Tag: Past

Leave What Cannot Be Undone

How many things are you currently worried about that cannot be changed? For many of us, it is quite a few things. We may be dwelling on a decision that we made, or regret some of our past behaviors. As hard as it is to not worry, analyze, and overthink the past, it is so necessary for our well-being and to be able to move forward.

As much as we may wish, our energy both physically and mentally is not infinite. We must take great care to preserve our energy and save it for things in our lives that truly require every bit of energy that we have left.

When we worry about things that happened in the past, we are using our precious energy on something that truly cannot be changed, it cannot be undone. I’m sure that you can count many times that you have said something like “I wish I didn’t leave my job,” or” I wish that I could go back in time and redo a certain relationship.”

Living in the Past

When we live in the past instead of the present, we are robbing ourselves of energy that we could be taking to solve problems and deal with life in the here and now. The past cannot be changed, what is done is done and I know that is very hard to accept sometimes but accepting that fact and also being able to leave what cannot be undone in the past is so important.

We could spend countless hours of our lives thinking we could have, would have, should have and although it can be a stress-reliever to overthink and analyze these thoughts, it serves us no purpose, it does not keep us from moving forward, it does not allow us to make good decisions now that will shape our more desired future.

Often, I find myself thinking of the past, how I would change certain things about it, and how I would have done things differently, yet if I spend all of my energy focusing on what I cannot change, I am wasting precious moments of my life where I can make a difference. As hard as it is, leave the past in the past. It is a part of you, but it does not define you, nor does it deserve any energy from you.

My Best Advice

Worrying about something that you can’t change is very common human behavior, however, it will get you nowhere. When you find yourself slipping into thinking about things that you are not able to change, then acknowledge that you are feeling a certain way and then let it go. Remind yourself that you are focusing on working towards things in your life that you currently have the power to influence.

Whatever you are worrying about today, know that things tend to happen for a reason, things happen for life to fall into place, and things happen for you to grow as a person, whatever you are worrying about today, know that the past is in the past and the present needs your attention. Though difficult, may this be a gentle reminder to put your thoughts, time, and energy into what you can control. Many blessings to you all!

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My First Psychic Reading

I have been highly intuitive my whole life, so I am a big believer in people who have psychic abilities. I have been able to predict events before they happen and even sense events that are happening at that very moment. I can look at objects or people and get feelings about them, most of which end up being accurate at least to some degree. I am not new to this ability, however, what was new for me, was going to my first psychic reading!


I have always wanted to have a psychic reading done, but I was always too scared about what they might reveal to me. I was also weary of the possibility that there could be a lot of scammers out there who will give you a bogus reading and run with your money.


It took years of building up the courage to call and make an appointment for a session with a psychic. I did a lot of research and read many reviews until I found a lady, who I will call Joyce to protect her identity. I read Joyce’s profile and I resonated a lot with her background and way of being. It was like she was almost a bonus psychic because her profile had that she was also a Medium, meaning that she can connect with those that have passed on.


I nervously reached for my cell phone and started dialing her phone number, I put my phone down several times before I finally called her. I left her a message and a few minutes later she ended up calling me back. We chatted on the phone for about 15 minutes, and we had a great vibe, ironically, she ended up picking up things about me even over the phone, so I was pleasantly surprised, and I felt that this was at the very least not a scam.


After we finished talking on the phone briefly, she went over the terms and conditions of our future meeting, Joyce went over what to expect at the reading and what she is and isn’t able to do so that everything was clear before I made an appointment. This was another thing that made me feel comfortable, she took the time to make sure that everything was laid out so that there were no surprises. We then set up a date to meet for my first psychic reading.


A few days had passed and the date of my first psychic session was quickly approaching, I pondered many times about the thought of canceling my appointment, but I kept up the courage to leave everything as it was. Less than a week later, the day had come. I remember making the one-hour drive to the holistic store that she worked in, it was a cold and dark winter night, which added to the feel of the night.


I parked my car and went inside. There was the smell of burning incense in the store along with many lights and decorations everywhere. There was a section of books and crystals. There was even a cat inside to add to the ambiance. I felt relaxed here and all of my worries started to fade. I met Joyce and she took me to a back room that was quiet and cozy. We each sat down on a sofa, and we started to talk like old friends.


Joyce let me know that I could ask her specific questions if I wanted, but that if I didn’t have anything to ask, she said that the feelings would just come to her as we spoke. I did have a few questions…Was I going to find love? How many children was I going to have? What sort of career will I end up having? I also just sat patiently and let her tell me what energy she was feeling from me.


It has been a couple of years since my first psychic reading, and I can tell you that so far everything that Joyce said has been correct. I am in awe of this gift and ability from above. She was also able to channel my deceased loved ones, including my grandmother who was so dear to my heart. Joyce was able to tell me things about my grandmother and our inside jokes that no one in this world could have possibly known. I was in shock, tears streaming down my face. She also brought up things from my past, knew my personality traits and interests, and was able to mention my hopes and dreams. There’s no way that she could have known any of this.


