The Intimacy of Writing

Each of us has an important story to share, a message that the world needs to hear. There are many ways that we can express ourselves to the outside world.

I enjoy seeing many types of art in the form of personal expression, be it through painting, crafts, or body art, but the most amazing form of self-expression that I love is writing.

Innate Feeling

Deep in my soul, there is an enormous passion for writing. I have adored writing ever since I was a little girl. I remember being in school and the teacher would tell us to start writing about any subject within a certain time frame. I would sit around and spend a long time trying to think of what to write about as I looked at my classmates writing away, pencils in hand. Once I thought of my topic though, I was unstoppable! When the timer went off, I didn’t want to stop, I had so much to say, so much to share.

I have always loved the way that it felt to put a pen to paper or have my fingers fly around my keyboard as the words just flowed like a river from my mind. The process of releasing all of my innermost thoughts and feelings and wanting to help the world with my life experiences was such a drive for me. Writing is a part of my soul.

Other Writers

When I read work from other writers, I am left in awe. It is such a beautiful thing to be able to sit down and read part of someone’s mind and heart. Writing is so very personal and intimate. Sometimes the words that we read from others have never been spoken out loud, we may be the first to ever hear what the writer is saying.

Writing is a wonderful way to get to know each other. By sharing our most intimate thoughts with the world, we can truly learn so much about other people. It amazes me all of the good and the beauty that exists in a piece of writing. The messages that we can take away from it, learning about life, and the fact that someone has reached deep inside to create this beautiful masterpiece for us to read are just beautiful to me.

Think About This

Many people write about things that they would not typically share out loud. Even if they did, the extent to which they communicated these ideas would probably not be as deep as something that one would write.

I appreciate the writing of others more than I can say. I just find it to be a magnificent and amazing form of art and expression and without it, I would be lost. Writing is a part of me that I will never let die.

What a beautiful thing it is to have many writers connected to share their thoughts and life stories. It is amazing how words can be so intimate and foster such a connection throughout a community!

Subconscious Relationship Expectations

Take a moment to think of your friendship circle, family, or even the ones that you hold dear. These relationships probably come with the expectation that you will care for them, and they will care for you. After all, this is what a relationship is about, two or more people who mutually respect and care for each other.

While this is true, sometimes we may not realize that we are placing certain expectations on other people that only end up harming ourselves and our relationships.

Closest Relationships

Think about the people that are closest to you at the moment. This could be your parents, siblings, best friend, significant other, or spouse. These are probably the individuals that you turn to when going through a hard time and to share your happiest news. You may have one or two people that you rely on.

While it is wonderful and necessary to rely on others for support, it is important to remember that one person cannot fulfill all of our needs. That’s the beautiful side of having multiple people in our lives, we can draw strength from them. Each person can bring something to the table.

Expectations

It is normal to turn to your best friend or significant other and we may lovingly look at them as if they have all of the answers and that they can fill every void that lives within us. These are unfair expectations for both the other person and ourselves.

Each person that we know brings something to our lives. One person is only one person and as hard as they try, no one can take on the role of making us happy 100% of the time. We can look to others and most importantly ourselves for that sense of fulfillment.

Reciprocation

The beauty of life is helping and also being helped. Returning the love and respect that is given to us is very important.

Just as one person cannot be our complete source of happiness, we also cannot be that for other people.

As human beings, we are capable of so much. We often have the strength and power to move mountains, but we also have our limits. Giving and receiving makes the world go round. We must remember, however, that we are not superheroes!

Through Thick and Thin

I’ve always heard that finding a true friend is like “finding a needle in a haystack.” The older that I get I believe this to be true. I have a good number of friends and acquaintances, but I can count on one hand the number of friends in my life that I can truly rely on and have proved themselves to be genuine.

When we first meet someone, we get a sense of their energy, and our intuition and gut instincts start to kick in and tell us whether there is a good vibe coming from this person or not. Sometimes two people meet and there is an instant connection and other times we get a strong gut reaction to stay away. It may be difficult to tell who has genuine intentions, but sooner or later the truth usually prevails.

One can get a pretty good sense of someone else’s character fairly quickly. We are keen to pick up on energy, we can see if this individual sticks to their word. Someone who matches their words with actions is typically genuine. Unfortunately, some people are very nice to others, but it is not for the fact of being nice and caring for others, it is more for personal gains. In the beginning, this person may be difficult to spot, but over time their patterns may become more noticeable.

I tend to be someone that likes to see mainly the good in someone and I know that sounds like a positive quality, but it also can hinder your judgment when you are unable to catch signs that someone may be untrue. I am so busy looking for all of the good qualities that someone possesses that I overlook the red flags.

Over the years I have been able to spot a truly genuine person over someone who is not. Someone genuine will try to keep the relationship at 50/50, their words will match their actions, they will truly care about you and ask how you are doing, and they will have your best interest in mind and be on your side and in your corner. A true friend or significant other will show interest in your life.

If you do have a true friend, keep them close as they are few and far between. It is important to note that sometimes friendships shift and dissolve over time, this does not necessarily mean that this individual was not genuine. Even the best of friends are known to become astray and it’s natural for some friendships and relationships to run their course, people just outgrow each other and sometimes this person may have been in your life for just a season or a reason.

After being burned many times by people, I used to spend so much time analyzing others’ behavior and actions to see if they were being authentic, but in hindsight, it’s better to just let things naturally unfold.

As with most things in life, the truth almost always comes out and true colors are often brought to light. For those of you that have a truly genuine soul in your life, hold onto them and never let them go, they are a rare find in this unpredictable world!

Not Meant to Be – Poem

Our bond was stuck together like glue

Forever you and I, forever me and you

We laughed and smiled getting to know each other

You went from my friend to my lover

We had many dates in store

It was then that I realized we were not compatible anymore

I thought you were mine to keep forever

But sadly we could not make it last through the weather

I have my regrets and you do too

My life was not meant to be with you

I wish you all the best in life

One day you’ll be someone’s husband and I’ll be someone’s wife



I hope you enjoyed my first WordPress poem! I wanted to give poetry a try. Have a great week everyone!

I Had a Friend

Some of the things that we have in life, we won’t have forever, in fact many things. Life is ever-changing and the people and things currently in our lives may not be there in the future, but somehow we learn to adapt.

I recently had a close friend that I have mainly lost touch with. Nothing happened between us, just contact had become one-sided. I would always reach out to my friend, yet this friend would hardly reach out to me. Time changes, people change, we come to realize a lot as time passes and we must accept and/or adapt to whatever is thrown at us, no matter if we do not like it.

This goes back to a blog post that I wrote a while back mentioning how not everyone is meant to stay in your life, some come to teach us lessons, or come in a time of need. This individual and and I are still friends, however our friendship has changed so much and we don’t talk as often, still when we do there is a lot of love for each other, but it’s not the same. Have peace in your heart knowing that things happen as they should and that people meant to stay close to you will never astray.