We Are All One

Although not healthy, it is natural to compare ourselves to other people. We want to know that we are similar enough to others, that we are not alone, and that we are all humans living this crazy life journey.

I love when I see other people that are unique and eccentric, I love when others are true to who they are and are not afraid to show all sides of themselves. I also love when I get a glimpse of someone, and it shows that they are human and the same as the rest of us.

Our Backgrounds

We all come from very different backgrounds. We have experienced different childhoods, teenage years, and adult life. Each of our struggles and burdens are unique to us. With this, comes individual mindsets, thinking patterns, and the way that we view the world.

Sometimes we fear that we are different than others in a negative way. We think that others have something that we don’t, that their life is a lot easier than ours, and that we lack basic life skills that others seem to possess. It can truly get us down if we feel too far disconnected from the human race.

A Beautiful Comment

One of my lovely Medium friends, Emily, made a very beautiful comment about how we realize through reading each other’s writing that we are similar after all. I have noticed this as well and it helps fill my life with positivity, hope, and the feeling that I am not alone in this crazy journey.

Even with my closest friends, I sometimes feel alone and that I am so different than everyone else. I want to be different, but I don’t like feeling¬†so¬†different that I feel like an outcast. I have always felt that I view life and react to life much differently than others.

Shockingly, Emily and I have quite a lot in common! We have similar personal goals, past experiences, we have future goals that align, and our personality traits seem similar. It always amazes me how writing can bring people together, even an entire community!

Food for Thought

Emily’s comment stuck with me and inspired me to write this story. As we write and even as we talk and socialize with others, we realize that we are more similar than we are different. The differences are what make life beautiful, we are unique individuals and should be expressed as such.

The interesting thing is that the more we express ourselves and share, the more we realize we are all the same. No matter what background we come from, we all have fears, insecurities, wants, desires, and needs. We all know happiness and we know what loss is.

The Takeaway

The person that looks like they have it all together on the outside is just the same as you and I. Life doesn’t cater to anyone, we all go through challenges. I can’t tell you how many times I have spoken with someone, and they tell me a story about their lives that I would have never expected would happen to them. I sit there left in shock and reminded that the human race is one.

The same goes for writing, as Emily said. We learn about each other as we bare our souls. Through writing we learn about each other’s innermost feelings and ones that may not be shared otherwise.

We realize that the differences are tiny, and the similarities have no end.

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A Thing Called Life

Life…a little word with such big meaning and importance. We are all human and on a journey very different, yet in many ways similar to each other. We wake up every day with a goal, responsibilities, working on personal growth, and we all walk this earth with challenges.

There are different walks of life everywhere you turn. There are people who have struggled a lot in life and those that have not known what it’s like, there are those that look at the glass half-full, while others see it half-empty, there are people who will continue to go down the same path and those who work hard every single day to strive to reach their goals.

For me, I have known many challenges in life, but I also am extremely fortunate and blessed. I try to look at my challenges and struggles as ways that are making me stronger and making me a better person. Struggles give you a goal to work towards, they give you motivation to do your best and to want to change. Personally, I see life as a big lesson, something that will help our soul grow, life is the biggest test with an ultimate reward.

No one’s life is truly easy, we all deal with many struggles, it’s a part of being human. We learn every day and we try our best. Although we cannot change our circumstances, mentally we can change so much. We can choose to look at our roadblocks as motivation instead of failure, we can choose to look at our struggles as defining our strengths instead of showcasing our weaknesses, we can choose to see life as the beautiful and precious gift that it is. You are on this earth for a reason, keep shining!

Obsessions

As I sit here and write this blog, there are so many things that I can think of that if they were taken away, I would feel that a part of me was missing. As humans, it’s normal for us to develop attachments to people, places, things, etc. We get used to having certain things in our lives and they become part of us. When we have to go without or lose what we love, it can make us feel empty inside. The extreme version of this behavior is what borders on obsession.

I’m sure that most of us recall a time where we became obsessed with a person, a song, a hobby, a sport, a vacation spot, a favorite pair of shoes, our cell phone, food, etc. There are different levels of obsession, some of which keep you healthy and motivated and others which are detrimental to our mental and physical wellbeing. I believe a lot of how we feel and what we have going on in our lives contributes to developing and maintaining obsessions. For example, if we have lost a loved one, we may obsess or be clingy with our friends and family. If we are stressed and dealing with a rough time, we may become obsessed with a certain song that seems to speak to us and helps us cope, playing it over and over and over again.

Obsessions can come and go, temporary obsessions are to me a type of coping mechanism, or a way to distract and reduce anxiety. Long-term obsessions in my opinion are deep-rooted from our past experiences or feeling a lack of something in one’s life. Obsession can also be a way of avoiding life. Someone who has had a lot of negative past experiences with people may cling to the first person that shows them love, someone who is having a hard time mentally may turn to drugs to ease the pain and that high becomes something that individual keeps craving. An individual who is extremely shy may become overly involved in a hobby that allows themselves to retreat from society and avoid human contact.

I am someone who tends to have obsessive tendencies. I can get wrapped up in a person, play a song nonstop on repeat, eat sweets to no end, and overthink life relentlessly, however most of the time they are nothing but a temporary distraction. There are times however where my obsessions are too strong for my liking. When my thoughts or feelings hit this point it becomes difficult to want to do or think of anything else. This makes me very uneasy and uncomfortable. I try to create a better balance in my life so that I am not so fixated on one thing, I also try to figure out what the root of my obsession is stemming from.

When it comes to obsessions or desires, it’s interesting to note that your heart and mind may want different things. I’ve always wished to have more control over my mind and heart, however to a point we don’t have full control over that and it is something in our subconscious, something that makes us individually unique.

We can all learn a thing or two from each other. How do you all deal with desires and obsessions?

As always, thank you for reading and have a beautiful week!