that lights your soul on fire. Love is so powerful that it can conquer hate, fear, darkness, just about anything.

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Life is an adventurous journey filled with ups and downs, an emotional rollercoaster, a journey full of experiences, growth, and learning. Love is there for us in good times and in bad, it makes the good better and the bad bearable. As we go through life, it is the times of great joy and also times of great challenge and sorrow that we remember the most. We remember the love from others when we graduated, got our first job, got married, the birth of a child, we remember the love that we were given to make those special days of our lives even more spectacular. Love was there in moments of despair when we lost a loved one, faced medical issues, financial issues, when a dream of ours was lost.

There are times in life when we experience joy and sorrow and no one is there. I am sure that we have all encountered this, or have been through a moment in life where we felt lonely. There is still love present. There is love from our Heavenly Father, love that is cultivated through our passions such as writing and art, love from our pets, even our plants! We can’t forget about a major and very important sort of love…self-love. Love gets us through.

As you can see, life has many things in store for us. Love is the glue and foundation as we journey through life. It is comforting to know that no matter what we may face in life, that we can always fall back on love.

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Energy

As much as we would like to think that our mental and physical energy is infinite, it is definitely not. This is a lesson that I have learned over many years. It’s human nature to want to keep going and keep giving, but if we do not recharge and take time for ourselves, we will eventually have no energy left to give to the people and the world around us.

Like all things that require energy to function, the source of the energy must be recharged, replaced, and replenished, in order to keep going and keep working. A cell phone needs its battery charged when it runs low, a car needs its battery changed every few years, or it eventually dies and the car won’t work, a lightbulb needs to be replaced when it burns out after so many hours of shining brightly. People are no different, we need to regroup and recharge in order to function at our highest potential.

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As human beings, we are always giving our energy, our time, and our attention to everyone and everything around us. We are using energy when we don’t even realize it, this can lead to a burnout especially if we do not recognize the signs that we need to stop and recharge before it’s too late. Our jobs, relationships, responsibilities, they all require so much from us. We also must be careful of certain people and situations that drain us of energy. People go through things and no one is positive all the time, but try to limit time with those that are constantly bringing you down and draining your energy, it’s very important to set boundaries. Same goes for staying in situations that do more harm than good. We have this instinct to keep giving our all and keep pushing, but if we do not know when to stop, we are hurting ourselves when we really can no longer even help any else because we are depleted.

I am the kind of person that always likes to help others, always devoting time to lift people up and listen to them, I will do anything in my power to be there for someone that I love and because of this, I have had many moments where I have hit a wall and shut down. I could no longer give, I could no longer even keep myself afloat. I was burned out and could no longer help anyone, including myself. This is why it is so important to recognize when you are over-expending your energy, so that you can prevent burnouts.

There are many ways to recharge. Enjoy your favorite hobbies, watch movies, be with nature, read a book, take a hot bath, journal, just spend time alone and regroup. Remember if you don’t look out for yourself, you can’t possibly give your all to others in your life. Do something nice for yourself, your mind and body will thank you!

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Ways to Be There for a Friend

One of life’s greatest treasures is that of a true and loyal friend. They are few and far between, we are truly blessed when we do come across genuine friendship. These true friendships are rare and priceless and we should do whatever is in our power to grow and maintain them.

Friendships, like any relationship, take a lot of work to keep them going. Life throws many things at us and when a friend of ours is in need, that is where we can step in and help. There are many ways to be there for a friend, or any loved one for that matter:

Communicate – Reach out to your friend and ask them questions to let them know that you are interested in knowing how they are doing and what they are going through. A simple “Hello, how are you?,” or “I am thinking of you,” can mean the world to someone.

Listen – The act of just being there for someone and listening to what they have to say makes others feel valued and cared for. Let them do most of the talking unless they ask for advice etc. Just providing a listening ear works wonders in helping someone talk out their feelings.

Humor – Depending on the situation, using your sense of humor may, or may not be appropriate. If it is, bring up some old funny memories, send some funny memes, or jokes, keep your friend smiling and laughing. It’s a mood booster for everyone!

Explore – Get out in nature, or go explore the town with your friend. Being in a new environment and having distractions can be very helpful, also being in the sun and fresh air are definite mood boosters. Grab lunch, or coffee and just take a stroll and admire nature’s beauty.

Gifts – This doesn’t have to be anything big, a simple card, flowers, box of chocolate, something that the other person enjoys is bound to bring a smile to their face. Just the act of giving and surprising someone can make them feel valued and loved. It is the small things in life that have the biggest meaning.

Touch – Human touch is unbelievably powerful and can truly counteract some very devastating emotions. Some people don’t like others in their personal space, so be mindful of this, but if they are comfortable with you, reach out and give them a warm hug, hold their hand, put your arm around them. Touch is very comforting.

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As you get to know your friend more and more, you will be able to judge what is the best plan of action to take should they need a pick-me-up. It is important to remember that people cope with emotions and life in different ways and different stages, sometimes someone may need to have time alone before they are accepting of help and love from others. I have learned that the hard way a few times, it’s hard not to take it personally when you are trying to be there for someone and they are not very accepting of it. Feel out the other person’s mood and use that as a guide.

