A Little Reminder

Be in the present. We get so excited thinking and planning for the future, or we get so sad that we reminisce and dwell on the past, that most of us forget the most important thing and the key to happiness, which is to live every day to its fullest and take each day of life as it comes.

Yes, we should think of past memories and yes we should plan and be happy about the future, but most importantly, take in what is around you now because life changes all the time and at any time!

How it’s Supposed to Be

What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it’s supposed to be.” – Jeremy Binns. This quote has always spoke so much to me. We have this vision in our heads that life should fall perfectly together and always have a fairytale ending. Yes, most things in life do tend to work out for the good in the end, but how we get there is usually less than perfect.

Ever since we were younger, we have had this image of what we thought, or wanted life to be like. We may have pictured graduating, then college, marriage, then kids. Whatever we invisioned for our future we thought we would easily have. When our life doesn’t take the path we had thought, or hoped, we then become anxious, sad, worried, so many emotions rush over us. The truth is, there is no perfect life, because nothing and no one in life is perfect. What is the ideal life for one, is not the ideal life for another.

We can have goals and dreams and hopes for our future, but when we expect life to go down a very rigid path with no bumps or detours, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. As hard as it is, go with the flow, see where life takes you. We are all living life in our own way, the best way that we know possible. Have compassion, have hope, and love one another.

Looking for an Escape

Some of you may instantly be able to relate to this and some may not understand this too well, but I felt it was an important topic to cover and one that has touched me personally. I have anxiety and have had it my whole life, it affects me greatly from my job to my relationships and something that I am constantly working on.

When things get overwhelming, it’s like an instant response to want to flee and escape. Yes, it may help us temporarily, but it will only harm us in the long run. We may change jobs, move far away, change our lifestyle, but our inner self remains the same and therefore we can never truly run from what we are trying to escape from.

When caught in something emotionally draining or anxiety-provoking it makes sense to want to remove yourself from that stimulus. The hard part, but the necessary part is to face the issue and try to remedy it and learn from it. Running away will temporarily relieve us, but if we never face it, or not try to resolve it, the issue at hand will follow us. You may have heard the saying that basically states that life is a test and that what we do not “pass” we will be presented with over and over again until we can learn to master it.

As hard as it is, try to sit back and focus on what the issue could be telling you, what message is it sending you, and how you can try to resolve the issue at hand. By no means will this be easy, but in the long run will be very beneficial to you!

Your Energy is Precious

When you are with other people they omit certain levels of energy that you can almost feel. You get good vibes from some and negative vibes from others. Your intuition is letting you know who may not be associating with you for the right reasons. We ourselves have energy, every living thing has energy and although we feel like we are unstoppable and without limits, we can so easily crash and burn if we do not protect our energy.

Many things in our lives consume our energy. Our daily routines, jobs, relationships, we are constantly putting out pieces of ourselves. Our lives require constant attention from us. We must decide where to divide our energy. It is so important not to head towards a breakdown, we can prevent that by making sure to take time out for ourselves to regroup and refresh. We also have to be careful who we allow in our lives because people can drain us of energy very quickly.

By default, many of us naturally want to be there for others, sometimes it’s as almost if we take on their problems. We want to help them and we will do anything in our power to be there for our loved ones. Sometimes, when this is prolonged, you can start to feel very drained and to a point resentful to the person who has drained you of your energy. We can only take care of others if we take care of ourselves. Be good to others and take care of each other, but also remember to guard your energy, for it is finite!

The Feeling of Frustration

Recall a time where you felt defeated, cheated, lost, recall when you felt like giving up, when your all wasn’t enough, recall when you had so many thoughts and emotions that you didn’t know how to let go of. Anger and frustration are perhaps one of the most uncomfortable feelings we can encounter. Anger takes a lot of work to get rid of.

So, what causes anger? Many things do, pent up feelings, being disrespected, feeling cheated, treated unfairly, it’s a difficult emotion to process, but fortunately there are ways to help reduce the feeling. A lot of how we feel has to do with how we approach, or view a certain situation. We’ve heard mind over matter, what we think is critical. If we can try to set aside our anger, we can look at the situation more logically with a clear mind. Anger is a painful emotion to hold onto, we will feel much more at peace if we can remove it from our hearts.