Missing Someone

We have all felt that familiar feeling of missing someone dear to us. What causes us to miss particular people? It’s not a very comfortable feeling, yet thinking of the memories that you have with them brings about so many happy thoughts and emotions.

There are so many levels in which we miss people. We can miss a loved one that has departed from us in this life, miss someone in which we had a romantic relationship with, miss our friends, coworkers, really anyone that we have built a connection with. It’s human nature to miss attachments that we have had, or still do have, but have changed in some way.

So, what causes us to miss someone? Many reasons in fact. Our brains get used to the way someone makes us feel. We miss that “high” that someone gives us, the way their positivity, humor, good-hearted nature makes us feel. Our brains are very keen on people and experiences that elicit a strong sense of emotion, or connection, it is if they almost stay etched there. We miss people that bring us happiness, make us feel good about ourselves, the ones who supported us, and loved us. Sometimes we may miss certain people because they filled a void, or fulfilled our needs and when they are gone, or distant, we feel a part of us is missing.

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There are things that we can do if we miss someone. If our loved one is no longer with us, we can pray (if you do) to them, talk to them out loud as if they were still here, visit some place that reminds you of them, look through pictures, anything to keep you connected to that person. If you are missing someone that you haven’t seen in a while, reach out to them, chances are they probably miss you too. If you miss someone who you have grown distant with, try to touch base and see if there is anything that can be done to resolve any issues, or reasons that you two became distant. You could even write them a text, e-mail, or letter just to get your feelings out, whether you actually send it or not is up to you.

If you are missing someone today, reach out to them to see how they are doing and what they are up to. You will know that you did all that you could do and that the ball is in the other person’s court. As hard as it can be, remember what is meant for you in life will always find its way.

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In Tune

Isn’t it funny how a certain song has the power to bring back so many memories? It’s as if it temporarily transports us back in time. Certain songs remind us of certain events, or times in our lives and they can evoke so many emotions.

I love the feeling of being in my car and having a song play from many years ago. It’s like having a little blast from the past. It’s pretty amazing how many years, or even decades later, a simple song can trigger so many thoughts and emotions in our brain.

Years and years ago, it was common for people to burn CDs of their favorite music. I spent hours and used countless CDs to burn my favorite songs throughout the years. I keep them all in a CD case in my car and still to this day, I spend more time listening to my CDs than the radio, or any other way of listening to music. I love the connection to old songs and the happiness that comes from listening to them. I have songs that remind me of my high school graduation many years ago, songs that remind me of college, relationships, friendships, dates that I went on, jobs that I’ve had, vacations that I have taken, the list is endless. It seems like every song ties me to a certain time in my life.

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As I sit here and write this, I can’t help but to think of the importance of memories and the importance of music. It is so valuable to keep memories alive and to remember the good times. Not only is it a happiness booster, but it reminds us of where we have been and who we have become. Music is equally important for boosting our mood and finding connection to the lyrics is an extra bonus. A good tune and beat is just good for the soul. Our brains are tied to things that evoke great emotion like events, music, art, certain scents, etc. These all stay etched in our brains. Recall how a certain scent can remind you of someone, or even a holiday scent that brings you back to memories of celebrations with your loved ones.

It is very important for us to do things that bring us joy and happiness. The memories from the past still are very much a part of who we are. To me, it’s so fun going back and “reliving” these moments simply by listening to a song. Try putting on some of your favorite songs from way back when, particularly songs that you listened to during some of the most fun and happy times of your life and see what a good mood booster it can be!

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