An Unforgettable Sight

I was out running errands the other day, I happened to stumble across a building complex. I have seen the buildings before, but I have never ventured over to that side to see what was there.

One of my doctors has an office that is not too far from this little complex, so I decided to drive by and see what type of businesses and stores were there.

In My Car

The parking lot was fairly packed with cars, there seemed to be little odd and end businesses. There were a lot more cars parked at the end of this little complex. As I drove by, I could see many women and their kids coming out of one of the buildings. What they were carrying broke my heart.

As I got closer, I could see these women taking groceries out on dollies to their cars. This business was one that is for kids who are in need. I watched as many women with their little ones came out smiling. They were holding bags of fruit, diapers, and snacks. They were proudly carrying milk to their cars.

In My Feelings

Tears instantly came to my eyes as I watched these families come out with joy on their faces. The fact that their lives were made that much easier would bring joy to anyone’s face.

The kids were lit up as they carried their milk and snacks to their cars. This donation center is helping so many, especially in this time of economic crisis. I donate my clothes and spare items several times a year and to know that someone is out there smiling because of it is a huge blessing and brings me tremendous joy.

I kept driving on as the tears kept flowing from my eyes. This was far from what I expected to see as I ventured around, but I was happy to see that there is help for people that need it. I was happy to see that people are actively donating, even grocery stores are donating massive amounts of groceries and items like diapers to help humanity.

Deep in Thought

This was a very emotional and heartwarming sight. It made my mind wander. Here I am wishing for a larger home for my family to have more space and some people don’t even have one. I am hoping for a delicious meal for dinner and some people are hoping to just eat. I am worried if my car will last a few more years and others are worried about how they will even get from Point A to Point B.

I am still in tears as I write this. Somewhere, someone is just trying to survive. It’s been a few days and I can’t seem to shake this image from my mind. Sometimes the things that we witness are very eye-opening and hard to forget.

Lean on Me

Life is hard and it has many challenges along the way. We will have many experiences, detours, and roadblocks ahead of us. I suppose one of the most interesting things about life is that no one knows what is in store for us. One thing is for sure, it will be a mix of bliss and trials.

Many of us have someone that we can rely on in times of need, many people do not have anyone at all. This world is difficult enough to navigate, it’s even harder if we do it alone.

My Past

Growing up, I was a very outgoing and goofy little girl. I would do anything to make people laugh and I just loved to be in the company of others. This somehow changed drastically as I got older.

That outgoing fun-loving little girl became a very self-conscious and shy teenager. Once I experienced this shift, I internalized everything and no longer was open with my feelings. I had such bad social anxiety that I didn’t know what to say to anyone, or how to act around others. I experienced some very hard times, and I didn’t let anyone in on it.

Dear Diary

I took to diary entries and journaling to try to make sense of my emotions and what I was going through. It felt great to write it all down, but it also still felt like I was missing something.

I remember watching some of my favorite reality shows and just studying their behavior and ways of communicating. I was in awe of how they could be so real, vulnerable, and open. I aspired to be that, but I was far from it.

Fast-forward to today and I still struggle with being 100% authentic, I still struggle with sharing my emotions because I am afraid of rejection and that people won’t care what I have to say. I am afraid of people not responding, or that they will view me differently.

Slowly by slowly I am coming out of my shell and transitioning back to the carefree and bubbly child that I was. I am not there yet and may never be, but I am taking baby steps to move my life in the right direction.

People Come and Go

I have had my fair share of fair-weather friends, relationships with significant others that went south, and sadly many people who have left my life due to passing away. All of this loss truly takes a toll on me and makes me retreat even more.

It’s very challenging to be open and vulnerable with others just because of the mere fact that they one day may not be there. I have to remind myself of the benefits. We can’t know how a relationship will progress if intimacy is never obtained between two people.

A Burden Shared

One of life’s greatest joys is the ability to help others. There is nothing like seeing happy tears or a smile on someone’s face because you made a difference in their life. We know how empowering it is and what a great mood booster it is to be able to help someone and make a difference in this world no matter how small. What if we chose to not let anyone help us? This great feeling would never be able to be felt.

Connection and bonding are very important and essential to human life. We need each other. Some people may need a human connection less than others, but to some degree, needing others is necessary for our lives and for our well-being. Most of us get great joy from helping others and they want to be able to experience this lovely feeling as well when they get the chance to help us.

Other people can help us carry our burdens so that we don’t feel so alone and we can lessen the weight of the struggles that we face. Helping someone is mutually beneficial. The receiver feels loved and cared for and the giver has the great satisfaction of knowing that they made a difference in someone’s life.

Life’s Winding Path

One thing is for sure and that is that life will take us in many different directions. It can help take the stress off a bit when we know that we have people in our corner that are here for us. The love and compassion that you give to others deserve to come back to you. People need each other, it’s a two-way street.

You can lean on me, my writer friends. I am here for you and in your corner.

How I Overcame My Recent Writer’s Block

Writers indeed love to write, it becomes part of our souls, and most of us would feel lost without it. What happens when we no longer can think of what to write, or how to write it?

As writers, I am sure that many, if not most of us have succumbed to writer’s block. It may feel like you don’t know what to write, how to say it, a lack of motivation, just feeling blank inside your mind.

Causes of Writer’s Block

It seems that writer’s block creeps up on us during times of high stress, lack of sleep, when we are very busy, and even when we consistently write without giving ourselves a break.