As you can see, there are many ways to be there for a friend. When friendship is balanced, they will also in turn be there for you! The beauty of true friendship is knowing that you both will always be there for each other.

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My Mission in this World

     Within us all, we each have a passion that drives us and motivates us.  We have a goal, a mission, a mark that we want to leave on this Earth.  We are all so unique and have many different interests that spark the light within us.  I have many aspirations in this world, but one of my main missions in life is to show love, respect, kindness, compassion, and to help mankind.  Every single positive interaction that we have with others has the infinite ability to change lives and change the world. 

      A lot of times we go through life kind of on autopilot.  There’s so much to get done in a day and as we carry out our daily routines we are not always aware of the impact that we have on others and the world around us.  As I go through my day, I am not really aware of how I impact other people unless they tell me.  I try to make each interaction with others one that will help them or lift them up in some way.  If we are having a rough day, or are not in the best mood, it can be really hard to put out our best efforts to show respect and kindness to others. 

      I have been through a whole lot in my life, we all have, and I have experienced many things that I never thought that I would in my lifetime, let alone at my age.  Each of these experiences has taught me something, made me stronger, made me wiser, allowed me to see life in a very different light.  My mission in life is to inform others, help others, enlighten others, and to spread hope to other individuals.

   Helping people doesn’t have to be anything major, a simple smile, hug, a thinking-of-you card, or a text to check in on someone could mean the world to them.  I wrote in one of my past blogs about a woman that I had given a compliment to and she smiled and was taken aback by it, she then told me that no one had given her a complement for years.  Not only did this break my heart, it made me realize that everything we do and say no matter how small it seems to us has the potential to have so much power and affect someone’s life.  

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    Helping other people benefits everyone involved.  There is such joy and happiness that comes from knowing that you have helped someone, or turned their day around.  People who receive help and love are more likely to pay it forward.  It is also important to note that not everyone shows love and compassion in the same way.  Some may like to cook someone a meal, send a card, make a phone call to check in, a smile, a hug, even just truly listening shows compassion, the ways are really endless.

       I can think of many times in my life that people were there for me and unfortunately many times where people hurt me.  It’s definitely a part of growing and learning, but people don’t forget kindness, they don’t forget the people that were there for them when no one else was.  What we say and do has a lasting effect on other people, this is a big motivator to help me try to do my best daily.  I have so much that I am working on to try to better myself, there are things that I would like to improve on, no one is anywhere near perfect, we all have flaws, fears, and we all have a past full of experiences as human beings.  My mission for this world is to spread love and respect for mankind, it’s up to us, we have the power.  Have a great day all and try to do something today to show your love to someone, it’ll make both of your days.

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Boundaries

Boundaries mean different things to different people and our personal limits and boundaries vary greatly between us. Most of us don’t even realize that we go through our every day lives setting these invisible boundaries between ourselves and the world around us. These may be expressed by our body language, spoken words, or our instincts that tell us to get closer or back away.

Some individuals have very open boundaries, they are freely themselves, and are open and friendly with many people. Some have what we call “a wall up,” where it’s very difficult to let people in and there are many limits and boundaries in place to prevent one from getting too close. Others are somewhere in-between and this is personally where I aspire to be. For most individuals, I am quite difficult to open up, I don’t trust many people easily, so I subconsciously set limits and boundaries between myself and other individuals. There are some people where I feel instantly comfortable with and it’s with them that my wall is lowered and sometimes I end up getting too close emotionally in a short amount of time. I continuously strive and work for a balance.

There are benefits and downsides to having many boundaries, just as there are benefits having minimal boundaries and being a free spirit. The benefits of having many boundaries is that you can guard your mind and heart a little better, you can choose who you feel is worth your energy and who deserves a place in your heart. The downside is that you may be missing out on getting to know others if you are closing them off, we may be missing out on connections and experiences. The benefit of having minimal boundaries is that you truly enjoy life and experience it to the fullest, the negative is that you may get hurt more by putting your mind and heart on the line. Wanting to put up limits and boundaries can and does protect us, but is also hurting and hindering us.

Having boundaries in place is both beneficial and necessary in all relationships including family, friendships, romantic relationships, coworkers, etc. These boundaries help to keep us happy and to feel respected as a human being. It’s up to us to speak our minds and speak up for ourselves if something doesn’t feel right, it’s up to us to communicate our needs to others, there’s no way for them to know otherwise. In return, we also need to pay attention to the needs and wants of others.

Before I end for now, I must touch on the fact that humans have many emotional and physical needs and will often go about meeting them any way they can because for most of us, not having our needs met is very painful. For example, we may grow very close to a stranger because we are in dire need of friendship and don’t want to feel alone, or we may get into a relationship right after a breakup because we no longer have that individual who was fulfilling our needs. The dynamic between people truly fascinates me and is ever-changing.