A Message in the Shower

Yesterday started out pretty normal. I got up, did my morning routine, and then had breakfast. I was cold, so I decided to take shower. I usually shower in the evening, but this cold weather made it the perfect opportunity.

I find a hot shower so relaxing, and it is a place where I can escape and leave my worries for a little while.

Mindfulness

Lately, I seem to be living in the past or the future, so I decided to take this time to be present in this moment. I turned my focus to the shower. The warm water, the steam, the sound of the water hitting the shower floor.

I instantly felt calmer and more centered as I practiced being mindful of the moment that I was in right now.

Time Had Come

The time had come to return back to reality. I grabbed my towel off of the shower door to dry off and my mouth dropped open as I stared at the misty glass.

I stared for what felt like a few minutes as I was in shock. There were the letters “D…A…V…E” all written in a jagged line going down the shower door. The condensation was thick, but these letters to me were plain as day with no mistaking them!

If you remember from a previous camping story, Dave (name has been changed), was my very dear friend of many years whom I shared many life experiences with. He was a wonderful person with a heart of gold. He passed away sadly a few years ago. His loss has been felt deeply.

Dave’s Message to Me

I sat in awe and tears filled my eyes. My gaze followed the letters up and down the shower glass as I stood there in amazement. I was shocked to see the letters of his name. They were all in order, but not in a straight line, then ran almost diagonal.

In the past, he and many of my other departed loved ones have visited me from beyond. I have had a tremendous number of paranormal experiences. I am very fortunate to be in tune with life beyond this one. The signs that I have been given in the past have been incredible. Some are general and some are very specific to the person who passed.

Dave has written his name in the clouds for me before. I believe this is partly why he chose to put the letters of his name there on the shower door. Also, since I receive signs regularly from the departed, I am thinking that he wanted to make sure that I knew it was him specifically.

It Clicked!

I sat and thought about why he chose to visit me at that very moment. I didn’t care, either way, I was just gracious for the unbelievable moment, but when I thought about it, I came up with two very interesting connections.

Dave was huge on practicing mindfulness; he had a way about him that lit up a room. He could turn the darkest days into the light. He had such a great outlook and perspective on life, and he was able to help anyone he met in some way with his sunny demeanor. Dave practiced mindfulness daily and he was a huge believer in going with the flow and letting life unfold the way that it should. I sure do miss him; I am crying as I write this story.

Not only do I believe that he visited me because I chose to take a moment for mindfulness, but it is the month of December and he, unfortunately, passed away a few years ago in December. Fitting these two connections together was just amazing to me.

Take A Closer Look

There are signs all around us, some are obvious and others we may have to dig a bit and search around, but they are there! I believe that the spiritual world is always trying to connect with us on some level.

I have always believed in the paranormal and when I started having experiences when I was a young child and even more now as an adult, my belief is even more solidified.

I find so much peace in the fact that I strongly feel that there is a beautiful life that awaits us beyond this one. The fact that loved ones can reach us here in this realm makes it even more amazing. Look around you and see what sort of signs the world is trying to tell you; it might just leave you in awe!

Thanksgiving Magic

Exactly two weeks from now, many of us will be celebrating Thanksgiving! It is so hard to believe that this time of year is here again. I am very excited for the holidays to arrive!

Though this time of year can be crazy, busy, stressful, and emotional, I try to focus on the good that the holiday season brings.

I have always been the type of person that goes all out for the holidays and enjoys them to the fullest. They bring me joy and excitement and they add a little spice to life.

Thanksgiving Day Traditions

We get up early on Thanksgiving morning to get food prepped and to set up the dinner table. Time passes quickly as we prep as much as we can.

Before we know it, the time has come to sit down and enjoy Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade on TV! Watching this parade has been a tradition ever since I was a little girl. For those that have never seen it, the parade takes place in New York City every year and consists of floats, dancers, singers, and the grand finale is Santa Claus! I’ve never been to the actual parade; I just enjoy watching it from the warmth of my home!

The parade lasts three hours long and gets my family and I extra excited for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Traditions truly do make the heart happy as they transport us back to happier and simpler times.

Dinner Time

The turkey goes into the oven while we are watching the parade and takes several hours to cook. In the meantime, the side dishes and desserts are being made and set out on the table.

We always eat our Thanksgiving meal around 2:00 pm/3:00 pm, this is much earlier than we usually eat. It is almost a meal that is smack-dab in the middle of lunch and dinner. Very outside of our normal meal times.

Back when my grandparents were still living, Thanksgiving was hosted at their house and our family would all travel and meet there for good food and good company. I truly miss my grandparents and other loved ones that have passed on, especially during the holidays.

Since they have passed, we all have started celebrating within our own immediate families for the most part. The holiday memories will live on, and we are continuously making our own.

After the table is set, we all sit around and say a prayer and mention all that we are thankful for. It’s important to practice gratitude every day, but we make a point of saying it out loud on Thanksgiving Day.

 Being Thankful

Life is never going to be perfect or anywhere close, but we all have something to be thankful for this holiday season. It can be as simple as having hope or having the chance to be with our loved ones.

However, you chose to celebrate Thanksgiving, I hope that you stay safe, have lots of fun, and realize all that there is to be grateful for!

We Don’t Talk Anymore

The other day I was scrolling through the Contact list on my cell phone, trying to find a phone number that I needed to jot down.

As I was scrolling trying to find the name of the person that I was looking for, I came across several people who are no longer in my life. So many emotions came over me.

