Neighbors

What a year this has been for all of us. This has been a year of big change and growth, a year of facing fears and uncertainty. In the midst of chaos, there is some beauty that lies. As with all things, there is a silver lining no matter how small.

I live in a community surrounded by many homes, so we have lots of neighbors. We are very fortunate that everyone has been so pleasant to live next to, because as we all know, you can’t pick your neighbors when you move into a new house! We have lived here for many years and seen neighbors move in and move out, some have been here as long as we have. We have always been kind and courteous to our neighbors, but typically haven’t gotten too close to anyone, all of our neighbors are pretty much this way, but Covid has changed things. Several of our neighbors and even our family have gone through big things this year and out of nowhere we have all been there for each other. It has been really great to have that neighborly support and to keep paying it forward. It is so nice how people randomly do acts of kindness. I feel times like this really draw people closer.

Keep paying the good deeds forward, help out your family, friends, neighbors, a total stranger. Unity is how we will get through the tough times. Thank you for stopping by and I wish you all a beautiful day and weekend!

Blogging Community

As with most things in life, we don’t know what to expect an outcome to be like until we actually try.  When I started my blog, my hope was to create content that people could relate to, content that would uplift, inspire, motivate, enlighten others.  I was not sure if my work would make an impact, but I was sure hoping that it would.  Never did I imagine the sense of community blogging would end up offering me.

For many years and actually still to this day, I often turn to the Internet for information, research, and understanding.  I also love to read blogs, I find the conversation style of a blog to be so personal and I love to learn from others and read what is inside the hearts and minds of other individuals.  I too wanted to help others the way that blogs have helped me all of these years.

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From the beginning of my blogging journey, I have been amazed by other’s generous love, support, encouragement, motivation, and respect.  It is so nice to be a part of this amazing blogging community.  I love that we all have a place to come to that we can share our thoughts, ideas, lessons, all by having a mutual love and passion for writing and expression.  There’s no greater feeling than to write a blog post and have someone say that it spoke to them, empowered them, opened their eyes, or simply that they could relate.  I think it’s wonderful that we can all inspire and motivate each other.  I love you all and I appreciate your work.  I enjoy leaving comments on your blogs about how your posts have touched me.  You all are very talented individuals.

It is so wonderful to be a part of such a great blogging community.  Being a blogger has taught me so much about myself and the world around me.  It is pretty amazing to be a part of a family that all have a passion for the same thing.  I am so happy to have met you all and I hope that you know how much I appreciate and am thankful for every one of you.  Your support, love, and kindness mean the world to me.  Keep shining blogging community!

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Ways to Be There for a Friend

One of life’s greatest treasures is that of a true and loyal friend. They are few and far between, we are truly blessed when we do come across genuine friendship. These true friendships are rare and priceless and we should do whatever is in our power to grow and maintain them.

Friendships, like any relationship, take a lot of work to keep them going. Life throws many things at us and when a friend of ours is in need, that is where we can step in and help. There are many ways to be there for a friend, or any loved one for that matter:

Communicate – Reach out to your friend and ask them questions to let them know that you are interested in knowing how they are doing and what they are going through. A simple “Hello, how are you?,” or “I am thinking of you,” can mean the world to someone.

Listen – The act of just being there for someone and listening to what they have to say makes others feel valued and cared for. Let them do most of the talking unless they ask for advice etc. Just providing a listening ear works wonders in helping someone talk out their feelings.

Humor – Depending on the situation, using your sense of humor may, or may not be appropriate. If it is, bring up some old funny memories, send some funny memes, or jokes, keep your friend smiling and laughing. It’s a mood booster for everyone!

Explore – Get out in nature, or go explore the town with your friend. Being in a new environment and having distractions can be very helpful, also being in the sun and fresh air are definite mood boosters. Grab lunch, or coffee and just take a stroll and admire nature’s beauty.

Gifts – This doesn’t have to be anything big, a simple card, flowers, box of chocolate, something that the other person enjoys is bound to bring a smile to their face. Just the act of giving and surprising someone can make them feel valued and loved. It is the small things in life that have the biggest meaning.

Touch – Human touch is unbelievably powerful and can truly counteract some very devastating emotions. Some people don’t like others in their personal space, so be mindful of this, but if they are comfortable with you, reach out and give them a warm hug, hold their hand, put your arm around them. Touch is very comforting.

