I Should Have

Life leaves us with many questions. We spend much of our day going through the motions and trying to do the best we can with what life presents to us.

Being human is not easy! We deal with a lot of situations, trials, roadblocks, detours, we deal with pain, and a brain that feels like it’s on a never-ending hamster wheel.

Thankfully, on the contrary, we also have beauty, resilience, love, determination, and strength, and we are learning to be better every day.

A Common Phrase 

I notice myself saying “I should have” so often…too often. Possibly even daily. I found myself saying this a lot just this morning and it doesn’t give me the best feeling. 

Why am I saying this over and over? Are there regrets? Am I not confident? Is it because I am human? Could it be because I wonder what COULD have been? I pondered the answer and I suppose it’s a mix of all.

After I do something or make a decision, you can most likely find me saying “I should have done x,y, or z instead.”

My Thought Process 

I am a very deep thinker and observer. I am always in thought, which is exhausting. I am very much an over-thinker.

When I make a decision, I am always wondering what would have happened if I chose a different path or made a different decision. Sometimes I wish that I could foresee the future to know how a situation will play out. Don’t we all!

This way of thinking is detrimental and also against one of my favorite phrases “everything happens for a reason.”

Let’s Change This Around

If I want to be more confident in my decisions, I need to change my mindset. This may help you as well!

I truly do believe that everything happens for a reason and that in time we will have what we need and want. I believe that we may stray from the life path that has been laid out for us, but something will always bring us back to where we are meant to be.

It’s natural to wonder, but we can’t possibly know the answer to everything, nor should we. At the moment, we make the best decision that is right for us and we move forward. What will be, will be!

Worst case scenario, we end up in a place that doesn’t suit us and we can then make further decisions on how to remedy that.

The Takeaway 

Life is all about making decisions, taking risks, and figuring out what is best for us along the way.

We can’t be so afraid that we don’t live. Fear shouldn’t be what controls us, we are smart and capable and in the end, most things work out even if there is a long dark tunnel to get there.

I encourage you to practice this with me! Let’s stop thinking about what could or should be and let’s focus on what IS!

Your Words Are My Escape

There is a person that can take me away, paint an image in my head for me to get lost in, and a person that can help me escape reality for a bit.

Who is this person, you might ask? That person is…YOU!

There are a few ways that we can get lost in another world. One that can take us away from our daily lives and routines so that we can unwind and relax for a bit. Reading, writing, art, and watching TV come to mind instantly.

Reading Your Work

I spend a lot of time enjoying the work of others. I love to read what other people have experienced, and what they have learned in life, and I love lighthearted reads as well. I enjoy learning about other people and learning about their deepest thoughts and feelings.

I find it amazing how we can all come together as a writing community and learn so much from each other. The support that it offers is amazing. It is a huge blessing to be able to share your thoughts with the world and to have that reciprocated by others doing the same.

Thank You

I want to say thank you to those who have written about their lives to help and inspire me, those that have shared their beautiful and heartfelt poetry, and the writers that have shared their traveling experiences that let me venture along with you! I want to say thank you to those who shared their delicious recipes, who shared family memories, and traditions that made me smile and reminisce.

A big thank you to those who help me realize that we are all works of progress and that I am not alone, the ones that bring humor to remind me to laugh and not take life so seriously. The lovely writers who are also photographers who take breathtaking photos to share with the world!

There is so much talent within this community. You all have helped shape me as a person and as a writer. I enjoy all of your talented work and I appreciate how you let me escape reality for a bit each and every day! You are making a difference!

The Power of Peppermint

There are a few lovely scents that come to mind this time of year, one of them is peppermint!

Peppermint is one of those flavors that some people do not like. I love the taste of peppermint, but some of my loved ones are not a fan.

Peppermint has many great uses and properties. For those that don’t like the taste, if you enjoy the smell, peppermint oil can have a similar effect!

Uses For Peppermint

  1. This herb can help relieve headaches. I have a peppermint essential oil roll-on that I rub on my temples when I get a headache, it works wonders!
  2. Peppermint can reduce stress and anxiety. Just the smell alone is enough to help with this but consuming and/or applying it to your skin helps as well. Sometimes when I’m feeling stressed or anxious, I will use my essential oil roll-on, or eat a few mints.
  3. It can make you feel fresh and clear your mind. I love mints and peppermint chewing gum. Whenever I have these, the smell and taste are so invigorating, it really peps up my mind! I find the taste very refreshing and pleasant.
  4. Peppermint can quell queasiness. It has helped me with morning sickness, indigestion, and helped me tremendously when feeling nauseous.

A Christmas Scent

Peppermint always reminds me of Christmas and the holiday season! This is another reason why I love the taste and scent.

The ever-popular candy cane has been a holiday tradition for many years. They are eaten for fun, hung on Christmas trees, and even tied to a gift or card. Just seeing a candy cane makes me happy because of the memories associated with it!

Peppermint Joy

Enjoy a candy cane or get lost in the aroma of peppermint essential oil and see where it takes you!

