No One is Watching

How many of you have gotten a bad haircut, had a blemish, fell down the stairs, or ended up spilling something on your shirt and felt like the whole world was watching?

I want to tell you that they probably aren’t! Any of the above situations is enough to cause anxiety on its own, but when you have a feeling that everyone is looking, watching, and noticing your every move, mistake, or flaw, it can be very overwhelming.

The Spotlight Effect

There is a term in Psychology known as The Spotlight Effect. This term is a description of how individuals feel that they are constantly on center stage and that everyone is noticing everything going on with them.

We start to feel anxiety, worry, and sometimes paranoia because we feel like we are in the spotlight and all eyes are on us.

In reality, most people are not watching. Most people will not notice the haircut that you do not like, most people will not notice the stain on your shirt. Most people are so involved with what is going on with them and their surroundings that things like this are not as obvious as they seem to us.

We know everything about ourselves, we know our flaws and all. Maybe someone is self-conscious about a scar that they have. They see it every day, they know it like the back of their hand, so they feel that because they are aware of it, so is everyone else. This is not the case!

Think About a Time

Think about a time when you felt self-conscious about something, you probably felt like all eyes were on you. It probably made you feel anxious to some degree. You may have even mentioned it to a friend or colleague.

If you did mention it, what response did you get? Most likely the other person said, “I didn’t notice!” Then we wish that we never said anything because we drew attention to something that no one even realized.

The Saying Goes

We have been told over and over not to worry about what other people think. It is hard to live by this, because I feel like many people, myself included, do constantly worry about what people think of them. We all have a dire need to feel love, acceptance, and respect.

Life really is so much easier when you go about it with a smile on your face and not worrying about what others think. As you can see with The Spotlight Effect, not everyone is truly watching like we think they are!

Are You an Earth Angel?

Have you heard of the term Earth Angel? It is a belief that someone is put on this earth to help and guide others. They are in human form; however, they have a great mission to help spread love and hope to others.

By nature, I am a very compassionate person that loves to make other people smile and make them happy. I want to spread positivity and hope to other individuals because I know how hard life is without each of these things. I enjoy lifting people up and offering a helping hand. This is just part of my personality; however, a term was thrown at me a few times that I had previously never heard of, and it had me wondering.

I Became Curious
I am definitely a believer in the afterlife, angels, ghosts, you name it. I have quite a lot of experience with the paranormal and connections with other realms. Over the last several years I have been approached by people that I know as well as complete strangers about the possibility of being an Earth Angel. I thought to myself “what is this? I am definitely not an “angel” though I see myself as a good person overall.” I then asked more questions, and I was told that I have a certain aura surrounding me. Again, I am not familiar with much of this, but it fascinates me, nonetheless.

Curious about the idea of Earth Angels I asked what sort of traits they tend to possess, and I learned the following.

Earth Angels tend to be:

  • Drawn to mystical things
  • Empathetic and sensitive
  • Feeling like they are out of place, or like they don’t belong
  • Very intuitive
  • Loving and caring and want to heal others
  • Drawn to helping others, you feel it’s your duty
  • Feeling emotions very deeply and heavily
  • Very upset in negative situations

Question For You

Can you relate to any of the above? I believe that we are all angels in some way. Each day, we spread a little love and light to others that cross our paths. We uplift, encourage, support, and motivate other people to be the best that they can be. Every kind word and kind gesture has the power to help change the world!

Leave What Cannot Be Undone

How many things are you currently worried about that cannot be changed? For many of us, it is quite a few things. We may be dwelling on a decision that we made, or regret some of our past behaviors. As hard as it is to not worry, analyze, and overthink the past, it is so necessary for our well-being and to be able to move forward.

As much as we may wish, our energy both physically and mentally is not infinite. We must take great care to preserve our energy and save it for things in our lives that truly require every bit of energy that we have left.

When we worry about things that happened in the past, we are using our precious energy on something that truly cannot be changed, it cannot be undone. I’m sure that you can count many times that you have said something like “I wish I didn’t leave my job,” or” I wish that I could go back in time and redo a certain relationship.”

Living in the Past

When we live in the past instead of the present, we are robbing ourselves of energy that we could be taking to solve problems and deal with life in the here and now. The past cannot be changed, what is done is done and I know that is very hard to accept sometimes but accepting that fact and also being able to leave what cannot be undone in the past is so important.

We could spend countless hours of our lives thinking we could have, would have, should have and although it can be a stress-reliever to overthink and analyze these thoughts, it serves us no purpose, it does not keep us from moving forward, it does not allow us to make good decisions now that will shape our more desired future.

