Each of us is so different and unique and the views and opinions that we have about the world could be compared to night and day. Sometimes we find similarities in people and other times we can’t see eye to eye and that’s okay. We have all grown up differently and we have had different life experiences, so our views and opinions on certain things in life are going to be vastly different.
As hard as it may be, it is important to keep and open mind when trying to help others through a difficult time, even if what they are going through is not necessarily something that you and them see eye to eye about. Loved ones support each other no matter what, this doesn’t mean that you have to agree with it, but it’s important to not judge others. Only you know what’s best for you and only they know what is truly best for them.
I am a very strong-minded person and I have certain views that I don’t take lightly. I have learned to set aside my own strong feelings and views when trying to help someone who sees things the opposite as I do. I try to remove my feelings from the situation and look at how and why this person could be feeling the way they do. It’s no easy task, but an important one because when I need support from my loved ones, I’m happy when others easily support me even if they may not agree with my decisions or thoughts. Remember, you are supporting the person, not necessarily the decision the person has made etc. Wishing you a beautiful week and thank you for reading!
“What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it’s supposed to be.” – Jeremy Binns. This quote has always spoke so much to me. We have this vision in our heads that life should fall perfectly together and always have a fairytale ending. Yes, most things in life do tend to work out for the good in the end, but how we get there is usually less than perfect.
Ever since we were younger, we have had this image of what we thought, or wanted life to be like. We may have pictured graduating, then college, marriage, then kids. Whatever we invisioned for our future we thought we would easily have. When our life doesn’t take the path we had thought, or hoped, we then become anxious, sad, worried, so many emotions rush over us. The truth is, there is no perfect life, because nothing and no one in life is perfect. What is the ideal life for one, is not the ideal life for another.
We can have goals and dreams and hopes for our future, but when we expect life to go down a very rigid path with no bumps or detours, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. As hard as it is, go with the flow, see where life takes you. We are all living life in our own way, the best way that we know possible. Have compassion, have hope, and love one another.
When you are with other people they omit certain levels of energy that you can almost feel. You get good vibes from some and negative vibes from others. Your intuition is letting you know who may not be associating with you for the right reasons. We ourselves have energy, every living thing has energy and although we feel like we are unstoppable and without limits, we can so easily crash and burn if we do not protect our energy.
Many things in our lives consume our energy. Our daily routines, jobs, relationships, we are constantly putting out pieces of ourselves. Our lives require constant attention from us. We must decide where to divide our energy. It is so important not to head towards a breakdown, we can prevent that by making sure to take time out for ourselves to regroup and refresh. We also have to be careful who we allow in our lives because people can drain us of energy very quickly.
By default, many of us naturally want to be there for others, sometimes it’s as almost if we take on their problems. We want to help them and we will do anything in our power to be there for our loved ones. Sometimes, when this is prolonged, you can start to feel very drained and to a point resentful to the person who has drained you of your energy. We can only take care of others if we take care of ourselves. Be good to others and take care of each other, but also remember to guard your energy, for it is finite!
This year presents a new challenge as we get ready to celebrate the holidays. We have to take extra precautions to keep everyone safe, this may mean not visiting family, not traveling this year, not hosting holiday parties, etc. Even though the holidays will look very different this year, we can still make it very special!
There are several things that this pandemic can’t take away from us, we can still enjoy decorating, putting our tree up, cooking and baking, holiday crafts, watching holiday movies, talking with loved ones virtually. We can still keep a lot of our traditions alive amongst the chaos.
My hope for you is that you can enjoy the holidays this year and think of all of the things that you are grateful for. Lift your spirits by doing some of your all- time favorite holiday traditions!