Santa Claus and Cinnamon Rolls

The holiday season is getting into gear! The roads are busier, the stores are more crowded, and many people seem jollier than they usually are.

Traditions are being honored as we make our way through this joyous and magical season. Christmas trees are being assembled, gifts are being bought, and family traditions are about to take place in a matter of weeks.

The Mall

When I was little, my mom took my sister and I to the mall every year to see Santa Claus. We sat on his lap a few times to express our Christmas wish list, but we mainly went just to see him and watch him interact with all of the children.

We were always so excited to witness Santa Claus right there in the mall! The jolly man who made our lives happier and left his magic was right there in front of us.

My mom would take us into some stores to see all of the toys and be a part of the holiday hustle and bustle. It was a very exciting experience for us each year. The mall was beautifully decorated with wreaths, a large Christmas tree, and adorned with Christmas lights.

A Special Treat

After our mall tour and our visit with Santa, it was time for our traditional mall treat!

We made our way over to the Cinnabon. My mom ordered three cinnamon rolls, one for each of us and she ordered an iced coffee.

We sat at the table and looked through the glass at the staff making our delicious cinnamon rolls! We watched them roll out the dough, sprinkle on cinnamon and sugar, and then roll it up perfectly into a log. The dough was then cut to make separate rolls and placed in the oven. Watching this was an experience all in itself!

A Delicious Memory 

Smiles were all around as the cinnamon rolls were brought to our table covered in delicious, gooey white frosting. My mom had her iced coffee and she let us take a few sips, we loved it!

This tradition of Santa and cinnamon rolls quickly became one that was carried out every year. As we got older, we stopped this tradition, but the wonderful memories live on.

Every Christmas and holiday season, I think of this tradition with my mom and sister, we still talk about it today. I now have children of my own and I carry this tradition on with them every year. Mom even comes sometimes as well!

Whatever traditions you have, keep them alive. They will fuel happiness for many years to come!

A Message in the Shower

Yesterday started out pretty normal. I got up, did my morning routine, and then had breakfast. I was cold, so I decided to take shower. I usually shower in the evening, but this cold weather made it the perfect opportunity.

I find a hot shower so relaxing, and it is a place where I can escape and leave my worries for a little while.


Lately, I seem to be living in the past or the future, so I decided to take this time to be present in this moment. I turned my focus to the shower. The warm water, the steam, the sound of the water hitting the shower floor.

I instantly felt calmer and more centered as I practiced being mindful of the moment that I was in right now.

Time Had Come

The time had come to return back to reality. I grabbed my towel off of the shower door to dry off and my mouth dropped open as I stared at the misty glass.

I stared for what felt like a few minutes as I was in shock. There were the letters “D…A…V…E” all written in a jagged line going down the shower door. The condensation was thick, but these letters to me were plain as day with no mistaking them!

If you remember from a previous camping story, Dave (name has been changed), was my very dear friend of many years whom I shared many life experiences with. He was a wonderful person with a heart of gold. He passed away sadly a few years ago. His loss has been felt deeply.

Dave’s Message to Me

I sat in awe and tears filled my eyes. My gaze followed the letters up and down the shower glass as I stood there in amazement. I was shocked to see the letters of his name. They were all in order, but not in a straight line, then ran almost diagonal.

In the past, he and many of my other departed loved ones have visited me from beyond. I have had a tremendous number of paranormal experiences. I am very fortunate to be in tune with life beyond this one. The signs that I have been given in the past have been incredible. Some are general and some are very specific to the person who passed.

Dave has written his name in the clouds for me before. I believe this is partly why he chose to put the letters of his name there on the shower door. Also, since I receive signs regularly from the departed, I am thinking that he wanted to make sure that I knew it was him specifically.

It Clicked!

I sat and thought about why he chose to visit me at that very moment. I didn’t care, either way, I was just gracious for the unbelievable moment, but when I thought about it, I came up with two very interesting connections.

Dave was huge on practicing mindfulness; he had a way about him that lit up a room. He could turn the darkest days into the light. He had such a great outlook and perspective on life, and he was able to help anyone he met in some way with his sunny demeanor. Dave practiced mindfulness daily and he was a huge believer in going with the flow and letting life unfold the way that it should. I sure do miss him; I am crying as I write this story.

Not only do I believe that he visited me because I chose to take a moment for mindfulness, but it is the month of December and he, unfortunately, passed away a few years ago in December. Fitting these two connections together was just amazing to me.

Take A Closer Look

There are signs all around us, some are obvious and others we may have to dig a bit and search around, but they are there! I believe that the spiritual world is always trying to connect with us on some level.

I have always believed in the paranormal and when I started having experiences when I was a young child and even more now as an adult, my belief is even more solidified.

I find so much peace in the fact that I strongly feel that there is a beautiful life that awaits us beyond this one. The fact that loved ones can reach us here in this realm makes it even more amazing. Look around you and see what sort of signs the world is trying to tell you; it might just leave you in awe!