I am so glad that I had the courage to have this experience. If I had let my fear and anxiety take over, I would have never been able to receive all of the lovely messages that she had for me. I would have never learned that there are people that truly have a very beautiful gift that they want to share and not just people out to scam somebody. I know the idea of having a psychic reading is a little farfetched for some, but this story can be applied to everyday life in general. Try not to let your fears hold you back, you never know what you might discover.


Have you ever had a psychic reading done? Was it accurate? I would love to hear about your experiences!

Clamming Up

When we are dealing with a major life event, or with very heavy emotions, we typically respond in one of two ways. We either clam up and withdraw, or we seek comfort and support from our loved ones.


There are benefits to both, but typically letting your feelings out in some way is beneficial and can help you understand what you are going through. After processing the event and emotions, then you can try to cope and learn from it. Some of our natural response comes from past experiences and some from our personalities. There are also reasons why we respond one way or another.


For those of us that withdraw, we may be the more introverted type, we might have had experiences in the past where we didn’t feel listened to, or we were judged or bullied. Learning to withdraw and not share comes naturally to us because it’s what we have done in the past and what we find comfort in.


I tend to withdraw from others when stressed and overwhelmed. I am trying my very best to break this cycle because there are so many benefits to being able to openly share what you are going through. It’s very unnatural, but part of growing is facing your fears and trying to rid of past behaviors that no longer serve us.


One thing for sure is that everyone will respond differently. Whatever works best for you strive for that, whether it means withdrawing and preserving your resources, or leaning on others during difficult times.


I think it’s wonderful and I am truly inspired by those who speak their minds and their feelings. I think there is a lot to benefit and learn from it. When we share what is going on with us in our lives, we can release that stress and tension that we hold bottled up, which in turn greatly helps our health both mentally and physically.


While talking with other people about life, we can see that everyone has hopes and struggles, everyone is dealing with something in life, and we are all human. It helps you feel not so alone when you can open up to other individuals. You may even hear the comforting “I thought I was the only one,” “I feel the same way,” or “that has happened to me before.”


I am sure that most of you feel the positive effects of being there for someone that you care about. You are more than happy to lend a hand and ready with a listening ear. As much as you love to help and be there for your loved ones, imagine how they will feel reciprocating the help! Other people want the chance to be there for us as we are for them. Relationships are something that we should strive to balance, they are a mix of giving and taking.


In the end, whatever comforts you the most during difficult times is what you can count on. For those of you like me who wish to change how you respond to stressful life events, I encourage you to express how you are feeling to a trustworthy someone and see how much better it makes you feel! Slowly, but surely, we can release what no longer serves us and adapt to new ways of living as unnatural as they may feel. There is no greater reward than fixing what no longer serves us in life!

Dear Regret: You Are My Teacher

There are more times than I can count that I have walked away from a relationship, or situation and felt a sense of regret. I would tell myself that I knew better and then came the hamster wheel of thoughts including the should have, would have, and could have. Regret is a very difficult feeling to have to sit with and one that can plague us for years to come.


I can think of many times that I regretted a certain behavior of mine, or how I handled a certain situation. I know that the saying goes to “live life without regrets,” and for the most part, I do, however, I also replay certain events over and over because they didn’t pan out how I had hoped. I don’t regret anything 100% in life because I believe that everything happens for a reason, but if I was able to go back in time I would have done certain parts and situations of my life differently.


The most recent situations that I regret are how I handled the end of a relationship and how I handled a conflict at my old job. As hard as it is, there is no use dwelling on the past because what is done is done and there is no way possible to change any of it. What can we change? We can change the way we respond to a similar situation in the future, we can learn from what we didn’t like about something in our lives and we can grow from it and try to implement it in our daily lives today and moving forward.


Regret is a teacher in our lives. When you feel a sense of regret, that means that something didn’t align with your beliefs and values. Most of the time, we know how to better handle a person or situation, but for some reason, it didn’t work out that way. We are only human, life is not going to always happen exactly the way we want it to.


I can tell you that both of the situations that I mentioned above could have been handled much better if the communication was different. We all know the value of communication and how things can very quickly fall apart without it. I have learned my lesson and hopefully, those two instances don’t ever repeat themselves in my life, but if they do, I will be much better equipped to handle them.


Think of a situation that you regret. Think of how it made you feel then and how it does now. What did you learn about yourself in this situation? What did you learn about life? Some of our darkest moments in life, although painful, can be our biggest teachers. Whenever I find myself dwelling on something from my past, I try to quickly stop that pattern of thinking and I counteract it with thoughts of what I learned and how I am a stronger and better person today because of what I went through. Life is one big test and there are teachers all around us, keep going and working towards the person that you strive to be and you will end up passing with flying colors.

A Little Reminder

Be in the present. We get so excited thinking and planning for the future, or we get so sad that we reminisce and dwell on the past, that most of us forget the most important thing and the key to happiness, which is to live every day to its fullest and take each day of life as it comes.

Yes, we should think of past memories and yes we should plan and be happy about the future, but most importantly, take in what is around you now because life changes all the time and at any time!