What I Found

I came across contacts that have mutually faded slowly over time, ones that have ghosted me, and ones where there was a falling out. Sadly, one of my contacts that I came across had even passed away within the last year, but I didn’t have the heart to remove them from my phone.

After jotting down the phone number that I needed, I was left in a state of reflection. I felt sadness for the people that I had lost. I was left thinking of the memories that I had with each of these people. A brief sadness came over me.

State of Mind

After feeling initial sadness, I quickly thought of the phrase that describes how people are in our lives for “a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” Many of these people on my contact list have been there for a lifetime thankfully, many others were there for a reason or a season.

Seeing the names of people from my past brought back so many memories. I reminisced about where I met them, what we talked about, what I learned from them, and how each of them touched my soul in some way. Each individual, regardless of how the relationship ended, helped me grow in some way and even taught me about myself.

Acceptance

Unfortunately, losing touch with others is a part of life, but we are left with memories and what they have taught us. They have each shaped us in some way and we can be grateful for that.

I truly believe that other people are placed in our lives for a reason. Sometimes we may find that they are placed there at just the right time.

I have no closure with several of the contacts that I came across. While this does bring me sadness and wonder, I have to accept this fact. Maybe one day, our paths will cross again, and maybe I will never know, but it’s up to me to be at peace.

Message for You

As always, we should cherish the individuals that we have in our lives right now and express our gratitude and love for them. We should strive to directly and openly communicate to keep these relationships alive and thriving as long as possible.

If you have people in your life that you have had a falling out with, or that have left your life in some way, I encourage you to spend a little time thinking about the positive aspects of what that relationship brought you.

Maybe you learned about yourself or the world around you, or maybe you learned what you do and don’t want from a relationship. Sometimes we focus mainly on the negative things that we have experienced with someone, but even if we have to search for a long time, there is bound to be a positive that we can discover!

The Importance of Community

Sometimes lacking something in life makes you realize its importance. Roughly 10 years ago I was very sick with several medical issues that left me homebound.

My friends didn’t understand the issues that I was facing and because I wasn’t able to go out and do fun things with them, they left me in a heartbeat. I have learned a whole lot about this situation in my life and also there is much to be thankful for in this life, including good health.

Human Needs

We all have a desire to feel loved and that we have a sense of belonging. When I went through this really tough time medically, it was an even bigger realization because it was then that I felt so alone.

Sometimes we don’t realize the importance of something until it’s gone. We know that as human beings we all need each other, but we don’t always realize the extent to which we do.

Stronger in Numbers

The phrases “stronger together” and “strength in numbers” are very valid. Community and teamwork can bring us so far. We can rely on other people to share the good and the bad.

It is the most amazing feeling to be a part of something, to have a sense of belonging, and to feel like no matter what, we have someone in our corner.

My Experience

I have lived in many different neighborhoods and only two stick out in my mind as having a great sense of community, including the neighborhood that I live in now. I know what it is like to live somewhere that makes you feel like it’s “every man for himself.” I know what it’s like to live in places where some people don’t smile or wave to acknowledge that you are there.

Thankfully, the community that I live in now is a phenomenal one! I certainly feel blessed with such wonderful neighbors who genuinely enjoy each other’s company.

I try to be involved in the community as much as possible, and not only my own. I love to donate to charity even if it’s only a dollar and to donate items to the less fortunate. I love to help my neighbors in any way that I can like helping them with yard work or bringing them food when they are sick. A community is there for its members.

Food for Thought

Many times in life, we feel as though we need to deal with hardships on our own. Maybe we don’t want to burden others, maybe we feel like we are strong enough to handle whatever life throws at us. Whatever the reason, many of us do not reach out and rely on others for help through hard times.

We enjoy helping and taking care of others, but we don’t allow help in return in many cases. If we can open up and share our burdens and what is on our minds and in our hearts, we can lessen the load and feel much lighter. It can feel like a weight has been lifted off of us. We are human beings, we need each other, and we need to be there for each other.

Something Else to Chase

Growing up, I was always the kind of girl that loved to make others laugh and smile. I wanted to see everyone happy, and I would do almost anything to make that happen. Ironically, fast-forward to my teenage years and I was relying on others to make me happy.

As I got older, especially as a teenage girl, I started to lack self-esteem, a reality that a lot of teenagers face. I wasn’t sure what was happening to me, but I knew that I didn’t like the feeling and I was determined to make it disappear.

I started trying to make friends with other people hoping that would help me with my self-esteem. I started looking for ways that other people could bring me happiness because I couldn’t seem to find it myself.

At one point, I almost felt reliant on other people to feel any sort of peace. I felt like I needed constant contact from my friends. I would start feeling anxious and sad when I was away from my loved ones. I truly felt at that point in my life that my happiness depended on the people around me.

I felt like a chaser. Sometimes people were there and sometimes not.
My mood would fluctuate according to this, and I was tired of relying on this unpredictable way of feeling peace.

When I became older, I was wiser and able to realize that happiness and self-worth need to come from within. While other people do bring lots of joy, it needs to start from the inside. True happiness cannot be obtained if you aren’t happy when you look in the mirror.

With this new knowledge, I started doing everything that I could to promote my happiness and sense of well-being. I started a gratitude journal, I started painting and writing, and I found other ways that made me happy like nature walks. I looked at myself in the mirror every morning and said one thing that I liked about myself. I watched my self-esteem and happiness soar.

It is natural to look to others for happiness and a boost of confidence but finding that within yourself is the greatest gift and will help you see the world around you in a different light. You will feel more in control of your well-being. I used to chase people and now I chase my dreams and goals!