What is Your Current Goal in Life?

All of us are working on some aspect of ourselves or our lives. We want happiness, stability, and a sense of belonging.

We may often take a look and evaluate our lives and where we want to be. We may notice aspects of ourselves that are working for us and parts that need to change.

Throughout our lives, our goals may change depending on what season we are in. We may jump from wanting to visit the gym every day, to wanting to advance ourselves in our careers, to desiring marriage and children. Whatever goal you are trying to reach, most likely the result that you are searching for is happiness.

My Current Goal

I would like to share with you a goal that I am currently working on. It has been quite a struggle, but I am determined to reach it because I know that it will greatly impact my life.

Growing up, I was never one to share what was on my mind, or in my heart. I was friendly with others, but also shy, especially in my teenage years. I kept to myself a lot and was very reserved. I didn’t want to open up to anyone. I was always afraid of rejection, or worried about what others would think of me.

Fast-forward to the adult that I am today and unfortunately many of those same qualities remain because I have never taken the time to try to fix them until now. My fears of rejection led me to not live authentically. It led me to live a life of superficial relationships and communication that was nothing more than small talk.

I Craved More

I knew something was missing in my life. Despite my shy nature growing up, I felt that there had to be something more, I knew something was lacking. I was a girl that hardly made eye contact because I lacked confidence. I was friendly with other people, but it never went beyond small talk because I was so afraid to open up and be myself. The vulnerability was a scary feeling.

As I became older, I realized that I craved a lot more from life and my relationships. I craved eye contact, I craved deep conversation, and I wanted to be close to others and be able to talk freely and openly.

My Goals

I want to live more authentically. I want to be able to openly and directly communicate with other people. I desire to fully love myself. I truly want to be able to communicate with others without needing to sugarcoat or communicating indirectly.

If someone has hurt me in some way, most of the time I have a hard time letting them know because I don’t want to cause any issues. Little do I realize, not sharing my true feelings and openly communicating my needs and wants only backfires.

I want to live freely and not worry about what other people think. I want to be able to openly communicate what is on my mind without fear that I will be rejected or that it will start some terrible argument. I want to be able to express myself confidently.

I know this goal may sound silly to some because most people do not have trouble being who they are and saying what is on their minds. Somewhere down the line, I chose to walk around hiding my innermost feelings even though they begged me for an escape. Somewhere down the line, I lost who I was. I made a promise to myself that I will speak only kind words and love towards myself and that I will always openly share what is in my heart.

How My Goal is Going

I have done fairly well in implementing my goal. I keep having to remind myself to keep communication open and sometimes I still catch myself filtering my thoughts, but I am working very hard to reach my goal of living an authentic life. There’s no more allowing my voice to not be heard because I am afraid of the aftermath, there is no more walking around with a smile on my face pretending that everything is okay to avoid getting on someone’s bad side. I am true to myself.

I am no longer letting my fear of rejection or losing someone that I love be what stops me from being true to myself. I have learned one too many times that lack of communication will most likely end in a failed relationship. Unspoken words lead to grudges, which leads to distance between two people. True and stable relationships will be able to weather the storms in life. I have learned the value of communication.

Question for You

As with many life changes, implementing a goal to alter yourself or your life is not an easy task. It’s human nature to be creatures of habit and to want to stick to a life of comfort and things that are known to us. We crave stability and familiarity even though this does not help us grow.

If you would like to share, what is your current goal in life? What steps are you taking to reach your goal? Life is all about learning to find what works for you and what makes you happy. Life is all about discovering ourselves and trying to pass the greatest test that we will ever be faced with. Whatever you are desiring and working on, I wish you all the best as you try to reach your goal!

Who Was That in My Dream?

Dreams have always fascinated me; I have even gone as far as trying to decode my dreams. Amazingly, we can go to sleep and be fully unaware of our surroundings. We then sometimes hit a dreamlike state that ends up feeling like we are awake and going through the motions, yet we are not.

Some people that I know cannot recall any dreams that they have. I think that is very interesting considering I dream very often and most of my dreams I can recall when I wake up. Some dreams seem obvious, we dream about things that we have heard throughout our day or things that are on our minds. Some dreams are completely out of nowhere. There’s one thing about certain dreams that has me thinking.

When we have dreams that have other people in them, their personalities and features are so detailed. We can feel their emotions and it feels like we are right there with them as we dream. Their facial features are very vivid just as if we were talking face to face in our waking life. My biggest question about this is who are these people in our dreams?

How can our minds create an entire human being with vivid features and a personality to boot? Who are these individuals that occupy our minds at night? It amazes me that we can think up an entire person in our dreams. Are these people from our pasts when we were younger? Maybe they are people that we have seen out in public somewhere without being fully conscious of it. Are these newly created beings just figments of our imagination?