Often, I find myself thinking of the past, how I would change certain things about it, and how I would have done things differently, yet if I spend all of my energy focusing on what I cannot change, I am wasting precious moments of my life where I can make a difference. As hard as it is, leave the past in the past. It is a part of you, but it does not define you, nor does it deserve any energy from you.

My Best Advice

Worrying about something that you can’t change is very common human behavior, however, it will get you nowhere. When you find yourself slipping into thinking about things that you are not able to change, then acknowledge that you are feeling a certain way and then let it go. Remind yourself that you are focusing on working towards things in your life that you currently have the power to influence.

Whatever you are worrying about today, know that things tend to happen for a reason, things happen for life to fall into place, and things happen for you to grow as a person, whatever you are worrying about today, know that the past is in the past and the present needs your attention. Though difficult, may this be a gentle reminder to put your thoughts, time, and energy into what you can control. Many blessings to you all!

Mercury Retrograde, I Feel Your Presence

Has anyone else noticed a difference in how life seems a little bit more chaotic this last week or so? In this last week, I have had so many odd things happen, things that normally wouldn’t cross my path in my everyday life.

I have always been one to feel the effects of energy. I am a very sensitive soul, an empath, and I feel energy very deeply. I can tell when there a full moon, it’s almost like I can feel it. One possibly lesser-known phenomenon is that of the Mercury retrograde.

What is the Mercury Retrograde?

Mercury has a typical orbiting pattern and three times a year, its orbit position changes. According to Mercury’s view from Earth, it can be seen moving “backward.”

It is said that during this time people tend to feel off and life can have many mishaps. Life during a retrograde period is perceived to be hectic and unsettled with odd events happening often.

What Has Happened to Me?

Over the last week, I have noticed that I am feeling a little more anxious and unsettled, my mind has been racing and although I am an anxious person in general, it has been magnified. I also have been feeling a fluctuation of fatigue and restless energy.

Random things have occurred like lights burning out, issues with the Medium website, getting my finger caught in a door, hurting my back on a railing when I stood up, and forgetting things that I don’t normally forget.

Yesterday, I was getting groceries and I had to have all of my items scanned at check-out not once, not twice, but three times because of an error. I drove home with my groceries in the trunk. Once I parked my car in front of the house, I opened the trunk and one of my bags immediately fell out. I was able to save everything except for the cherry tomatoes that had fallen all over the pavement. These things just don’t tend to happen often!

Of course, we could chalk all of the craziness up to coincidence, but so many things at once do not occur typically. Either way, it has been interesting, to say the least.

My Sister Told Me

I had just gotten home and was talking with my sister when I mentioned how much misfortune happened to me lately and she told me that Mercury was in retrograde, and mishaps tend to occur during this period. I have heard of this before and I know what the Mercury retrograde is, however, I was not aware that we are currently in one. This retrograde will be from September 9th to October 2nd. It makes sense now!

Question for You

Have you been feeling off or restless lately? Have you noticed any odd things happening that typically don’t occur? Have you felt that things feel a bit off? I would love to hear if anyone else has experienced the craziness that supposedly comes with the Mercury retrograde.

No Longer Vital

Being surrounded by water was essential to our survival when we were in the womb. From the second that we were born, we needed air to live. Life changes so much and what is vital to us in one moment may no longer be in another.

It is important to remember that sometimes we create habits as we go along in life. At one point they served us, but they may not always. Now and then I find it to be a good idea to evaluate the many areas of your life and see what is working for you and what is no longer vital.

How Life Changes

As we go through life, we have different wants and needs. Sometimes these needs change and sometimes not, or the degree to which we need them changes.

Maybe you went through a phase where you wanted to be surrounded by people, but now you need to enjoy your own company and take some time for self-reflection. Maybe at one point working two jobs was vital to your well-being and finances, but now you are more financially comfortable, and resting from all of your hard work is the most important.

I am currently doing some spring cleaning of my life. I am shedding parts of me that no longer serve me, I am making changes to things that bother me, or make me unhappy. It feels great, even though some of the changes are very small. Any progress towards a goal is a huge motivator.

The Importance

Evaluating and reflecting on life is very important, especially if you feel like there is an area or more that you are not happy with. We are constantly changing and growing as individuals, and we should try to align our lives as closely to our sense of ideal as possible.

By ridding parts of your life or habits that no longer have a positive effect on you, there is room for the most important things. We are ever evolving and any changes that we can make to our lives no matter how small can help us live a little easier and happier!

I invite you to examine your life and take a look at the areas that you feel could be improved. How can you make a difference in these areas? What can you do to live a fuller life? Are there parts of you that you can shed to allow for more growth? Feel free to share if you would like!