No Longer Vital

Being surrounded by water was essential to our survival when we were in the womb. From the second that we were born, we needed air to live. Life changes so much and what is vital to us in one moment may no longer be in another.

It is important to remember that sometimes we create habits as we go along in life. At one point they served us, but they may not always. Now and then I find it to be a good idea to evaluate the many areas of your life and see what is working for you and what is no longer vital.

How Life Changes

As we go through life, we have different wants and needs. Sometimes these needs change and sometimes not, or the degree to which we need them changes.

Maybe you went through a phase where you wanted to be surrounded by people, but now you need to enjoy your own company and take some time for self-reflection. Maybe at one point working two jobs was vital to your well-being and finances, but now you are more financially comfortable, and resting from all of your hard work is the most important.

I am currently doing some spring cleaning of my life. I am shedding parts of me that no longer serve me, I am making changes to things that bother me, or make me unhappy. It feels great, even though some of the changes are very small. Any progress towards a goal is a huge motivator.

The Importance

Evaluating and reflecting on life is very important, especially if you feel like there is an area or more that you are not happy with. We are constantly changing and growing as individuals, and we should try to align our lives as closely to our sense of ideal as possible.

By ridding parts of your life or habits that no longer have a positive effect on you, there is room for the most important things. We are ever evolving and any changes that we can make to our lives no matter how small can help us live a little easier and happier!

I invite you to examine your life and take a look at the areas that you feel could be improved. How can you make a difference in these areas? What can you do to live a fuller life? Are there parts of you that you can shed to allow for more growth? Feel free to share if you would like!

Dreading Something? Read This

There are many things in life that we go through. Some good, some bad, and some in-between. As human beings, we deal with many different emotions as we process the world around us.

One of the many uncomfortable emotions is dread. In other words, when we feel anxious or worried, it can take a toll on us and prevent us from living our best life. It can even impact how we view the world and the decisions that we make.

Are You Dreading Something?

You may be dreading an upcoming meeting, long-distance travel for a wedding, a doctor’s appointment, a difficult conversation with a loved one, or a project that you are due to start at work. Whatever it may be, feeling dread for a certain date or event to come around is a feeling that is tough to sit with.

As with many feelings, there are ways to help minimize the feeling of dread. There are ways that we can look at the feeling and the situations that evoke it to help us in life.

What Can We Do to Minimize Feeling Dread?

  • We can realize that feeling dread is just a feeling no matter how uncomfortable it is. We can sit with it, recognize it, acknowledge that it’s there, and then try to let it float away. A thought is just a thought, don’t give it too much power.
  • Analyze the situation. What could be the worst that happens if you have that conversation attend that meeting, and go to the doctor? This way you can see what is the worst that could happen. Often seeing this side can help minimize anxieties as we realize it isn’t as bad as it seems in our heads.
  • Look at the positives that could come from this situation. You might feel relief, and empowerment, you may feel stronger for having conquered your fear. You never know what you might discover or learn about yourself!

What To Remember

Oftentimes, the very thing that we have been dreading for days, weeks, months, or even longer ends up being so much better than we expected. Much of our worry and anxiety comes from things that haven’t happened yet, so the anticipation of an event or upcoming date on the calendar can send our minds spinning.

If you are dreading something that is coming up, as hard as it is, remember that it will pass. It may be uncomfortable and feel like a burden, but you will get through it, and it will pass just as everything else that you have gone through in life. Here is a little motivation to get you through a trying time, you can do this!

What Now?

You have reached a moment that you have been waiting for months, years, possibly your entire life for. So many feelings rush over you as you cannot believe that what you have been longing for is finally here. You sit in a state of shock, surprise, relief, happiness, and awe. Slowly over time, another feeling creeps in.

There can be many emotions that we feel while waiting for something that we truly desire with all of our hearts. We may feel sad, angry, hopeful, scared, or anxious, we may even feel that it will never happen. We sit anxiously awaiting to be in a relationship, to have kids, to be married, to land our dream job, to get a college degree, and sometimes our biggest goal is just to live comfortably.

Whatever we have deeply desired in our life and eventually ended up getting, our initial response is probably elation and relief. We cannot believe that we have finally obtained and received all that we have longed for. Much of the time, our hearts will stay content with what we have now added to our lives, however sometimes another emotion sets in shortly after the excitement wears off. We might start to feel regret and guilt, something we never expected, which can make it all very confusing.

