Look in the Mirror

When I was younger I focused a lot of my energy outward. I was always helping others and being there for them, it made me happy and still does to this day. What I wasn’t realizing was that I spent all of my energy helping others, that I had no energy left to take care of myself.

I was told many times in my younger years that I needed to focus more inward because my energy was always being focused out and away from me. I understood what was meant by this, but I didn’t feel that I needed to at that time. My happiness depended on other people and I failed to look within to find happiness. It took many years and many burnouts to finally understand the importance of what I was being told. I finally understood the importance of self-reflection and working to better myself and become the best version of me that I could.

I still very much love to take care of other people to this day, but my sole happiness does not depend on it anymore. I used to have to constantly be expending energy on others in order to feel happy and I have learned that in order to help others, I need to focus inward and help myself first! Take time to take care of the person that you see looking back at you in the mirror, so that you can put the best you out there in the world!

Blogging Community

As with most things in life, we don’t know what to expect an outcome to be like until we actually try.  When I started my blog, my hope was to create content that people could relate to, content that would uplift, inspire, motivate, enlighten others.  I was not sure if my work would make an impact, but I was sure hoping that it would.  Never did I imagine the sense of community blogging would end up offering me.

For many years and actually still to this day, I often turn to the Internet for information, research, and understanding.  I also love to read blogs, I find the conversation style of a blog to be so personal and I love to learn from others and read what is inside the hearts and minds of other individuals.  I too wanted to help others the way that blogs have helped me all of these years.

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From the beginning of my blogging journey, I have been amazed by other’s generous love, support, encouragement, motivation, and respect.  It is so nice to be a part of this amazing blogging community.  I love that we all have a place to come to that we can share our thoughts, ideas, lessons, all by having a mutual love and passion for writing and expression.  There’s no greater feeling than to write a blog post and have someone say that it spoke to them, empowered them, opened their eyes, or simply that they could relate.  I think it’s wonderful that we can all inspire and motivate each other.  I love you all and I appreciate your work.  I enjoy leaving comments on your blogs about how your posts have touched me.  You all are very talented individuals.

It is so wonderful to be a part of such a great blogging community.  Being a blogger has taught me so much about myself and the world around me.  It is pretty amazing to be a part of a family that all have a passion for the same thing.  I am so happy to have met you all and I hope that you know how much I appreciate and am thankful for every one of you.  Your support, love, and kindness mean the world to me.  Keep shining blogging community!

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Amazing Love

There are few things as comforting in this world as love. It’s a feeling that can be expressed in so many ways using so many words. The basis of life revolves much around giving and receiving love. From the moment we are born, we seek to find love and for the most part, that does not stop for the rest of our lives.

Love takes on many forms, it’s a feeling between lovers, parents and children, pets, family, friends, even love for a hobby, or passion. I define love as anything, or anyone that brings you to life, brings you happiness, that makes you feel whole, and that lights your soul on fire. Love is so powerful that it can conquer hate, fear, darkness, just about anything.

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Life is an adventurous journey filled with ups and downs, an emotional rollercoaster, a journey full of experiences, growth, and learning. Love is there for us in good times and in bad, it makes the good better and the bad bearable. As we go through life, it is the times of great joy and also times of great challenge and sorrow that we remember the most. We remember the love from others when we graduated, got our first job, got married, the birth of a child, we remember the love that we were given to make those special days of our lives even more spectacular. Love was there in moments of despair when we lost a loved one, faced medical issues, financial issues, when a dream of ours was lost.

There are times in life when we experience joy and sorrow and no one is there. I am sure that we have all encountered this, or have been through a moment in life where we felt lonely. There is still love present. There is love from our Heavenly Father, love that is cultivated through our passions such as writing and art, love from our pets, even our plants! We can’t forget about a major and very important sort of love…self-love. Love gets us through.

As you can see, life has many things in store for us. Love is the glue and foundation as we journey through life. It is comforting to know that no matter what we may face in life, that we can always fall back on love.

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The Liebster Award

Hello my fellow bloggers!  The blogging community sure is very motivating and generous.  What an honor it is to have been nominated for The Liebster Award!  I was nominated by the lovely and talented Jirah at http://writingsbyjm.com, she is great and writes about so many different topics, you never know what will be posted next!  Thank you Jirah for your nomination and for sharing your great work with us!

