Rose-Colored Glasses

Recall the phrase “to see things through rose-colored glasses.” This positive look to life is not always to our benefit as ironic as it sounds. The phrase itself means to view, or to see life positively, seeing the good, being optimistic, being more carefree. While it is an excellent way of going through life, there needs to be a balance of seeing the good vs. seeing the full picture.

For most of my adult life, I have been more of the glass half-full, positive, happy, optimistic kind of girl. Of course depending on what life throws at me, I will definitely have my days, but overall I tend to remain mostly positive. In terms of this phrase, I do tend to see life and the people in it through “rose-colored glasses”. I can tell you firsthand that although most of the time this is a great approach in life, it has caused quite a few problems as well.

I am a firm believer in being positive and looking on the bright side of things and while this is in my nature, it is also self-taught, and was instilled in me at a young age. I feel like when I encounter situations, or people in life, I view them as seeing the good by fault. Of course, I realize that not all situations are good and neither are all people, but it is in my nature to hone in on the good so much that I tend to cover up the bad. This is something that I would like to change, so that I can develop more of a sense of what is real and genuine vs. only seeing the good. I feel like you can’t really go wrong with looking for the positives in certain situations, except maybe when you allow yourself to stay in a bad situation because you are only looking at the pluses. Where I feel this would really help me is when dealing with other people.

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When I first meet someone and start to get to know them, I of course see both the good and human sides to them, no one is perfect, or without flaws, however I tend to just focus on their good traits, so much so that I may let that overshadow signs that they may not be a loyal or genuine person. It’s almost like me telling myself “This person has been there for me in the past and just because they are doing x, y, and z now, doesn’t mean that they are not genuine.” It’s like I see signs, but I try to focus only on the good that person has done for me and that is sometimes a mistake.

My hope is to be able to see people for who they really are, good and bad, not only just focusing on the good. There have been signs thrown at me here and there, yet I tend to choose to counteract it, sometimes I even negate it. One day at a time and one lesson at a time, I will work on it. It’s wonderful to view life with rose-colored glasses, but make sure to take them off once in a while!

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26 thoughts on “Rose-Colored Glasses

  1. I feel like I’m pretty much the same! I tend to keep positive and see things in the best way possible. When I do have down days or when things aren’t going right I try to remind myself that better days are coming. I think having these ‘glasses’ on makes it easier to get through life but it remains a huge privilege to have. If you get what I mean 😂

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    1. LOL there is definitely more positive that comes from it, for me it’s hard to see things as they are sometimes, but positivity and looking on the bright side are important! 😄 Thank you for your response ❤

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  2. I think i’m the exact opposite. I tend to focus on the negative so much but i’m trying my best to see things in a positive light. I think it’s amazing how you tend to see things with rose colored glasses! Never think otherwise xx

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  3. Hi J,
    Nice to meet you here.
    I can identify with what you are saying here. I know there is good in everyone but I often also am blinded to the ‘bad’. I feel quite comfortable with the word good but perhaps not the word bad.
    May go back to my upbringing.
    Thanks for sharing & keep well .
    🙂💁🏻‍♀️

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    1. Aww thank you for your sweet comment! I haven’t always been this way, I mean for the most part, but of course I have my moments, we all do. It is definitely more of a positive thing, but gets me in trouble sometimes in terms of life and people, not seeing them fully. Thanks for your support Fen 💜

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  4. I can relate to this post, like you when I meet someone and start to get to know them, I of course see both the good and human sides to them, no one is perfect I agree. And I have no idea how to judge people without knowing them or talking to them.

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    1. Thank you for reading and glad that you could relate! It’s good seeing life and people in this way, just have to make sure that we look at the full picture, so we know who is genuine! Thanks for your support 😊💝

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  5. Absolutely…. if a person has learnt to accept his/herself, both flaws/frailties,good and the bad. It comes natural to accept others the same way. We must learn to accept the totality of who we are. That’s self value and self-acceptance. Thanks for sharing.xoxo

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  6. Omg I literally am the same! I am always overlooking “pink” flags which I known could possibly turn red. Or shall I say “rose” lol. Honestly I try to look at the good in people always and make allowances and ended up in intolerable situations. I really need to start being a bit of savage now! Loved the ending of your post!! I’m happy you keep learning x

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    1. Lol your response made me laugh with the pink and rose flags 🤣🤗 It is so true though, interesting how you are the same way! It really can get you into some bad situations and make it hard to find the genuine people. I’m trying girl, trying to learn and get better at recognizing. What’s been a habit your whole life is hard to break, but it can happen! Thank you as always for reading and commenting and for your support. Xoxo 💕💕

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      1. Haha yea it is true! It’s can happen even though we are not wanting it to! Like I said I guess we just have to be a little bit savage from now! Nope nope nope any time u see something you don’t like 🤷🏽‍♀️ you’re welcome love x

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      2. We need to take a savage class lol. Yes, good point. I really related to the making allowances for people statement you made because I do that too, I just kind of minimize it and think that it happened for some other reason.

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