What Now?

You have reached a moment that you have been waiting for months, years, possibly your entire life for. So many feelings rush over you as you cannot believe that what you have been longing for is finally here. You sit in a state of shock, surprise, relief, happiness, and awe. Slowly over time, another feeling creeps in.

There can be many emotions that we feel while waiting for something that we truly desire with all of our hearts. We may feel sad, angry, hopeful, scared, or anxious, we may even feel that it will never happen. We sit anxiously awaiting to be in a relationship, to have kids, to be married, to land our dream job, to get a college degree, and sometimes our biggest goal is just to live comfortably.

Whatever we have deeply desired in our life and eventually ended up getting, our initial response is probably elation and relief. We cannot believe that we have finally obtained and received all that we have longed for. Much of the time, our hearts will stay content with what we have now added to our lives, however sometimes another emotion sets in shortly after the excitement wears off. We might start to feel regret and guilt, something we never expected, which can make it all very confusing.

Regret and guilt can accompany our newfound excitement. Sometimes after we finally receive what we have been desiring, it loses its appeal, and sometimes regret starts to sink in after our initial happiness because we feel that we should be more excited, or that it didn’t feel as great as we expected. Maybe we expected the outcome to change our lives and it didn’t change much for us, we might have started to even feel as if we did not deserve this wonderful thing that happened to us.

These negative feelings can truly wreak havoc on our minds and bodies. We may start to think that we are losing our minds because we finally got what we wanted and now we don’t want it anymore. We start to question if we know what we truly want in life and if we even know ourselves as well as we thought that we did. There is a saying that “we always want what we don’t have.” I have found this to be true. We don’t know what we are getting into, we just desire something that we do not have.

The mind works in mysterious ways, we may be influenced by others, we may feel like we are expected to conform to society’s norms, or we may just truly want something for our lives. Whatever they may be, our feelings are valid, and we should take the time to sort them out and explore why we may be feeling such a way. Be easy on yourself, we are only human!

A Glimmer of Hope

Most of us have been there, we hit rock bottom with no light in sight,
and we feel so low that up is the only way because it can’t get any worse. Life has its ups and downs and will take you on many journeys. Even in our darkest days, there is some little part of us that keeps shining, I like to call that hope.

We all have different ways of coping with a negative situation in life, some of us may withdraw, some may emotionally eat, and others may seek the comfort of family and friends. Whatever you tend to choose when feeling like this, you most likely choose it because it makes you feel better. Some of us may not choose anything, but we hold onto something dear to our hearts and that is the mere fact of hoping that things will get better.

Hope sometimes is the only thing that we have left and we are so thankful for it because, without it, we can feel so lost. We cling to the idea that the future is bright and unknown, we have hopes that our current situations will change and it is that positivity that keeps us inspired and motivated. Hope is something that we must never let die.

Even when you feel like you have no one or anything left, you can hold onto something that cannot be taken from you and that is hope, a little flame that burns inside of you that keeps going strong and tells you not to give up.

The possibilities of the future are endless and we must keep reminding ourselves of that. The situation that we are in today, we may not be in tomorrow, a day can change so much. Life tends to change when we least expect it, life has a way of throwing us curveballs and roadblocks, yet it also has a way of bringing us blessings and pleasant surprises.

For anyone reading this today, please don’t ever lose the sense of desire inside of you, please don’t ever let anyone or anything dim the light that we call hope, let it shine bright and get you through even the toughest days. Sometimes the greatest thing that we can hear is the notion that life can truly change at any moment and in the meantime, hope will be there right by our sides.

You Are Not Stuck

Have you ever felt that you couldn’t change certain aspects of yourself no matter how hard you tried? Do you keep finding yourself in similar situations over and over again even though you promised yourself that you wouldn’t go down that road again? Sometimes we hit a roadblock in life and it feels like we are truly stuck, it feels like no matter how many moves we make it’s always the wrong one. I’m here to tell you some good news…you are not stuck!

People are generally creatures of habit, we like the same route to work, we keep a similar schedule every day, and habit is what makes us feel comfortable. What if however, our habits are what is holding us back, causing us unhappiness, or giving us a sense of failure. As hard as it can be, you have the power to break the habit, you have the ability to free yourself from being stuck in life, you have the tools to overcome any obstacle that stands in your way. In most cases, the only thing stopping you is yourself!

Often times we make a promise to ourselves to change, we might make a decision to eat better, to exercise, to devote more time to our families, or we may simply be working on a part of ourselves that no longer serves us in life. We may feel that certain situations in life may be preventing us from moving forward and living our true authentic self. No matter how stuck that you feel, there are ways to help you become a better version of yourself and ways to move past certain situations in your life. Sometimes the solution is just taking another step in a different direction, a sort of indirect move that will ultimately land you where you are destined to be.

So often we find ourselves saying that we cannot leave a relationship because we have been with our significant other for many years, we can’t change our job because we don’t know if we have the skills to perform at a job much different than the one have, we cannot stop certain behaviors that we possess even though we know they do not have a positive effect on our lives. Many times we feel stuck because we don’t know what to do, or we may know, but not have the push to actually follow through. As with many things in life, true change takes a lot of hard work and determination.

Part of trying to get through the feeling of being stuck in life is knowing that there will most likely be consequences and sacrifices, but keep your eye on what you are wanting in life, keep your eye on your hopes and dreams and know that if you truly want change in your life, you have the power to do so in some way, shape, or form. Imagine the feeling that you will have when you reach a goal, when you no longer live with the daily burden of feeling trapped. I hope that in some way this gives you a sense of motivation to keep pressing for all that you desire your life to be!

Dancing in the Future

There is a quote by Bil Keane “Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future, but today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present.” For most of our lives, we have been told to live in the present and not focus too much on the past, or future, just live in the moment and enjoy what is in front of us right now. As hard as this is, it really is important in life.

For me personally, especially lately, I have found myself focused more on the future, sometimes the past, and not so much the present. Ideally I would love to change that. How can we enjoy life and live in the moment if we are stuck somewhere else? I think about the past a lot because I enjoy recalling those memories, or wonder how things could have been if I had done things differently, I think about the future because I am excited about what’s to come and curious how things will unfold, yet what I really should focus on is the here and now.

It is great to have goals and great to look to the future and make plans, yet we need to remember the present moment and enjoy all that it has to offer. We can make plans for the future and dream of the kind of life we want, yet things are ever-changing. There’s no harm in dancing in the future, just remember to come back and enjoy today!

Go For It

Most of us have dreams and aspirations that we hope to achieve at some point in our lives. We have this vision of how we would like life to pan out and it probably hasn’t gone exactly as planned. There are deep desires within us, things that we would like in our lives, that would make us feel whole. There is a burning desire to reach our goals and find happiness.

For some of us, our life goal may be the perfect career, marriage, having children, serving our country, going to college, or just making the world a better place to live in. Whatever our goal may be, we find happiness and hope in trying to pursue it. The end result is hopefully eventually fulfilling our dream.

Sometimes life hands us things that we were not prepared for and many of us get busy in our every day lives and put our dreams on hold. Some of us are waiting for that perfect moment to start working towards our dreams…there is no perfect moment! Start now, your life most likely will not play out as you have envisioned, but it will still be beautiful. If you don’t start today, you may miss the opportunity of a lifetime. Go after what you want in life and don’t stop until you get there!