Regret and guilt can accompany our newfound excitement. Sometimes after we finally receive what we have been desiring, it loses its appeal, and sometimes regret starts to sink in after our initial happiness because we feel that we should be more excited, or that it didn’t feel as great as we expected. Maybe we expected the outcome to change our lives and it didn’t change much for us, we might have started to even feel as if we did not deserve this wonderful thing that happened to us.

These negative feelings can truly wreak havoc on our minds and bodies. We may start to think that we are losing our minds because we finally got what we wanted and now we don’t want it anymore. We start to question if we know what we truly want in life and if we even know ourselves as well as we thought that we did. There is a saying that “we always want what we don’t have.” I have found this to be true. We don’t know what we are getting into, we just desire something that we do not have.

The mind works in mysterious ways, we may be influenced by others, we may feel like we are expected to conform to society’s norms, or we may just truly want something for our lives. Whatever they may be, our feelings are valid, and we should take the time to sort them out and explore why we may be feeling such a way. Be easy on yourself, we are only human!

Why the Difference?

One of the greatest things in life is the love and support of family and friends. Why do we treat our loved ones so much differently than we treat ourselves? We should make taking care of ourselves mentally and physically our utmost priority. We cannot give much of ourselves to this world if we are not whole.

Most of us are very hard on ourselves, I know that I am. I’m told this over and over again, yet I don’t see it myself.

Imagine that you made a mistake on a project that you are working on at your job. You might tell yourself “I can’t do anything right; I am such a failure.” Flip this situation around. A family member or friend is in the same situation, they just made a huge mistake on a project they were working on. What do you tell them? Would you tell them that they cannot do anything right and that they are a failure? Probably not. Instead, you might tell your friend that they did the best that they could do and that they are only human and it’s natural to make a mistake now and then.

You and your significant other just got into a fight and you start saying to yourself “I am never good at relationships,” you keep telling yourself “I am a terrible communicator.” What if a friend was going through this, what would you tell them? Maybe you would say that they should take some time for themselves to regroup and try to remedy the situation, maybe you would tell your friend that relationships aren’t easy, that constant effort is needed, and this doesn’t make them a bad person.

Do you see the differences in how people typically speak to themselves versus a loved one? One’s internal dialogue is so very important because we start to believe what we tell ourselves. Negative self-talk is very detrimental to us and those that we have a relationship with.

Why is it that we can so easily support the people that we love, but we cannot give that same grace and support to ourselves? Why is it that we can quickly build someone else up, while so easily tearing ourselves apart?

We are so hard on ourselves due to human nature; we know all of our faults and weaknesses and we tend to not have patience with ourselves. We also know about our pasts, and we carry parts of that with us. Whether we like to admit it or not, it does affect our confidence. We like to place other people on a pedestal, while we are the ones that are flawed as we strive to be perfect, something beyond human capability.

The next time that you are dealing with something in life, and you find that you are being hard on yourself remember to stop and ask yourself what you would tell a loved one that was in your exact situation. You give so much kindness, hope, and empathy to others, be kind to yourself…you deserve it.

If I Can

It always amazes me how many different walks of life there are. How similar, yet so different individuals can be. It amazes me that we can look at someone and they can seem “perfect” on the outside, yet we have no idea what is going on with them on the inside. The happiest person may have the toughest life, situations are not as they appear and that is what tricks the eye and mind. I am always amazed at the stories I hear and what others have gone through in their lives. I, myself have been through a lot in my life, we all have, and we can all truly learn from each other.


I have loved to write ever since I was a little girl. As a child, I would enjoy writing many fun stories. This passion for writing was only fueled even more as I got older. I love to write on all topics related to life such as self-growth, positivity, life advice, relationships, mental health, and general skills that I have learned while navigating my own life. I thoroughly enjoy writing. As an adult, writing has taken on an even greater meaning.


Many times in life, I have scoured the internet looking for answers to life and trying to decode the behavior of others. These internet articles helped me tremendously. I hope that my writing will help you in some way. I hope that it makes even one person feel less alone, feel hopeful, feel motivated, I hope that my work makes at least someone know that they already possess inside of them all that they need to get them through life.

If I can touch one soul and make them feel like someone understands them and can relate to them, then that will make me beyond happy. I have a great hope that my work will speak to someone and help them in some way. I have so many messages to deliver to this world and many life experiences and advice that I want to pass on.


I enjoy talking about life, there is so much that we can learn from each other. Other individuals have different ways of thinking and approaching certain ideas and situations and by listening we can truly broaden our horizons and make ourselves more well-rounded and open-minded. I hope to make a difference in this world with my writing no matter how small!