As you can see, I am a very deep thinker who is always curious about the world that surrounds me. I thrive on learning, and I love when I learn something new, or when I can research something to learn more. What are your thoughts on these mystery humans? I would love to hear them!

What Now?

You have reached a moment that you have been waiting for months, years, possibly your entire life for. So many feelings rush over you as you cannot believe that what you have been longing for is finally here. You sit in a state of shock, surprise, relief, happiness, and awe. Slowly over time, another feeling creeps in.

There can be many emotions that we feel while waiting for something that we truly desire with all of our hearts. We may feel sad, angry, hopeful, scared, or anxious, we may even feel that it will never happen. We sit anxiously awaiting to be in a relationship, to have kids, to be married, to land our dream job, to get a college degree, and sometimes our biggest goal is just to live comfortably.

Whatever we have deeply desired in our life and eventually ended up getting, our initial response is probably elation and relief. We cannot believe that we have finally obtained and received all that we have longed for. Much of the time, our hearts will stay content with what we have now added to our lives, however sometimes another emotion sets in shortly after the excitement wears off. We might start to feel regret and guilt, something we never expected, which can make it all very confusing.

Regret and guilt can accompany our newfound excitement. Sometimes after we finally receive what we have been desiring, it loses its appeal, and sometimes regret starts to sink in after our initial happiness because we feel that we should be more excited, or that it didn’t feel as great as we expected. Maybe we expected the outcome to change our lives and it didn’t change much for us, we might have started to even feel as if we did not deserve this wonderful thing that happened to us.

These negative feelings can truly wreak havoc on our minds and bodies. We may start to think that we are losing our minds because we finally got what we wanted and now we don’t want it anymore. We start to question if we know what we truly want in life and if we even know ourselves as well as we thought that we did. There is a saying that “we always want what we don’t have.” I have found this to be true. We don’t know what we are getting into, we just desire something that we do not have.

The mind works in mysterious ways, we may be influenced by others, we may feel like we are expected to conform to society’s norms, or we may just truly want something for our lives. Whatever they may be, our feelings are valid, and we should take the time to sort them out and explore why we may be feeling such a way. Be easy on yourself, we are only human!

A Glimmer of Hope

Most of us have been there, we hit rock bottom with no light in sight,
and we feel so low that up is the only way because it can’t get any worse. Life has its ups and downs and will take you on many journeys. Even in our darkest days, there is some little part of us that keeps shining, I like to call that hope.

We all have different ways of coping with a negative situation in life, some of us may withdraw, some may emotionally eat, and others may seek the comfort of family and friends. Whatever you tend to choose when feeling like this, you most likely choose it because it makes you feel better. Some of us may not choose anything, but we hold onto something dear to our hearts and that is the mere fact of hoping that things will get better.

Hope sometimes is the only thing that we have left and we are so thankful for it because, without it, we can feel so lost. We cling to the idea that the future is bright and unknown, we have hopes that our current situations will change and it is that positivity that keeps us inspired and motivated. Hope is something that we must never let die.

Even when you feel like you have no one or anything left, you can hold onto something that cannot be taken from you and that is hope, a little flame that burns inside of you that keeps going strong and tells you not to give up.

The possibilities of the future are endless and we must keep reminding ourselves of that. The situation that we are in today, we may not be in tomorrow, a day can change so much. Life tends to change when we least expect it, life has a way of throwing us curveballs and roadblocks, yet it also has a way of bringing us blessings and pleasant surprises.

For anyone reading this today, please don’t ever lose the sense of desire inside of you, please don’t ever let anyone or anything dim the light that we call hope, let it shine bright and get you through even the toughest days. Sometimes the greatest thing that we can hear is the notion that life can truly change at any moment and in the meantime, hope will be there right by our sides.

Go For It

Most of us have dreams and aspirations that we hope to achieve at some point in our lives. We have this vision of how we would like life to pan out and it probably hasn’t gone exactly as planned. There are deep desires within us, things that we would like in our lives, that would make us feel whole. There is a burning desire to reach our goals and find happiness.

For some of us, our life goal may be the perfect career, marriage, having children, serving our country, going to college, or just making the world a better place to live in. Whatever our goal may be, we find happiness and hope in trying to pursue it. The end result is hopefully eventually fulfilling our dream.

Sometimes life hands us things that we were not prepared for and many of us get busy in our every day lives and put our dreams on hold. Some of us are waiting for that perfect moment to start working towards our dreams…there is no perfect moment! Start now, your life most likely will not play out as you have envisioned, but it will still be beautiful. If you don’t start today, you may miss the opportunity of a lifetime. Go after what you want in life and don’t stop until you get there!