Why the Difference?

One of the greatest things in life is the love and support of family and friends. Why do we treat our loved ones so much differently than we treat ourselves? We should make taking care of ourselves mentally and physically our utmost priority. We cannot give much of ourselves to this world if we are not whole.

Most of us are very hard on ourselves, I know that I am. I’m told this over and over again, yet I don’t see it myself.

Imagine that you made a mistake on a project that you are working on at your job. You might tell yourself “I can’t do anything right; I am such a failure.” Flip this situation around. A family member or friend is in the same situation, they just made a huge mistake on a project they were working on. What do you tell them? Would you tell them that they cannot do anything right and that they are a failure? Probably not. Instead, you might tell your friend that they did the best that they could do and that they are only human and it’s natural to make a mistake now and then.

You and your significant other just got into a fight and you start saying to yourself “I am never good at relationships,” you keep telling yourself “I am a terrible communicator.” What if a friend was going through this, what would you tell them? Maybe you would say that they should take some time for themselves to regroup and try to remedy the situation, maybe you would tell your friend that relationships aren’t easy, that constant effort is needed, and this doesn’t make them a bad person.

Do you see the differences in how people typically speak to themselves versus a loved one? One’s internal dialogue is so very important because we start to believe what we tell ourselves. Negative self-talk is very detrimental to us and those that we have a relationship with.

Why is it that we can so easily support the people that we love, but we cannot give that same grace and support to ourselves? Why is it that we can quickly build someone else up, while so easily tearing ourselves apart?

We are so hard on ourselves due to human nature; we know all of our faults and weaknesses and we tend to not have patience with ourselves. We also know about our pasts, and we carry parts of that with us. Whether we like to admit it or not, it does affect our confidence. We like to place other people on a pedestal, while we are the ones that are flawed as we strive to be perfect, something beyond human capability.

The next time that you are dealing with something in life, and you find that you are being hard on yourself remember to stop and ask yourself what you would tell a loved one that was in your exact situation. You give so much kindness, hope, and empathy to others, be kind to yourself…you deserve it.

If I Can

It always amazes me how many different walks of life there are. How similar, yet so different individuals can be. It amazes me that we can look at someone and they can seem “perfect” on the outside, yet we have no idea what is going on with them on the inside. The happiest person may have the toughest life, situations are not as they appear and that is what tricks the eye and mind. I am always amazed at the stories I hear and what others have gone through in their lives. I, myself have been through a lot in my life, we all have, and we can all truly learn from each other.


I have loved to write ever since I was a little girl. As a child, I would enjoy writing many fun stories. This passion for writing was only fueled even more as I got older. I love to write on all topics related to life such as self-growth, positivity, life advice, relationships, mental health, and general skills that I have learned while navigating my own life. I thoroughly enjoy writing. As an adult, writing has taken on an even greater meaning.


Many times in life, I have scoured the internet looking for answers to life and trying to decode the behavior of others. These internet articles helped me tremendously. I hope that my writing will help you in some way. I hope that it makes even one person feel less alone, feel hopeful, feel motivated, I hope that my work makes at least someone know that they already possess inside of them all that they need to get them through life.

If I can touch one soul and make them feel like someone understands them and can relate to them, then that will make me beyond happy. I have a great hope that my work will speak to someone and help them in some way. I have so many messages to deliver to this world and many life experiences and advice that I want to pass on.


I enjoy talking about life, there is so much that we can learn from each other. Other individuals have different ways of thinking and approaching certain ideas and situations and by listening we can truly broaden our horizons and make ourselves more well-rounded and open-minded. I hope to make a difference in this world with my writing no matter how small!

A Little Kindness

I know how important kindness is, I know how important it is for other people and for ourselves. With so much going on in this world, sometimes we forget that a simple hello, or a smile can go such a long way. Your act of kindness may be one that someone hasn’t had for a long time. A smile and a nice gesture can change a life.

When life gets rough, it can be hard to focus on the good, we keep wanting to focus on what is going on in our lives and how we can fix it. We can forget how something so small can make us feel human, connected, loved, and respected. Everyone is fighting many battles in their own lives. The happiest person also struggles deeply because we are all human no matter what face we may put on. The kindness of even just one person has the power to turn a day around and even change a life. Make someone’s day today, smile, let them go ahead of you in line, give a hug, check in on a loved one, treat others the way you want to be treated. YOU can truly make a difference!

