They Just Don’t Care

There’s a type of person that I aspire to be. One who is secure and carefree. One who doesn’t care what the world says and thinks, she’s confident in her skin, ways, and abilities.

She finds strength in silence and does things because she wants to without the need to tell others.

Mystery

There are individuals in this world who some call a “mystery.” They are the ones that may be more on the quieter or introverted side. Ones that don’t share much about their lives, thoughts, and feelings.

I used to be one of these “mystery people,” I had terrible social anxiety and just anxiety in general. I hardly spoke to anyone. Fast-forward to today and I am a lot more extroverted and share a lot more. There is one thing that I miss.

I recall being a lot more centered and calmer prior to becoming extroverted. I did always wonder what I was missing out on, but some parts of me miss the old me that I kept in a bubble.

Others

I have a friend that doesn’t care what others think. She does what she pleases, respects other people, and doesn’t think too deeply about life, she just lives! I admire this so much and to me, she shows much strength.

Many people, including myself, share a good amount about their lives. I also appreciate the beauty in this type of person because they can be open, vulnerable, and be themselves.

Sometimes I almost feel a sort of anxiety or obsession with sharing what is going on in my life and wanting to know what is happening with others. It is nearly impossible and probably not even necessary to do so. The realities of living with OCD I suppose!

Beauty

There is beauty in mystery and silence. There is also a great strength. There is beauty in vulnerability and being able to share and connect with other human beings. There is peace in striving for a balance of the two.

While I still admire the souls that just don’t care and they live their life to the fullest without a care, I also admire those who are just themselves and are living authentically. Every one of us could be a lot happier if we stayed true to who we are.

The world goes round because of the different souls that walk this Earth. No two people are the same and this is what makes life beautiful!

Are You an Earth Angel?

Have you heard of the term Earth Angel? It is a belief that someone is put on this earth to help and guide others. They are in human form; however, they have a great mission to help spread love and hope to others.

By nature, I am a very compassionate person that loves to make other people smile and make them happy. I want to spread positivity and hope to other individuals because I know how hard life is without each of these things. I enjoy lifting people up and offering a helping hand. This is just part of my personality; however, a term was thrown at me a few times that I had previously never heard of, and it had me wondering.

I Became Curious
I am definitely a believer in the afterlife, angels, ghosts, you name it. I have quite a lot of experience with the paranormal and connections with other realms. Over the last several years I have been approached by people that I know as well as complete strangers about the possibility of being an Earth Angel. I thought to myself “what is this? I am definitely not an “angel” though I see myself as a good person overall.” I then asked more questions, and I was told that I have a certain aura surrounding me. Again, I am not familiar with much of this, but it fascinates me, nonetheless.

Curious about the idea of Earth Angels I asked what sort of traits they tend to possess, and I learned the following.

Earth Angels tend to be:

  • Drawn to mystical things
  • Empathetic and sensitive
  • Feeling like they are out of place, or like they don’t belong
  • Very intuitive
  • Loving and caring and want to heal others
  • Drawn to helping others, you feel it’s your duty
  • Feeling emotions very deeply and heavily
  • Very upset in negative situations

Question For You

Can you relate to any of the above? I believe that we are all angels in some way. Each day, we spread a little love and light to others that cross our paths. We uplift, encourage, support, and motivate other people to be the best that they can be. Every kind word and kind gesture has the power to help change the world!

A Comforting Word

I was talking with my mom the other day letting her know that I had some concerns about the future. Normal worries like where we would all end up living, worries about family, just the uncertainty of the future in general.

That’s just it, the future is uncertain for everyone, nonetheless, my mother was a listening ear for me as I vented my worries. She listened carefully to what I had to say and then her response left me instantly feeling better.

My mom told me two things. One, “try not to worry about the future, we need to focus on the here and now.” Two, “everything is going to work out and it will be okay.” The first reply is something that we all know to be true, yet sometimes we need a reminder. The second reply is something that we don’t know for sure to be true, so why was it comforting?

Words have so much power over us, they can make or break us. When we are spiraling down and overcome with emotions, we look to what others have to say to calm our deepest fears. Those little words, “it will be okay,” meant everything to me at this moment.