In my mind, writer’s block is almost like a coping mechanism for our brains. It is a way for our minds and bodies to tell us to slow down and take a breather. Sometimes writer’s block may simply exist without a reason that we can think of.

My Experience

I have dealt with writer’s block several times in my life, including the most recent being within the last week. I love writing so much, I thoroughly enjoy it and it drives me to create more and more content. I often write at full steam because I have so many ideas and thoughts that I can’t seem to get them out fast enough.

Last week, slowly by slowly, my mind started thinking slower, my ideas didn’t come to me, or they didn’t flow. I would sit in front of my laptop staring at a blank white screen, my fingers ready to fly across the keyboard, but instead, they paused. It was almost like my brain wasn’t focusing. The passion was strongly there, but my brain was working against me.

I was in overdrive; I didn’t take the time to slow down and rest. I didn’t take the necessary breaks to allow my mind to recover from creating content and to keep up with life in general.

How to Overcome Writer’s Block

I have found several great ways that get me going again when my brain stops working in my favor:

1. Don’t force or fight the feeling. If you feel resistance from your body to write, then listen to it. Pushing yourself, in my opinion, makes writer’s block last longer.

2. Rest for as long as you need to. Make sure to do activities that help you relax, unwind, and rest your mind.

3. Try not to dwell on the fact that you are stressing about not writing. This will only make matters worse; you need to save mental energy for that next masterpiece!

4. Create a list of ideas or drafts that you would like to write about one day when you have the mental capacity and drive.

5. Get plenty of sleep and spend time outdoors! We can’t function very well on little sleep, also spending time out in nature is a great mood-booster and one that will help get your creativity flowing again.

Can You Relate?

Writer’s block can be very challenging, especially if it lasts for a long period of time. The most important thing is to listen to what your body is telling you and resist the urge to keep going and pushing through the feeling. Some persistence is great, but sometimes your body is telling you to slow down for a reason, partly due to being overloaded. Have you ever dealt with writer’s block? How did you overcome it?

Know that with everything in life that nothing lasts forever, sooner or later, you will be back doing what you love, and you might even come back stronger than ever!

Dreading Something? Read This

There are many things in life that we go through. Some good, some bad, and some in-between. As human beings, we deal with many different emotions as we process the world around us.

One of the many uncomfortable emotions is dread. In other words, when we feel anxious or worried, it can take a toll on us and prevent us from living our best life. It can even impact how we view the world and the decisions that we make.

Are You Dreading Something?

You may be dreading an upcoming meeting, long-distance travel for a wedding, a doctor’s appointment, a difficult conversation with a loved one, or a project that you are due to start at work. Whatever it may be, feeling dread for a certain date or event to come around is a feeling that is tough to sit with.

As with many feelings, there are ways to help minimize the feeling of dread. There are ways that we can look at the feeling and the situations that evoke it to help us in life.

What Can We Do to Minimize Feeling Dread?

  • We can realize that feeling dread is just a feeling no matter how uncomfortable it is. We can sit with it, recognize it, acknowledge that it’s there, and then try to let it float away. A thought is just a thought, don’t give it too much power.
  • Analyze the situation. What could be the worst that happens if you have that conversation attend that meeting, and go to the doctor? This way you can see what is the worst that could happen. Often seeing this side can help minimize anxieties as we realize it isn’t as bad as it seems in our heads.
  • Look at the positives that could come from this situation. You might feel relief, and empowerment, you may feel stronger for having conquered your fear. You never know what you might discover or learn about yourself!

What To Remember

Oftentimes, the very thing that we have been dreading for days, weeks, months, or even longer ends up being so much better than we expected. Much of our worry and anxiety comes from things that haven’t happened yet, so the anticipation of an event or upcoming date on the calendar can send our minds spinning.

If you are dreading something that is coming up, as hard as it is, remember that it will pass. It may be uncomfortable and feel like a burden, but you will get through it, and it will pass just as everything else that you have gone through in life. Here is a little motivation to get you through a trying time, you can do this!

A Comforting Word

I was talking with my mom the other day letting her know that I had some concerns about the future. Normal worries like where we would all end up living, worries about family, just the uncertainty of the future in general.

That’s just it, the future is uncertain for everyone, nonetheless, my mother was a listening ear for me as I vented my worries. She listened carefully to what I had to say and then her response left me instantly feeling better.

My mom told me two things. One, “try not to worry about the future, we need to focus on the here and now.” Two, “everything is going to work out and it will be okay.” The first reply is something that we all know to be true, yet sometimes we need a reminder. The second reply is something that we don’t know for sure to be true, so why was it comforting?

Words have so much power over us, they can make or break us. When we are spiraling down and overcome with emotions, we look to what others have to say to calm our deepest fears. Those little words, “it will be okay,” meant everything to me at this moment.

Our brains work in mysterious ways, if we think logically, we know that it is not certain that everything will be okay. We can be positive, and we can look back on past experiences and realize that most of the time everything did end up being okay, but we know logically that this may not be true.

The words were comforting regardless. Why? Well, because someone told us so and we are more inclined to listen to others than we are to ourselves. Hearing it from someone else makes it a reality and brings back that hope that all is not lost.

For those of you struggling to make ends meet, struggling with mental or physical health, finances, feeling burned out, relationship issues, or issues related to work and unemployment, I want to be that person that tells you that it will all be okay, keep shining and going strong, it will all work out in the end. This is just a little roadblock and what is beyond this bump in the road is more beautiful than we could ever imagine!