The Puzzle Pieces of Life

Have you ever looked back on the events of your life and realized that good or bad, everything has seemed to fit so perfectly together like pieces of a puzzle? Maybe you didn’t get the dream job that you wanted, yet later went on to find something way better. Maybe you went to the doctor for a medical issue and while there the doctor discovered something that you hadn’t even noticed, they saved your life. Possibly you studied so hard to try to get into a specialized program in college, but you didn’t make it. Years later you found yourself in a situation that wouldn’t have allowed you to take on a job in that field.


The common denominator in the events above is that even though life may have strayed from where you wanted to be, in most ways everything added up, piece by piece the great puzzle of life started coming together. When we look back on our lives we may be able to pinpoint why certain things did or did not work out for us. Often it was a string of events that fit together so perfectly, that one by one our puzzle started fitting together.


There may be things in your life right now that you cannot explain how or why they happened, they just did. There may also be circumstances currently in your life that you realize looking back how much had to take place for x,y, and z to occur. Roadblocks and detours are a part of life and even though the road looks rough and rocky, in time it will take us to a very beautiful place.


I can remember several instances in my life where I was so disappointed with an outcome, I couldn’t understand why that had to happen to me. Time moved on and slowly I got back into the swing of life and kept moving forward. Years later I realize that some of these disappointments were the biggest blessings. I was being deviated from a path that would not serve me in the future. It may have taken months or years, but I eventually realized why things happened the way that they did, it was just the puzzle pieces falling into place.


The next time that a situation in your life doesn’t go the way you had hoped or planned, try to think of this as a blessing and a favor. You are being guided away from something that may have not served you nor made you happy.


Life is very interesting and complex. I like to tell myself that everything happens for a reason and that everything is coming together the way that it should. One event in our lives leads to another and so on. Piece by piece we lay down parts of the biggest puzzle that we call life.

How Many Times?

It’s happened to so many of us, you are sitting down focusing on what you are going to say and write, your mind is spinning with words as you come up with a way to present it perfectly, and then, pause, you delete it. If you are like me, this has happened one too many times.


How many times have you started writing a text message only to turn around and delete it? How many times have you spent precious time out of your day to create a blog post only to leave it unpublished? How many times have you bitten your tongue from saying something that you truly wanted to say? My guess is many.


Our thought process, though complex, is very natural. We see or hear something and we have a quick natural response to it inside our heads. When we are having a conversation with someone else, our minds are steadily creating thoughts and branches of thoughts. Your response to what another individual is saying most likely is fairly instantaneous. Your reaction is a true from-the-heart response.


The act of texting someone back and writing a blog post means that you had something that you wanted to say, something that was on your mind or in your heart. This response is authentic and often occurs without prolonged thinking. Whatever you had desired to write was important to you in some way, it had meaning and was genuine. What makes us want to delete something that we believed in and said?


There are many reasons that something we wanted to say will be left unsaid. We might be afraid of judgment, afraid to be vulnerable, worried that someone may disagree, fear rejection, or even that we may hurt someone’s feelings. You started to pour your heart out in a text message that took you several minutes to write just to instantly delete it, you started writing a blog post that will never be seen by another person’s eyes, you don’t reveal 100% of how you truly feel to avoid confrontation with another person.


This type of behavior is natural, yet it is not very positive for our lives. When we have something to say that ends up going unsaid, it puts a barrier between us and those that we love. We are not speaking our minds, which ends up hurting us because we are not truly being who we are. Having to withhold what you want to say is very detrimental to one’s autonomy. Of course, there may be times that we should not speak our minds, especially if it pertains to something that could offend someone. Feeling free to be ourselves is very beneficial to our overall wellbeing.


The next time that you have something to say, let it be known and see where it takes you. As a human being, you have the right to share with others what is on your mind and in your heart. We should not have to feel like we have to sensor everything we say unless, of course, it is something that could hurt another.


Send that text to a long-lost friend, have an open-hearted conversation with your significant other, and publish the blog post that you wrote that you didn’t think was worthy enough to be posted because what you have to say matters. Your words, thoughts, ideas, and feelings are all valid and important. The more that you start to align your actions with your thoughts and keep as close to your authentic self as possible, the more peace that you will attract in your life. Say what is on your mind and in your heart for the things left unsaid will never be known to anyone.

My Paranormal Experiences

Before I share this with you, I understand that the topic of ghosts and paranormal can be frightening to some people, it can also be a topic that some people do not believe in. I have always believed in ghosts and the afterlife and I became even more excited about this after the experiences that I had as a child and continue to have today.


Growing up, we moved a lot, most within the same state and neighboring counties, but we had our fair share of houses. My earliest experience happened when I was just a young girl. There was a radio that was kept in the bathroom and it would start playing music without even being on. My sister and I would look at each other confused because we knew that the radio was off and we didn’t know how it could play on its own. This was just the start of my paranormal journey.