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Rules:

  1. Thank the person that nominated you and put a link to their blog
  2. Answer the questions given to you
  3. Nominate 2-6 bloggers and notify them of their nomination
  4. Create 11 new questions, or use the same ones below

Questions I was Asked:

  1. How would you describe your blogging journey in three words? Exciting, joyful, and motivating.
  2. What do you love most about blogging? I love to share my life lessons and experiences in hopes to help others.
  3. How long does it take you to compose a blog post? I actually write out all of my blog post drafts by hand, then I type them up on my laptop.  From start to finish, depending on the topic, and including editing, it typically takes me about 45 minutes to an hour.
  4. Imagine visiting your 7-10 year old self, what would be his/her advice/message to your current self? Be yourself and go with the flow.
  5. What is one thing that you learned during this time of quarantine? That things could always be worse.  I am reminded how precious life is and how fast it can change.
  6. Coffee or tea? I love both, but I am definitely not a daily drinker, I drink them as a treat.  I adore iced coffee so much, or even a hot cup during the winter months and I am in love with black tea and also bubble tea.
  7. What are three things that you are grateful for today? God’s blessings, my life, and my loved ones.
  8. When you are feeling down, what do you do to cheer yourself up? I go for a walk in nature, take a hot bath, go for a drive, and have some chocolate!
  9. What’s one habit you want to break and why? My habit of worrying so much and being anxious, it really gets you nowhere!  I wish that I could be more relaxed.
  10. What is your dream destination? Barbados!  I am in love with the beauty of this pear-shaped island!
  11. What language would you like to learn? I already know Spanish, but I would like to learn it fluently, it is a beautiful language.

My Nominees:

Questions for Nominees (Used Originals):

  1. How would you describe your blogging journey in three words?
  2. What do you love most about blogging?
  3. How long does it take you to compose a blog post?
  4. Imagine visiting your 7-10 year old self, what would be his/her advice/message to your current self?
  5. What is one thing that you learned during this time of quarantine?
  6. Coffee or tea?
  7. What are three things you are grateful for today?
  8. When you are feeling down, what do you do to cheer yourself up?
  9. What’s one habit you want to break and why?
  10. What is your dream destination?
  11. What language would you like to learn?

Please don’t feel obligated to participate, it’s only if you would like to, just know that I admire your work!  Thank you again Jirah for this lovely nomination.  Let’s keep spreading love and motivation to our blogging community!

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Ways to Be There for a Friend

One of life’s greatest treasures is that of a true and loyal friend. They are few and far between, we are truly blessed when we do come across genuine friendship. These true friendships are rare and priceless and we should do whatever is in our power to grow and maintain them.

Friendships, like any relationship, take a lot of work to keep them going. Life throws many things at us and when a friend of ours is in need, that is where we can step in and help. There are many ways to be there for a friend, or any loved one for that matter:

Communicate – Reach out to your friend and ask them questions to let them know that you are interested in knowing how they are doing and what they are going through. A simple “Hello, how are you?,” or “I am thinking of you,” can mean the world to someone.

Listen – The act of just being there for someone and listening to what they have to say makes others feel valued and cared for. Let them do most of the talking unless they ask for advice etc. Just providing a listening ear works wonders in helping someone talk out their feelings.

Humor – Depending on the situation, using your sense of humor may, or may not be appropriate. If it is, bring up some old funny memories, send some funny memes, or jokes, keep your friend smiling and laughing. It’s a mood booster for everyone!

Explore – Get out in nature, or go explore the town with your friend. Being in a new environment and having distractions can be very helpful, also being in the sun and fresh air are definite mood boosters. Grab lunch, or coffee and just take a stroll and admire nature’s beauty.

Gifts – This doesn’t have to be anything big, a simple card, flowers, box of chocolate, something that the other person enjoys is bound to bring a smile to their face. Just the act of giving and surprising someone can make them feel valued and loved. It is the small things in life that have the biggest meaning.

Touch – Human touch is unbelievably powerful and can truly counteract some very devastating emotions. Some people don’t like others in their personal space, so be mindful of this, but if they are comfortable with you, reach out and give them a warm hug, hold their hand, put your arm around them. Touch is very comforting.

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As you get to know your friend more and more, you will be able to judge what is the best plan of action to take should they need a pick-me-up. It is important to remember that people cope with emotions and life in different ways and different stages, sometimes someone may need to have time alone before they are accepting of help and love from others. I have learned that the hard way a few times, it’s hard not to take it personally when you are trying to be there for someone and they are not very accepting of it. Feel out the other person’s mood and use that as a guide.

As you can see, there are many ways to be there for a friend. When friendship is balanced, they will also in turn be there for you! The beauty of true friendship is knowing that you both will always be there for each other.

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