Find the Meaning

Have you ever got to thinking and realized that some situations keep arising in your life? Do you get upset or mad at yourself when you respond exactly the same way to life each time? Are you confused on why certain things don’t seem to stop repeating themselves over and over? Perhaps you may think you are doing something wrong, or that your life will never change, but it can and it will in time.

I am a firm believer that all situations in our lives, good or bad, were placed there to help us grow and become the best person we can possibly be. They were meant to teach us and make us stronger. I truly believe that each lesson is there and will result is greatness once mastered. Think of how amazing the feeling is when you conquer something, or you no longer struggle with something that has plagued you because you didn’t give up on finding a way to change and make it work.

Life can no doubt be very challenging, sometimes I let my struggles get the best of me. Lately I have been trying to challenge my thoughts by thinking of what I am meant to learn by my circumstances. What lesson is this situation, or person trying to teach me? Life is all about learning and pushing forward.

A Side of Me

There are different sides to us that come about as we navigate through life.  We may have a shy, serious, confident, or anxious side.  There are many sides to someone and they are uniquely ours, they make up our personality.  Some sides of us go quiet until they are awakened, or provoked, others are a daily part of who we are. 

Blogging brings out a side of me that is seen on a regular basis, but also a side that very few people get to see in my personal life.  By nature, I am a very silly and goofy person, I love to laugh and to make people laugh.  My sense of humor is rarely seen in my blogs because blogging brings out a more serious side of me.  Those who know me in real life know that serious is not typically a word to describe me, I am more of a laid back and goofy person.  I very much enjoy talking about deep topics and life experiences, but not all people like to engage in that sort of conversation and even for me it takes a special person, one that I am comfortable with, for me to bring that side out.

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I thoroughly enjoy blogging, it is such a huge passion of mine.  I will actually be writing a blog post at some point dedicated to the reasons why I love to blog so much.  Blogging takes me to a different place, a different world, it is almost like when you hear people who love to read say they got lost in a book, or when you sit down to watch a movie, how it kind of takes you away from your own life and into another realm.  Through blogging, one can see my reflective, serious, deep-in-thought side, it brings out much more depth of my soul that I don’t show to many in my everyday life.  My thoughts start to flow as soon as I pick up a pen.

Blogging can be very personal as the blogger is typically writing about their innermost thoughts and life experiences.  I know many of my posts are inspired by these two things although my blogs are not extremely personal because I tend to direct my thoughts and experiences more to the general public in hopes that they will in some way inspire, enlighten, motivate, and make others feel connected.  I also tend to indirectly link my personal life into my blog posts.

I suppose that maybe this is why people like hobbies, they bring out different sides of us, they are a form of expression, they allow us to be ourselves.  Whatever you have a passion for, whatever sets your soul on fire, add that to your life and see where it takes you!

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Trust in Timing!

     Have you ever had a certain event happen in your life that when you looked back so many smaller events had to take place for that one event to occur?  There are so many instances in my life where things either came together or fell apart and it wasn’t until later, sometimes much later in life that I realized why.  Looking back on life, it all seems to fit together like pieces of a puzzle. 

        I’m sure that many of us have felt, or still may feel like certain things may never happen.  We often hear people saying things like “I’ll never get married,” “I’ll never have kids,” “I will never land my dream job,” etc.  We spend so many hours, days, months, years wishing and hoping.  It is true that in some cases we may not always be able to obtain what we desire and that is really difficult to accept, however many times though we eventually get our heart’s desires even if the timing was not what we had planned.

           Though some of you may disagree, I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that what is meant to be will always find its way.  We may want something so badly, but it is not yet in our timing to receive it.  It’s difficult to wait patiently for things that we desire and it can cause a lot of anxiety to wonder if our desires will ever come true, but one thing for sure, the older I get, I realize that things truly do seem to happen as they should. 

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           I am a very deep thinker and feeler and I love to sit and think and ponder about life.  I often think how so many things had to come together so perfectly to end up where I am now in my life.  The times that really wore on me and tried me, made me stronger and wiser.  Everyone sees life differently and has their own experiences and beliefs and it’s easier to see this reflection when you have come out of the tunnel versus when you are in it. 

           Life is definitely a crazy ride, a crazy journey, and it is beautiful in it’s own way.  If one can really tune into the meaning of life, the good and the bad, it makes it that much more precious.  Thank you all for reading as always and I wish each and every one of you all of your heart’s desires!

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Life Talk: True Friends and Toxic People

So much of our lives are spent interacting with other individuals on many different levels. We can have acquaintances, friends, family, significant others, coworkers, etc. Each encounter and individual that we meet has the power to impact us greatly…positively or negatively. I personally believe that certain individuals and situations are brought into our lives to serve a specific purpose.

I used to accept just about everyone into my life when I was younger. I definitely learned the hard way that this was not an ideal way of life, but every relationship and situation that we go through has the power to make us stronger. I’ve been through my fair share of fake friends and toxic people, but I have also been blessed with some true friends along the way. I must say that the older I get, these true friends sure do seem like one in a million, they are such a rare find. I do believe that part of this is because as we age, we have a better idea of the qualities that we look for in people when entering into any sort of relationship.

The older we get, we truly realize how precious our energy is and how much the people in our lives affect us. We start to notice who has been our true friend through good and bad and who has been there only at their convenience. Sometimes we may have a friend that is a true friend, but yet a toxic friend as well, or we may have a definite toxic friend that we should remove from our lives.

There are signs of a true friend and a toxic friend. True friends feel like a 50/50 give and take relationship. Both parties feel cared for and supported, there is no selfish or self-absorbed behavior. True friends should feel like a good balance, they should make you feel comfortable and able to be yourself. You’ll find them around during the good times and the bad. Toxic friends on the other hand usually don’t give you the best feeling. The relationship may appear one-sided, they may expect you to be there for them, but when you need them they can’t be found. Toxic friends will use us, put us down, and drain our energy.

I try not to let the past friendships and relationships affect my current and future ones, but having had many fake and toxic friends over the years, I have slowly built a wall up and it is harder to allow people in. I have to remind myself that new individuals are not part of my past and they deserve a clean slate and to be given a chance, some people are truly good and not out to do harm. Trust your gut instincts when dealing with others and love and cherish the ones that are truly there for you!

Knowing who to remove from your life can make all the difference in the world. Your energy is very precious, preserve it.