Several years later, we moved to another home and this is where the craziness started. It didn’t take long before we noticed the TV turning off and on by itself, the sound of footsteps could be heard as could random tapping noises, none of which we could find an identifiable source.

Strange things were happening all around us and were witnessed by all members of my family. We became very uneasy living in our home. Days were filled with anxiety and odd energy around the house. A few years later we found ourselves moving to a different house, not because of the paranormal experiences, but it was a welcomed move, to say the least, especially for my sister and I.


Our new house was peaceful and not a ghostly sign in sight, it was also a new home, unlike our previous home which after researching we found out was built on top of a historic battleground. The years went by and still no sign of any paranormal activity, or so we thought.


Unfortunately, over the last decade I have lost numerous loved ones and as we all know, losing someone that was once close to us is very difficult and traumatic. It brings about so much peace when I get a sign from my departed loved ones. It could be a feather, a symbol in the clouds, or even a scent such as perfume that they used to wear. I have also gotten some not-so-subtle signs, such as soap flying off of the counter, and items that go missing around the house only to turn up in the most random place. I have experienced electronics that will start up or stop while speaking about a certain loved one. Yes, these could all be a huge coincidence, but I like to think that my loved ones are speaking to me from beyond.


Do you have any ghostly or paranormal experiences in general? I am beyond fascinated with hearing stories that others have witnessed. There is so much undiscovered in life.

If I Can

It always amazes me how many different walks of life there are. How similar, yet so different individuals can be. It amazes me that we can look at someone and they can seem “perfect” on the outside, yet we have no idea what is going on with them on the inside. The happiest person may have the toughest life, situations are not as they appear and that is what tricks the eye and mind. I am always amazed at the stories I hear and what others have gone through in their lives. I, myself have been through a lot in my life, we all have, and we can all truly learn from each other.


I have loved to write ever since I was a little girl. As a child, I would enjoy writing many fun stories. This passion for writing was only fueled even more as I got older. I love to write on all topics related to life such as self-growth, positivity, life advice, relationships, mental health, and general skills that I have learned while navigating my own life. I thoroughly enjoy writing. As an adult, writing has taken on an even greater meaning.


Many times in life, I have scoured the internet looking for answers to life and trying to decode the behavior of others. These internet articles helped me tremendously. I hope that my writing will help you in some way. I hope that it makes even one person feel less alone, feel hopeful, feel motivated, I hope that my work makes at least someone know that they already possess inside of them all that they need to get them through life.

If I can touch one soul and make them feel like someone understands them and can relate to them, then that will make me beyond happy. I have a great hope that my work will speak to someone and help them in some way. I have so many messages to deliver to this world and many life experiences and advice that I want to pass on.


I enjoy talking about life, there is so much that we can learn from each other. Other individuals have different ways of thinking and approaching certain ideas and situations and by listening we can truly broaden our horizons and make ourselves more well-rounded and open-minded. I hope to make a difference in this world with my writing no matter how small!

You Are Not Stuck

Have you ever felt that you couldn’t change certain aspects of yourself no matter how hard you tried? Do you keep finding yourself in similar situations over and over again even though you promised yourself that you wouldn’t go down that road again? Sometimes we hit a roadblock in life and it feels like we are truly stuck, it feels like no matter how many moves we make it’s always the wrong one. I’m here to tell you some good news…you are not stuck!

People are generally creatures of habit, we like the same route to work, we keep a similar schedule every day, and habit is what makes us feel comfortable. What if however, our habits are what is holding us back, causing us unhappiness, or giving us a sense of failure. As hard as it can be, you have the power to break the habit, you have the ability to free yourself from being stuck in life, you have the tools to overcome any obstacle that stands in your way. In most cases, the only thing stopping you is yourself!

Often times we make a promise to ourselves to change, we might make a decision to eat better, to exercise, to devote more time to our families, or we may simply be working on a part of ourselves that no longer serves us in life. We may feel that certain situations in life may be preventing us from moving forward and living our true authentic self. No matter how stuck that you feel, there are ways to help you become a better version of yourself and ways to move past certain situations in your life. Sometimes the solution is just taking another step in a different direction, a sort of indirect move that will ultimately land you where you are destined to be.

So often we find ourselves saying that we cannot leave a relationship because we have been with our significant other for many years, we can’t change our job because we don’t know if we have the skills to perform at a job much different than the one have, we cannot stop certain behaviors that we possess even though we know they do not have a positive effect on our lives. Many times we feel stuck because we don’t know what to do, or we may know, but not have the push to actually follow through. As with many things in life, true change takes a lot of hard work and determination.

Part of trying to get through the feeling of being stuck in life is knowing that there will most likely be consequences and sacrifices, but keep your eye on what you are wanting in life, keep your eye on your hopes and dreams and know that if you truly want change in your life, you have the power to do so in some way, shape, or form. Imagine the feeling that you will have when you reach a goal, when you no longer live with the daily burden of feeling trapped. I hope that in some way this gives you a sense of motivation to keep pressing for all that you desire your life to be!