Tag: Identity

I’ve Always Liked Eccentric People

First of all, I love people in general. There are interesting aspects about every individual. We are all unique in our own way. Some individuals are extra unique, or what some may call eccentric.

 I am not eccentric myself, but I have always loved others that are!

We’re All Different

I find those that are eccentric to be captivating. They really hold my attention and to me, they are such an inspiration to live authentically.

Maybe it’s the way that they approach life without a care in the world, maybe it’s the fact that they don’t worry about what others do or say, they just live. Eccentric individuals aren’t typically afraid to be themselves or go against the crowd. They have their own way. There are those with eccentric looks and personalities and those with both!

Individuality makes this world go round. A life that is lived out of fear of what others think is a miserable feeling! It’s not always easy or even safe to live the life that we desire, but if we are able, it can be so freeing.

Expression 

I think much of the time, our personal appearance is a statement to the outside world. While looks don’t matter in a sense, sometimes eccentric looks are a message and a statement that cannot always be verbalized. People will have general thoughts about others based on what they see.

Personality is often ingrained, but there are some parts of us that we can use as a form of expression. We can’t judge a book by its cover, but we can get an idea of how someone may want themselves to be portrayed.

My Goal

This year, authenticity is my goal. Overall, I am doing better than I expected. I feel as though I may be drawn to eccentric individuals because they can usually live fully authentic lives. They are able to show and express themselves on many levels and not worry what others think of them, or if it goes against the norm. Some may be afraid to be themselves, but the fact that they took the plunge to be different is amazing to me!

I truly admire and love people that can so easily be themselves. There’s no thinking involved, they just live freely and without worry. We all have fears, but someone like myself lets it run my life and I am trying hard to change that. I overthink and worry too much about what others think. There is freedom beyond that type of thinking!

So Much Beauty

There is a lot of beauty in being yourself. Eccentric or not, we all are unique and have something special to give this world and others. Most people struggle to be fully authentic at some point in their lives, even those who aren’t afraid to express themselves. Human nature takes over and we often experience similar feelings and situations as we are all part of the human race.

The world needs you, all aspects of YOU. Cheers to living authentically!

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Hiding Behind a Screen

To be or not to be…anonymous that is! One of the first decisions that has to be made when creating a blog is to decide whether or not to be anonymous. I thought long and hard about this a few years ago and ultimately decided that I wanted my identity to be unknown, at least at the starting point.

When I first started, I chose my blog name and then a picture of a beautiful sunset and clouds by the water. Inside the clouds, I put a faded picture of my face. I wanted to add a slightly personal touch, but then I realized that it looked a little creepy! The next choice was a cursive “J” in my favorite color, purple.

Back and Forth

I go back and forth almost daily on whether I want to remain anonymous or not. I know that I would not use my real name as I have created this one a long time ago and it’s too late to change it now, there is too much history! I also strongly desire to change my blog name, but that opportunity is out the window. I debate whether I want to replace my purple “J” with a picture of me. There are several reasons that I am on the fence about this, and I don’t see myself coming up with a conclusion any time soon. This decision has been on my mind for months.

Since I tend to write mainly about my life, the experiences that I have had, and the individuals in my life, I feel more comfortable being anonymous. This way, I can write freely about what I want without having to worry that anyone will find out about it. Being anonymous allows me to write on all subjects involving myself and the people in my life without the need to censor. I suppose that I should be doing this regardless as my goal is authenticity, but I am taking baby steps.

The main reason I want to shed this anonymous identity is I feel that it puts distance between you lovely writers and myself. I “know” who most of you are at least picture-wise, however, no one knows who I am. It feels a bit like I am disconnected. I know that it’s the words and character that truly matter, but I think it’s great to “put a face to a name.” It creates a more personal connection.

Mystery

On the other hand, I think being anonymous leaves a lot of mystery and in some ways that is fun and thrilling. I tried to put myself in other people’s shoes who write here without a “face,” and I feel just as connected to them as I do others. 

I can still get a sense of who someone is just by their words and comments and their face doesn’t interfere with the connection that I build with others. My only hope is that other people feel the same way.

For now, J will continue to be a mystery woman, but I will continue to sleep on this, and possibly in the future I may choose a different route. Stay tuned!