Left Unsaid

Communication is the basis of all human relationships and human interactions in general. When we communicate with others, we do so verbally and non-verbally. Sometimes it’s the non-verbal cues that give more meaning than what is actually being said. We have the choice to say as much, or as little as we want to, but sometimes leaving the important things left unsaid has the potential to create many problems.

Some things are better left unsaid, this includes anything that someone might take offense to, anything unkind, or hurtful should not be said. There are other instances where speaking up and saying what is on your mind and in your heart is vital and could make or break relationships that you have with other people.

I have gotten better with time, but I am guilty of not always sharing what I should be. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely stand up for myself, maybe a little too much sometimes, but I do struggle with sharing what’s on my mind with others and I have ended up in some bad situations because of it. Communication really is key and is highly valuable and important. Every situation where we feel like we have not done all that we could have, or we feel that we could have approached the issue in a better way, helps us grow and learn.

unsaid2

We may be afraid to say certain things to others for many reasons. We might be afraid of judgement, rejection, hurting people’s feelings, we may fear losing someone, when in actuality we may lose them to not communicating our needs and wants effectively. Not speaking from your heart and trying to cover up, or ignore issues only leads to resentment and relationships can quickly spiral down from there.

When we say what is bothering us, or what is on our minds, we free ourselves. It is a heavy weight to carry something unsaid around with you, it weighs on your mind and heart. So many of life’s issues and situations can be solved with effective communication.

Like I mentioned before, some things are better left unsaid, but others are not. If there is something weighing on you, something you can’t get out of your mind, something that has put distance between you and a loved one, it’s never too late to try to mend, or make a relationship better. Don’t leave anything important to you left…unsaid.

unsaid1

29 thoughts on “Left Unsaid

  1. A thought provoking post, J! And your post reminded me of this quote I read long time ago – β€œThe things left unsaid to people we care about, and the void those unspoken words leave, often have more impact than what is said.”

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Beautifully written! Everything you said really resonated with me! As you know I hate leaving things left unsaid so I will always get it off my chest for the need to be free! Sometimes I have held back due to how the other may feel but to be honest, as long as you clarify the need for it to be said they should hopefully be willing to understand where you are coming from too! Thanks for this wonderful piece x

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Your sweet comments always make my day! Thank you so very much ❀ I was inspired to write this post due to a situation that happened three years ago that wasn’t resolved the proper way and I still think about it to this day. The freedom that comes with expression is so amazing and brings peace in one’s life, I’m glad you are good at speaking your mind! Thanks for your support as always 😘

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Relatable post! Growing up in an Asian household, I guess it’s a part of our culture to let things go and not talking about issues, and admittedly, it has left me with a lot of feelings of regret. It’s a hard thing to unlearn habits that you have grown to get used to and it’s scary to speak up but sometimes there are words and messages that are more important than those negative feelings. I’m still trying to learn this as well. Thank you for sharing, J! Love your post as always!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Fen πŸ’— Thank you so much for sharing part of your story. It’s pretty amazing how much childhood has an effect on the rest of our lives. You are so right, it’s really hard to break the habits that come naturally to us. The only thing we can do is to keep trying! Thank you so much for reading and for your comment 😊😊

      Like

  4. A great reminder! I talk about this in my book. Taking the opportunity to say what we need to say while we have the opportunity is so important. When the opportunity is suddenly taken away from us we are only left with the regret that we didn’t take that opportunity while we had it.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. What a huge accomplishment, congratulations again on your book! That is so true, regret is the word to describe it. All we can do is live and learn, but those situations stay with us. Thank you for your comment!

      Like

  5. Very well written ! I think we all get so clustered with our own thoughts and stop expressing to our own friends! A good communication is always healthy to maintain friendship and moving with life ! πŸ˜€

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s