“You have three types of friends in life: friends for a reason, friends for a season, and friends for a lifetime.” – Ziad K. Abdelnour. Do you ever just sit and ponder life and the past? Maybe you think about past relationships, friendships, jobs, a particularly exciting time, or milestone in life. Sometimes we think of how things could have turned out, or we question if things could have worked out with a certain someone if we had approached things differently.
People come and go, it is a part of life, not one that is easy to accept, but one that does unfortunately happen. When I was younger, losing a friend felt like the end of the world, it filled me with such sadness. I often wondered if there was anything that could have been done to save the friendship, or wondered if I had done something wrong, the same goes for romantic relationships. I would say to myself “If only I had communicated more,” “If only x,y, and z, didn’t bother me so much.”
Now that I am older, I see a loss of friendships and even relationships in a new light. It is still painful to no longer have someone in your life, but I look at it in a different way and that brings me peace. I truly believe that what is meant to be in our lives will always be. There is nothing that can take away someone or something in our lives that is meant to be there.
Ziad K. Abdelnour’s quote that I mentioned in the intro of this post is really beautiful and I find to be so true. He explains that friends come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. This is true for all people and things in our lives in my opinion. I really believe that certain people are put in our lives for a reason, they are here to teach us, strengthen us, and help us grow. Some people in our lives are here for a season for the same purpose. Not all people in our lives today are meant to stay there for the long haul. My belief is that certain people cross our path for a special and particular purpose. Lastly, we have the friends that are meant to be with us for life, the “family” that we choose, the ones who have been there through everything.
I believe that we should definitely do all that we can do to save a friendship or relationship that we value, however if it feels like you are doing all of the work, try to remember that anything that you have to force probably isn’t supposed to be there in the first place. As hard as having friendships fade over time is, I hope that you find peace in knowing that some people were not always meant to stay in your life, but you will always have the memories, lessons, and you will have experienced growth.
truly what is meant to be in our lives will always be, and we must try to save things beutiful as emotions.
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Exactly, the emotions and memories will last, thank you for stopping by!
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Exactly! When it’s only you who is making efforts to save any relationship, it’s time to stop.
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Yes, absolutely! Thank you as always for your continued support ๐
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I totally agree with the whole season thing coz I realised I met certain people who helped me get through different situations and then I didnโt really see them much after that but I still appreciate them!
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It is pretty crazy, I know exactly what you are talking about. Appreciate your comment! โค
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I really loved this! I agree that friends come into our lives for different reasons, they might not stay with us forever but we learn from each friendship and relationship, and sometimes itโs best for us that some friendships end. The ones thatโs truly best for us will last a lifetime!
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Oh my goodness what a surprise! You found me over here didn’t you Panda! ๐๐ฅฐ Thank you!! It means so much to me that you stopped by ๐ค I appreciate your support
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This reminded me of the saying “People come and they go”. As hard as it is to accept, it’s simply the harsh truth about most relationships. What’s important is investing on lasting relationships! Great post!
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Thank you so very much! You are absolutely right ๐๐ I appreciate you reading and taking the time to comment!
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You’re welcome!
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Damn!! So true!! ๐โฃ๏ธ
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Thank you so much for reading! Glad that you could relate ๐๐
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Very, very true. I enjoyed this post…Thanks for writing it. Happy Sunday to you ๐
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That means so much to me, thank you!! ๐ I appreciate you reading and I’m very glad that you enjoyed it. Have a great Sunday as well!
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Very well written! I feel the same way!
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Aww thank you so much for your sweet message! I appreciate you stopping by and taking the time to read ๐
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No problem! I am a new blogger if you could have a quick read of my content I’d really appreciate it ๐
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I am actually reading it now! You have great work ๐ค Keep it up and congratulations on your blog!
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Such relatable stuff! Relationships are ever changing, but the lessons we learn from each one stay indelible with us..
Written something similar,
https://notjustanidea.wordpress.com/2020/01/23/maybe-maybe/
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I agree with you on that! I will go check out your link right now! Thank you for sharing it and also thank you for taking the time to read and comment ๐
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Thank you:))
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So poignant and well written. I love how you began this post reflecting on how you might have approached the loss of a friendship when you were younger vs. older. Certainly “anything that you have to force probably isnโt supposed to be there in the first place” can be a difficult but worthwhile lesson to learn.
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Aww thank you so very much for such kind feedback, I greatly appreciate you reading and I’m really glad that you enjoyed this post! ๐
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