Going with the Flow

I have a little pocket calendar that I use to keep track of important dates, events, appointments, etc.  I look at it often to see what is going on for the week, I don’t typically rely on a calendar so much, but during these times with so many changes and things going on, I can’t keep my mind straight!  What has surprised me, especially in the last few months, is how many changes I have made to my calendar…this led me to write about an important topic.

Over the last few months ever since the Covid-19 pandemic broke out, I have found myself erasing many plans out of my pocket calendar, not only that, I have found myself needing to add unexpected events to my calendar as well.  This happens of course in general, because life is ever-changing, however even more so in the last several months.  I think we all realize how much life changes, but having the “proof” right there in front of you is very eye-opening.

I have always been the kind of person that loves to have a routine and to have things planned out.  I know that some people are very go with the flow and they like adventure and spontaneity, and while I enjoy these things occasionally, if I don’t have a stable routine and plans laid out, I become very unsettled and anxious.

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One thing that I have learned is that we can plan all we want, but life is going to unfold as it should regardless of the plans that we make.  Life can change for us in a matter of seconds, hours, days, it is always evolving and although we have control over many aspects of our lives, we don’t for others.  I suppose this constant change makes life interesting, keeps us on our toes, and helps us grow as a human being.

One thing for sure, one good and very helpful quality to have is being able to just take it easy and go with the flow.  When things don’t work out as planned, I still tend to get anxious and disappointed by it, but I am learning to be more patient and to remind myself that if something does, or does not happen, that it was just meant to be that way.  It’s not easy, but try just going with the flow and see how that can bring peace to your life.

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Spring into Nature

     With spring right around the corner, I felt compelled to write a blog post dedicated to the lovely nature that surrounds us.  I have been in love with nature and its beauty ever since I was a little girl.  I love the sight, smell, memories, and the way that nature makes me feel.  Nature has a way of refreshing my soul and making me feel recharged.  It makes me feel even that more connected to the Lord, the One that created me.

       No matter what kind of day I’ve had, no matter what kind of mood I’m in, all it takes is a walk in the neighborhood, sitting out on the deck, or riding in the car with the windows down to relax me.  There’s something about nature’s tranquility that helps me refocus and be at peace.

       I live in an area that experiences all four seasons and each one of them is special in its own way.  Winter reminds us to be still and cozy up to the ones and the things that we love, spring renews us with its warmth and lets us watch the world unfolding around us as life blossoms everywhere.  Summer holds some of the most fun and relaxing memories, it makes us feel so alive and lastly fall cools us off with its refreshing breeze and paints the world full of color as the leaves change.  Nature is absolutely beautiful and offers us so much to enjoy.

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          Some of my favorite memories are ones outside with loved ones.  I will never forget all of the beach trips, carnivals, pumpkin patches, sledding, hikes, camping trips, gardening, the list is endless.  We can get so busy with life that sometimes we may not take the time to enjoy our surroundings.  There are so many benefits to reap.  Nature is my go-to for relaxation, happiness, reflection, and clarity.

      As spring approaches us, gather a list of things that you would like to do as the weather gets warmer.  Make time for yourself, smell the flowers, feel the sun on your skin, breathe the fresh air, feel the dirt beneath your feet.  Nature is an endless discovery!

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The Power of Solitude

Once in a while we get the chance to sit alone with pin-drop silence. Most of our days are filled with the hustle and bustle of work, families, and other responsibilities that leave us in a near constant state of commotion. It is in these peaceful moments that we discover the power of solitude.

In life a lot of us, including myself, struggle with balance and this ultimately leads to a burnout. I feel as though balancing rest and work in today’s world is even more difficult. I am the first to admit that I burnout quickly and I require more downtime than most people. I believe this is due to me being a very “sensitive” person and I process life very deeply. I sometimes wish that I didn’t absorb so much energy and emotions as it is quite draining.

When we are with others, so much of our energy and focus are on other people. We keep up with the demands of relationships, work, school, and we are depleted of energy before we make time for ourselves. We need to learn to put ourselves first, because if we are not physically and mentally sound, we cannot possibly give our all in life. Think of the last time that you sat alone outside by the water, drank a cup of tea or coffee in your recliner with no one else home, took a walk in nature just you and the universe. How did that make you feel? I am guessing that for a lot of us, that feeling would be whole, peaceful, renewed, uplifted, and relaxed. I do understand for some that being alone may trigger fear, sadness, and loneliness. Some individuals are alone most if not all of the time and they crave human interaction. It’s all about balance. There were times that I was alone so much that I was depressed and craved companionship, I’ve also been in times where I was around so many people that I just wanted to hide away from the world and be by myself.

Solitude brings about both peace and strength. There is something so beautiful about being at one with yourself, feeling yourself breathe, and having no outside stimulation from the world. One can process thoughts and emotions and find peace in just existing. On the other hand, solitude requires strength as it is not exactly how humans are “hardwired.” There are individuals of course who are introverted and I do find myself becoming more introverted as I age. Solitude is also when we are forced to face our demons. Whether you prefer being alone, surrounded by people, or a mix, please make more time to do what you love and what renews and refreshes your soul. Your mind and body are so precious and we need to put ourselves first so that we can be the best version of ourselves that we can possibly be. Just a few minutes a day set aside just for you can make all the difference in the world.