Have A Conversation

Spring has arrived. The weather has been up and down as usual for spring. We had a really warm day a few days ago and I took my kids outside to play. Nature is amazing and so healing, we spend as much time outside as possible.

My neighbor who we will call, Jenny, was out with her children as well and we got them together to play for a while. As they played, we talked. Jenny is an incredibly kind soul and a very genuine person. I feel so blessed that we are neighbors. Our children are all very young and close in age, which makes for a lot of fun.

Some other parents may know how challenging it can be raising little ones. It is an absolute joy, but it comes with its challenges for sure. Jenny and I can openly communicate our feelings and concerns about motherhood or certain childhood behaviors and situations.

We Aren’t Alone

It’s always refreshing to talk to her because I don’t feel so alone. It melts the stress away by realizing that we and many others are in this together and doing the best that we can. Had I kept my thoughts and feelings to myself, I may have not gotten the chance to realize that all that I am experiencing and going through is “normal.” I don’t like that term too much because I don’t think there is such a thing, it’s a very broad spectrum. My main point in all of this is that we can see that we aren’t alone in this life journey.

Experiences 

Have you ever had the feeling that you are so different from everyone? Maybe you feel like no one can relate to you, or that no one truly understands where you’re coming from and who you are.

Have you ever noticed how this can be wrong? Having conversations with others can really be very eye-opening. We realize that we are not alone. There are other people that think the way that we do, and there are other people that have gone through what we have.

Sure, we are all on a different journeys with unique struggles, but we are all human and we can relate to each other if given the chance. There have been things that I don’t want to bring up out of fear of being “alone,” but when someone else brings it up, it’s like “wow!” I cannot believe that this happened to you also. It’s also important to note that being alone is not necessarily a bad thing. We are all unique in our own ways, but we find comfort knowing that others can relate to us.

We are more alike than we are different. We all have different sides of us and experiences. Sometimes we may feel ashamed or embarrassed, and we don’t want to talk about certain things, but opening up and being vulnerable can really take a lot of stress off of us if we can find connections with others.

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We Are All One

Although not healthy, it is natural to compare ourselves to other people. We want to know that we are similar enough to others, that we are not alone, and that we are all humans living this crazy life journey.

I love when I see other people that are unique and eccentric, I love when others are true to who they are and are not afraid to show all sides of themselves. I also love when I get a glimpse of someone, and it shows that they are human and the same as the rest of us.

Our Backgrounds

We all come from very different backgrounds. We have experienced different childhoods, teenage years, and adult life. Each of our struggles and burdens are unique to us. With this, comes individual mindsets, thinking patterns, and the way that we view the world.

Sometimes we fear that we are different than others in a negative way. We think that others have something that we don’t, that their life is a lot easier than ours, and that we lack basic life skills that others seem to possess. It can truly get us down if we feel too far disconnected from the human race.

A Beautiful Comment

One of my lovely Medium friends, Emily, made a very beautiful comment about how we realize through reading each other’s writing that we are similar after all. I have noticed this as well and it helps fill my life with positivity, hope, and the feeling that I am not alone in this crazy journey.

Even with my closest friends, I sometimes feel alone and that I am so different than everyone else. I want to be different, but I don’t like feeling¬†so¬†different that I feel like an outcast. I have always felt that I view life and react to life much differently than others.

Shockingly, Emily and I have quite a lot in common! We have similar personal goals, past experiences, we have future goals that align, and our personality traits seem similar. It always amazes me how writing can bring people together, even an entire community!

Food for Thought

Emily’s comment stuck with me and inspired me to write this story. As we write and even as we talk and socialize with others, we realize that we are more similar than we are different. The differences are what make life beautiful, we are unique individuals and should be expressed as such.

The interesting thing is that the more we express ourselves and share, the more we realize we are all the same. No matter what background we come from, we all have fears, insecurities, wants, desires, and needs. We all know happiness and we know what loss is.

The Takeaway

The person that looks like they have it all together on the outside is just the same as you and I. Life doesn’t cater to anyone, we all go through challenges. I can’t tell you how many times I have spoken with someone, and they tell me a story about their lives that I would have never expected would happen to them. I sit there left in shock and reminded that the human race is one.

The same goes for writing, as Emily said. We learn about each other as we bare our souls. Through writing we learn about each other’s innermost feelings and ones that may not be shared otherwise.

We realize that the differences are tiny, and the similarities have no end.