Our brains work in mysterious ways, if we think logically, we know that it is not certain that everything will be okay. We can be positive, and we can look back on past experiences and realize that most of the time everything did end up being okay, but we know logically that this may not be true.

The words were comforting regardless. Why? Well, because someone told us so and we are more inclined to listen to others than we are to ourselves. Hearing it from someone else makes it a reality and brings back that hope that all is not lost.

For those of you struggling to make ends meet, struggling with mental or physical health, finances, feeling burned out, relationship issues, or issues related to work and unemployment, I want to be that person that tells you that it will all be okay, keep shining and going strong, it will all work out in the end. This is just a little roadblock and what is beyond this bump in the road is more beautiful than we could ever imagine!

Through Thick and Thin

I’ve always heard that finding a true friend is like “finding a needle in a haystack.” The older that I get I believe this to be true. I have a good number of friends and acquaintances, but I can count on one hand the number of friends in my life that I can truly rely on and have proved themselves to be genuine.

When we first meet someone, we get a sense of their energy, and our intuition and gut instincts start to kick in and tell us whether there is a good vibe coming from this person or not. Sometimes two people meet and there is an instant connection and other times we get a strong gut reaction to stay away. It may be difficult to tell who has genuine intentions, but sooner or later the truth usually prevails.

One can get a pretty good sense of someone else’s character fairly quickly. We are keen to pick up on energy, we can see if this individual sticks to their word. Someone who matches their words with actions is typically genuine. Unfortunately, some people are very nice to others, but it is not for the fact of being nice and caring for others, it is more for personal gains. In the beginning, this person may be difficult to spot, but over time their patterns may become more noticeable.

I tend to be someone that likes to see mainly the good in someone and I know that sounds like a positive quality, but it also can hinder your judgment when you are unable to catch signs that someone may be untrue. I am so busy looking for all of the good qualities that someone possesses that I overlook the red flags.

Over the years I have been able to spot a truly genuine person over someone who is not. Someone genuine will try to keep the relationship at 50/50, their words will match their actions, they will truly care about you and ask how you are doing, and they will have your best interest in mind and be on your side and in your corner. A true friend or significant other will show interest in your life.

If you do have a true friend, keep them close as they are few and far between. It is important to note that sometimes friendships shift and dissolve over time, this does not necessarily mean that this individual was not genuine. Even the best of friends are known to become astray and it’s natural for some friendships and relationships to run their course, people just outgrow each other and sometimes this person may have been in your life for just a season or a reason.

After being burned many times by people, I used to spend so much time analyzing others’ behavior and actions to see if they were being authentic, but in hindsight, it’s better to just let things naturally unfold.

As with most things in life, the truth almost always comes out and true colors are often brought to light. For those of you that have a truly genuine soul in your life, hold onto them and never let them go, they are a rare find in this unpredictable world!

Keeping Your Cup Full

Self-care is a word that we hear about often, yet something that many of us don’t remember to do as much as we should. We are so busy with life and we spend so much time taking care of others that we forget to take care of ourselves.

Life keeps us busy and we all have relationships and responsibilities that we must attend to and put energy towards. We may sometimes feel superhuman as we navigate daily challenges and tasks off of our to-do list. Often in the midst of things we forget that energy is not finite, it will run low if not preserved and boosted.

There are many ways and things that you can do to help with self-care, it all depends on what your likes and interests are. Self-care may be as simple as taking yourself out to dinner, getting a new haircut, getting a manicure/pedicure, gardening, cooking a good meal, playing sports, even choosing to stay in one evening to watch shows is self-care.

The importance of taking care of oneself is immense. Our minds and bodies are only capable of so much before we hit a slump, or even a breakdown, it’s very important to listen to your mind and body and to know when to slow down and take time for yourself. When you practice good self-care, you are physically and mentally at your best and you keep your cup full. It is only when you yourself are “full” that you are able to do your best in life and also give your best in life. We can’t possibly take care of others, or the demands of life without taking care of ourselves first! This is a reminder to do something that you love, something that makes you happy, something that helps you relax today!