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As you get to know your friend more and more, you will be able to judge what is the best plan of action to take should they need a pick-me-up. It is important to remember that people cope with emotions and life in different ways and different stages, sometimes someone may need to have time alone before they are accepting of help and love from others. I have learned that the hard way a few times, it’s hard not to take it personally when you are trying to be there for someone and they are not very accepting of it. Feel out the other person’s mood and use that as a guide.

As you can see, there are many ways to be there for a friend. When friendship is balanced, they will also in turn be there for you! The beauty of true friendship is knowing that you both will always be there for each other.

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Missing Someone

We have all felt that familiar feeling of missing someone dear to us. What causes us to miss particular people? It’s not a very comfortable feeling, yet thinking of the memories that you have with them brings about so many happy thoughts and emotions.

There are so many levels in which we miss people. We can miss a loved one that has departed from us in this life, miss someone in which we had a romantic relationship with, miss our friends, coworkers, really anyone that we have built a connection with. It’s human nature to miss attachments that we have had, or still do have, but have changed in some way.

So, what causes us to miss someone? Many reasons in fact. Our brains get used to the way someone makes us feel. We miss that “high” that someone gives us, the way their positivity, humor, good-hearted nature makes us feel. Our brains are very keen on people and experiences that elicit a strong sense of emotion, or connection, it is if they almost stay etched there. We miss people that bring us happiness, make us feel good about ourselves, the ones who supported us, and loved us. Sometimes we may miss certain people because they filled a void, or fulfilled our needs and when they are gone, or distant, we feel a part of us is missing.

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There are things that we can do if we miss someone. If our loved one is no longer with us, we can pray (if you do) to them, talk to them out loud as if they were still here, visit some place that reminds you of them, look through pictures, anything to keep you connected to that person. If you are missing someone that you haven’t seen in a while, reach out to them, chances are they probably miss you too. If you miss someone who you have grown distant with, try to touch base and see if there is anything that can be done to resolve any issues, or reasons that you two became distant. You could even write them a text, e-mail, or letter just to get your feelings out, whether you actually send it or not is up to you.

If you are missing someone today, reach out to them to see how they are doing and what they are up to. You will know that you did all that you could do and that the ball is in the other person’s court. As hard as it can be, remember what is meant for you in life will always find its way.

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When Friendship Fades

“You have three types of friends in life: friends for a reason, friends for a season, and friends for a lifetime.” – Ziad K. Abdelnour. Do you ever just sit and ponder life and the past? Maybe you think about past relationships, friendships, jobs, a particularly exciting time, or milestone in life. Sometimes we think of how things could have turned out, or we question if things could have worked out with a certain someone if we had approached things differently.

People come and go, it is a part of life, not one that is easy to accept, but one that does unfortunately happen. When I was younger, losing a friend felt like the end of the world, it filled me with such sadness. I often wondered if there was anything that could have been done to save the friendship, or wondered if I had done something wrong, the same goes for romantic relationships. I would say to myself “If only I had communicated more,” “If only x,y, and z, didn’t bother me so much.”

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Now that I am older, I see a loss of friendships and even relationships in a new light. It is still painful to no longer have someone in your life, but I look at it in a different way and that brings me peace. I truly believe that what is meant to be in our lives will always be. There is nothing that can take away someone or something in our lives that is meant to be there.

Ziad K. Abdelnour’s quote that I mentioned in the intro of this post is really beautiful and I find to be so true. He explains that friends come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. This is true for all people and things in our lives in my opinion. I really believe that certain people are put in our lives for a reason, they are here to teach us, strengthen us, and help us grow. Some people in our lives are here for a season for the same purpose. Not all people in our lives today are meant to stay there for the long haul. My belief is that certain people cross our path for a special and particular purpose. Lastly, we have the friends that are meant to be with us for life, the “family” that we choose, the ones who have been there through everything.

I believe that we should definitely do all that we can do to save a friendship or relationship that we value, however if it feels like you are doing all of the work, try to remember that anything that you have to force probably isn’t supposed to be there in the first place. As hard as having friendships fade over time is, I hope that you find peace in knowing that some people were not always meant to stay in your life, but you will always have the memories, lessons, and you will have experienced growth.

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