It hit me the other day…I was pulling into a parking space, just getting home from work. We had gotten a 10″ snowstorm the weekend before and as much as I love snow, finding enough parking after a storm can be quite difficult. I remember shortly after the storm, the snow was piled up all over the roads. As beautiful as it is, it made parking a little tricky for about a week. I remember coming home everyday trying to maneuver my car into a space. I couldn’t wait for the sun to melt some of it away. We had a really warm day the other day, it reached over 60 degrees and the remaining snow had melted away and that’s when it hit me…
A brief moment of sadness rushed over me as I pulled so easily into my parking space. I know this may sound crazy, but this small routine moment made me reach a large realization. I have heard this time and time again, but have always found it difficult to do…that is to live in the moment. As life unfolds, I tend to just go through the motions, or look to the future, sometimes dwell on the past, but hardly ever live for today and in the moment. There can be so much that we are missing when we are not fully paying attention to our present moment. Good or bad, as hard as it is, if we are constantly stuck in the past, or focused on the future, we are missing the here and now.
When we practice living for today, so many opportunities can flow to us, we are more open and focused on our surroundings, our energy and minds are set in the present moment. Easily parking my car, such a simple event, was what I needed to really push myself to try to live in the moment. I was so busy wanting the snow to melt so that I could park my car with ease, that when the snow did finally all melt away I missed it because I did not fully enjoy it while it was there.
Time cannot be taken back, if we focus on today, we can start getting the most out of life. This will definitely not be an easy habit to change, but I am appreciative of my own mini wake-up call. Enjoy each day and each moment, for time keeps pressing on and is soon to become just a memory.
What an adventure life is! It’s quite a journey with highs and lows and everything in-between. I’m sure that a lot of us have had some sort of envision of how we hoped or expected our lives to turn out. For example, you may have hoped to attend college, but couldn’t, you may have envisioned getting married, then having children, but maybe you’ll be doing that in a different order. Possibly you’ve been diagnosed with a medical condition that has changed the course of your life or reordered your dreams. Whatever the case may be, I just want to leave you with this message: life is messy.
It is natural to have certain envisions for your life and when they don’t happen, or they happen at a different time than you wished, we can often lose hope. It is in these moments that I try to remind myself that my life is playing out just the way it should and that everything happens for a reason. These are just my beliefs and opinions that I have, they help keep me going. Life doesn’t have to go perfectly or exactly as planned, we are only human and we have minimal control over most things in life. It’s okay for life to take you to places that are not the “norm.” When we realize that life is messy and not meant to be perfect, we can release some control and stress over feeling responsible when things don’t go as we want them to.
I have had many events in my life that definitely brought me down in the beginning. I had to work through the “loss” of particular parts of my life that I had envisioned that either won’t or didn’t occur as planned. After the acceptance process, I was able to look at life from a different point of view. I would look for the positives in a situation and keep those in mind instead of dwelling on the negatives. Even in the darkest times, there is usually a silver lining. Also, realize that there is no perfect life, that life is messy and chaotic, it’s a series of events that help us learn and become stronger.
We often look around at other individuals and we see them laughing or smiling, or we see joyous pictures of people on social media and think that others must have a much better life than us, or that they must be happier than us. When you sit down and talk to others, you will realize that everyone has a battle, we are all dealing with something. When we talk to others, it can help us to realize that we are not so alone, we don’t have to feel so alienated. Whatever you are dealing with at this moment, please don’t give up hope and just know that things have a way of working themselves out in the end.
Your life story has the ability to impact so many. Stay strong and may all of your dreams come true!