A Winding Path

Life as we know it has many ups and downs. It will take us on many adventures along the way with many roadblocks, detours, and victories. Life is full of many unknowns, some good, some bad, some in-between. One thing for sure, it will keep us on our toes.

There are many beliefs about life, everyone has their own viewpoint. For me, I believe that everyone has been given a certain life path to help them grow and learn while here in the physical world. While I believe there can be deviations to our path, for the most part, I believe that we are destined to go through certain things and that our path is unique to us and designed for us to achieve the optimum growth that we possibly can. Others may disagree, this is just my belief and opinion!

When we were younger, we most likely had a vision of how life would unfold for us, or how we had hoped for it to unfold. Maybe there are some of you who’s lives have turned out exactly how you expected it to, but for a lot of us, I feel like the journey has been quite the opposite of what we expected. I know for me, my journey has been far from what I had anticipated.

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We have always been told to try hard not to worry about the future, but to focus on the present instead. The future that we try to plan for now may look very different once we get there. Life and circumstances are ever-changing, we could be worrying about something that will never happen, or that may happen, but in a completely different context.

No one likes to face battles, darkness, or suffering and sadly all of these things are a part of life. The beauty of these hard times is the joy that we receive from overcoming these challenging moments in life, the feeling of growth, strength, and maturation. Life is going to throw a lot of things at us and our strength is what will help us conquer it all.

Each of your lives is very precious and very special. The path that you have been given will for sure be a winding one, but my hope is that you will see the beauty in the path that has been uniquely laid out for you!

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The Perfect Life

I’m sure for a lot of us, we have had an image or idea of the kind of life plan, or life path that we wanted to take.  For some of us, we have had an idea of the “perfect life” since we were children.  Maybe we dreamed of going to college, getting married, then having children, or maybe our goal was to graduate high school, become an entrepreneur, and explore the world.  Whatever your ideal life had looked like, I am sure that it is somewhat quite different than you had envisioned.

I think with anything in life, we have some sort of idea of how we want, or expect things to play out.  We have this vision of what would happen if we could perfectly lay out the foundation of our own lives.  I know with my own life personally, I had a vision of my “perfect” life and what I had hoped would happen this far.  Overall, I have achieved many things that I wanted, however the way in which I obtained them, or the order in which they occurred in my life was nothing like I ever expected.  Like many, I have had some tremendous hurdles, road blocks, and detours in life.  If someone would have sat me down and told me all that was going to happen in my life, I probably wouldn’t have believed them. Life rarely turns out like we expect it to and I think sometimes we get so set on how life should be that it really catches us off guard when life does not go as planned.

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Life takes us down some very unexpected paths.  We have this vision of how we want life to unfold and in reality, our lives are nowhere near this dream or ideal life.  Nothing and no one is perfect.  While it’s excellent to have goals, visions, and plans, we must also be cautious enough to not bank so much on certain things in the event that they do not play out, or do not play out as we expected. We can make plans, but we are not in full control of what happens to us.

I am thankful for the good and the bad in life and although I may not understand why some things happened the way they did, or why certain things have not come into my life, I am blessed for what I do have and excited for what will come in the future.  There is beauty in not knowing, there is beauty in the strength that comes from challenges and struggles.  There is no such thing as a perfect life, but our life is special and has a purpose even if it doesn’t turn out the way we had expected it to, it’s still a very beautiful gift.

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Trust in Timing!

     Have you ever had a certain event happen in your life that when you looked back so many smaller events had to take place for that one event to occur?  There are so many instances in my life where things either came together or fell apart and it wasn’t until later, sometimes much later in life that I realized why.  Looking back on life, it all seems to fit together like pieces of a puzzle. 

        I’m sure that many of us have felt, or still may feel like certain things may never happen.  We often hear people saying things like “I’ll never get married,” “I’ll never have kids,” “I will never land my dream job,” etc.  We spend so many hours, days, months, years wishing and hoping.  It is true that in some cases we may not always be able to obtain what we desire and that is really difficult to accept, however many times though we eventually get our heart’s desires even if the timing was not what we had planned.

           Though some of you may disagree, I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that what is meant to be will always find its way.  We may want something so badly, but it is not yet in our timing to receive it.  It’s difficult to wait patiently for things that we desire and it can cause a lot of anxiety to wonder if our desires will ever come true, but one thing for sure, the older I get, I realize that things truly do seem to happen as they should. 

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           I am a very deep thinker and feeler and I love to sit and think and ponder about life.  I often think how so many things had to come together so perfectly to end up where I am now in my life.  The times that really wore on me and tried me, made me stronger and wiser.  Everyone sees life differently and has their own experiences and beliefs and it’s easier to see this reflection when you have come out of the tunnel versus when you are in it. 