My Mission in this World

     Within us all, we each have a passion that drives us and motivates us.  We have a goal, a mission, a mark that we want to leave on this Earth.  We are all so unique and have many different interests that spark the light within us.  I have many aspirations in this world, but one of my main missions in life is to show love, respect, kindness, compassion, and to help mankind.  Every single positive interaction that we have with others has the infinite ability to change lives and change the world. 

      A lot of times we go through life kind of on autopilot.  There’s so much to get done in a day and as we carry out our daily routines we are not always aware of the impact that we have on others and the world around us.  As I go through my day, I am not really aware of how I impact other people unless they tell me.  I try to make each interaction with others one that will help them or lift them up in some way.  If we are having a rough day, or are not in the best mood, it can be really hard to put out our best efforts to show respect and kindness to others. 

      I have been through a whole lot in my life, we all have, and I have experienced many things that I never thought that I would in my lifetime, let alone at my age.  Each of these experiences has taught me something, made me stronger, made me wiser, allowed me to see life in a very different light.  My mission in life is to inform others, help others, enlighten others, and to spread hope to other individuals.

   Helping people doesn’t have to be anything major, a simple smile, hug, a thinking-of-you card, or a text to check in on someone could mean the world to them.  I wrote in one of my past blogs about a woman that I had given a compliment to and she smiled and was taken aback by it, she then told me that no one had given her a complement for years.  Not only did this break my heart, it made me realize that everything we do and say no matter how small it seems to us has the potential to have so much power and affect someone’s life.  

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    Helping other people benefits everyone involved.  There is such joy and happiness that comes from knowing that you have helped someone, or turned their day around.  People who receive help and love are more likely to pay it forward.  It is also important to note that not everyone shows love and compassion in the same way.  Some may like to cook someone a meal, send a card, make a phone call to check in, a smile, a hug, even just truly listening shows compassion, the ways are really endless.

       I can think of many times in my life that people were there for me and unfortunately many times where people hurt me.  It’s definitely a part of growing and learning, but people don’t forget kindness, they don’t forget the people that were there for them when no one else was.  What we say and do has a lasting effect on other people, this is a big motivator to help me try to do my best daily.  I have so much that I am working on to try to better myself, there are things that I would like to improve on, no one is anywhere near perfect, we all have flaws, fears, and we all have a past full of experiences as human beings.  My mission for this world is to spread love and respect for mankind, it’s up to us, we have the power.  Have a great day all and try to do something today to show your love to someone, it’ll make both of your days.

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Calling Compassion

Have you ever wondered how different this world could be if we all learned to have respect and compassion for others? So many of our world’s problems stem from a lack of compassion for mankind. Sometimes we may be stressed, or caught up in our own lives, and we may forget just how much of an impact our words and actions have on someone else.

I am sure that most of us can recall moments in our lives where we have felt disrespected or unimportant. We may have been bullied at school or at work, we may have confided in a friend who didn’t seem to care much about what we had to say. We could have experienced loneliness that made us feel unworthy. The smallest gestures – a smile, a nod, a handshake, a hug, even a kind word, or simple hello can bring so much happiness to someone’s day. Kind gestures can foster trust between two people, you never know if you may be the only person who has shown such kindness to that individual in a long time. I recently spoke with someone who said that I was the first person to give her a compliment for as long as she could remember, I was surprised and saddened by this.

Compassion not only makes the receiving individual happy, but being the one showing love and compassion to others is such a boost to our own happiness. Helping others is so fulfilling and rewarding. We don’t truly know what is going on in other people’s lives, they are fighting battles that we may know nothing about. An act of kindness no matter how small goes a long way. If we could all learn to get along and show love, or at the very least respect, this world would be a much better place. We are not going to like everyone that we encounter in our lives, but at the very least, there should be a mutual level of respect as human beings. Sometimes that is very difficult especially if another individual has done us wrong, but if we choose compassion, we won’t have to live with such negativity in our hearts and on our conscience.

There are many ways to show compassion to others. A smile, a conversation, a comforting hug, a card, a text or call to check in, even just listening to someone and offering your time. There are times that we get so caught up in the everyday that we forget the impact that we make on others unless they tell us. No matter what we are facing, we should always choose to press forward with love in our hearts, it can make a difference to your world and mine.