Do you ever feel like the whole world has its eyes on you, watching your every move, decisions, and mistakes? Well, to put it simply, most of the time they don’t. We are the center of our lives and we are so in tune with ourselves and what is happening to us that we feel like the whole world is just as in tuned to us as we are. The truth is, everyone is involved in their own lives and is not focusing, or watching us as closely as we perceive them to be.
There is no one that knows us better than ourselves, we know ourselves very deeply. We know all of our needs, fears, desires, we have lived through all of our past experiences and that has molded us to create beliefs about ourselves, beliefs that we feel other people have about us also. In reality, other people do not see us how we see ourselves, they do not know us on the same deep level.
How many times were you surprised by the response of others, where you thought they were thinking one way, but it turns out that it was the opposite? For example, you have just finished giving a presentation at work, you feel like you blew it, like it was a failure, you think of all of the things that you forgot to say, yet when it’s over, you get amazing feedback from your coworkers. Think of when you got a haircut that you didn’t like, or a minor imperfection that you have that you feel like the whole world notices, think of how many times you have brought those minor imperfections up to people and they respond by saying “Oh, I didn’t even notice until you said something!” All of these examples show that we are entirely more focused on ourselves than other people are.
In the world of psychology, there is a concept known as The Spotlight Effect, it basically states that we feel like we are being watched and observed far more than is actually happening. I know that as a teenager I felt like I was always in the spotlight, always being observed and judged, but so did others of my age. I still feel this way sometimes now as an adult, but I am so much more relaxed and I try to live life for me and not worry what others are thinking or saying about me.
I hope that this post has helped you in some way and that it reminds you to live your own life freely, be 100% you, and do what you love. You are at the center stage of your own life and your audience couldn’t see you in a more brighter light!