           Life is definitely a crazy ride, a crazy journey, and it is beautiful in it’s own way.  If one can really tune into the meaning of life, the good and the bad, it makes it that much more precious.  Thank you all for reading as always and I wish each and every one of you all of your heart’s desires!

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Decisions: You Have the Power

Life is full of choices and the decisions that we make can have a great impact on our lives. We go through life everyday making decisions big and small. We encounter situations that we don’t give much thought to and ones that make us dwell on them for days. We are faced with decisions from the moment we wake up to the time that we go to bed. We have to decide what to have for breakfast, which route to take to work, where we spend our money, how we spend our day, what time we go to bed at night, etc. We are always faced with some sort of choice to make and that choice will ultimately lead us to another situation and possibly another choice!

One can spend hours, days, months, or years debating and contemplating a decision, especially one that has the ability to change our lives forever. I was recently faced with one of the greatest decisions that I have ever had to make in my life and I want to share how I reached that decision. It took months, but after careful analyzing of the situation, I knew I had made the right choice.

Most likely, when you are faced with a certain situation, your mind will be running in all directions and will probably feeling a bit like a hamster running on a wheel. One thought leads to another, that leads to another, and so on. Once we reach the point that we know that we are faced with a situation or decision, and we can calm down after that initial stage of anxiety, panic, sadness, whatever emotion we are feeling, then we can begin to look at the situation more logically without having our emotions rule most of our decision-making.

Step one when I need to make a big decision is a pro/con list. I can think of the positives and negatives in my head, but to write it out on paper gives me a true visual image. Sometimes when you try to name positives and negatives for a particular choice, you feel like each side is pretty equal until you write it all down and realize that there really is no case…there is a clear winner! After looking at the pros/cons of a decision, I then look at each option and think if I chose that option, what possibilities could that lead me to? If I don’t choose that option, what could that mean for me and my future? Of course, we cannot always know how things will play out in life, but we may be able to get an idea of the possibilities and that could help aide us in our decision-making.

We all have different views and opinions about life and circumstances and this is just mine, but I truly do believe that everything happens for a reason. Life seems to fit together so perfectly like pieces of a puzzle and as it unfolds we can often see why a particular event didn’t occur, or why we are no longer with someone that we loved. We have to go through certain events to make us stronger and more knowledgeable, they help us grow as a person. I believe that we all have a life path that was created just for us, we are all on our own unique journey, but we are here to learn, grow, and help each other through it.

Feel free to comment on any recent decisions that you have had to make and I wish you all the best of luck as we navigate through life!

Life is a Beautiful Mess

What an adventure life is! It’s quite a journey with highs and lows and everything in-between. I’m sure that a lot of us have had some sort of envision of how we hoped or expected our lives to turn out. For example, you may have hoped to attend college, but couldn’t, you may have envisioned getting married, then having children, but maybe you’ll be doing that in a different order. Possibly you’ve been diagnosed with a medical condition that has changed the course of your life or reordered your dreams. Whatever the case may be, I just want to leave you with this message: life is messy.

It is natural to have certain envisions for your life and when they don’t happen, or they happen at a different time than you wished, we can often lose hope. It is in these moments that I try to remind myself that my life is playing out just the way it should and that everything happens for a reason. These are just my beliefs and opinions that I have, they help keep me going. Life doesn’t have to go perfectly or exactly as planned, we are only human and we have minimal control over most things in life. It’s okay for life to take you to places that are not the “norm.” When we realize that life is messy and not meant to be perfect, we can release some control and stress over feeling responsible when things don’t go as we want them to.

I have had many events in my life that definitely brought me down in the beginning. I had to work through the “loss” of particular parts of my life that I had envisioned that either won’t or didn’t occur as planned. After the acceptance process, I was able to look at life from a different point of view. I would look for the positives in a situation and keep those in mind instead of dwelling on the negatives. Even in the darkest times, there is usually a silver lining. Also, realize that there is no perfect life, that life is messy and chaotic, it’s a series of events that help us learn and become stronger.

We often look around at other individuals and we see them laughing or smiling, or we see joyous pictures of people on social media and think that others must have a much better life than us, or that they must be happier than us. When you sit down and talk to others, you will realize that everyone has a battle, we are all dealing with something. When we talk to others, it can help us to realize that we are not so alone, we don’t have to feel so alienated. Whatever you are dealing with at this moment, please don’t give up hope and just know that things have a way of working themselves out in the end.

Your life story has the ability to impact so many. Stay strong and may all of your dreams come true!